Why Living with People Is So Difficult !!!

The most difficult thing to do is to live in peace and harmony with people.It is, perhaps, easier to live with birds and animals. Why is living withpeople a problem?

We know that fire is hot and we accept that fact. If we are burnt by
touching fire, we do not blame it. If a whole house is burnt down, we may condemn other factors or blame our negligence, but would accept fire as it is. Its place is undeniable and it is not rejected. Similarly, we accept the coolness of ice, the beauty of flowers, fruits, trees and plants. Again, if we are admiring a beautiful, full moon and someone else comes and starts appreciating it, we don`t say, "Why are you looking at my moon? You have no
right to see it!" There is no sense of ownership, no possessiveness; there is acceptance without any projection of likes and dislikes.

The Bhagavad Gita says that a wise person moves everywhere with love and affection. Like the wind blowing freely, he does not get attached to anything. He accepts all. Sometimes people behave nicely, sometimes they donʼt.This neither elates nor depresses the wise person. "Such a man of wisdom lives with his senses under control, free from personal likes and dislikes,and therefore, enjoys every object, place, situation and person".

Also, we find it difficult to live with people because we have too many expectations of them. If I expect something of another, that person may also expect something of me. Furthermore, I am unable to fulfill my own expectations of myself. I want to do so many things, but I am unable to do them. Thus, we feel disappointed and frustrated with ourselves, and aggrieved or upset with others when they fail to satisfy our expectations. I saw a sticker that said, "Don`t try to change me. Accept me as I am".It is important to understand the message clearly and completely. The message is that one should accept the fact as it is. Then if a change is necessary, try to make that change, but do not insist on it.

Every parent wants the child to perform well and excel whether in sports or in studies.
There is nothing wrong with that. But, to expect something that may not be possible for the child to do, and unnecessarily apply pressure and force will cause frustration to all.

When one is living with people it may not be possible to have no
expectations at all, so one should have reasonable expectations. An
artistically inclined child with no aptitude for commerce should not be forced into the family business. Expectations should be reasonable and based on knowledge and wisdom.

As far as nature or the moon is concerned, we do not feel a sense of
ownership or possessiveness. But with regard to people this feeling is deep-seated and can be very destructive. What we need to have is love and affection. Along with that there should be freedom and space, too.

Two hands joined together leave a gap and can be easily separated.
Similarly, we should give space to people. Often we hear people say, "Give me some space please!" If you love a bird, will you cage it and expect it to be happy? It is not possible to love someone and also confine them in that love.

How to become a STAR?

To become a STAR PERFORMER, just remember four points:

S- STOP

T- THINK

A- ACTION/ ACT

R- REVIEW

If you want to become a STAR then start yourself from “S”, Before doing any task just STOP for a while and analyze what your employer expect from you? THINK and plan your activity to achieve your goal and then put your plan into ACTION. Perform whatever you plan to achieve your goal. After completion of your activity never forget to REVIEW your activity/ performance.

Definitely you will become STAR PERFORMER !!!

Power of Positive Talk

I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age. Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success.

One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little eight-year-old brain didn't realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.

My older cousin, Tammy, was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy's mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad's voice over the wind yell, "Bart, Hold on tightly." So I did. The next thing I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree.

I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, when Tammy's mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, "Tammy, don't fall!" And Tammy did... fall.

My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image. In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.

This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can't visualize not doing something. The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that. For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn't get it together at that age. I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, "Don't drop it!" Naturally, I dropped the ball.

My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper "self-talk." They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn't. I'll never make it pro, but I'm now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career.

Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary. Ask them to hold a pen or pencil. Hand it to them. Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them, "Okay, try to drop the pencil." Observe what they do.

Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor. You respond, "You weren't paying attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please do it again." Most people then pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil.

The point is made.

If you tell your brain you will "give it a try," you are actually telling your brain to fail. I have a "no try" rule in my house and with everyone I interact with. Either people will do it or they won't. Either they will be at the party or they won't. I'm brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they think I don't know they are really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort? You will never hear the words "I'll try" come out of my mouth unless I'm teaching this concept in a seminar.

If you "try" and do something, your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed. If I truly can't make a decision I will tell the truth. "Sorry John. I'm not sure if I will be at your party or not. I've got an outstanding commitment. If that falls through, I will be here. Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite."

People respect honesty. So remove the word "try" from your vocabulary.

My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. I have no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism.

These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children.

Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms. Heck, I know you are talking to yourself all day long. We all have internal voices that give us direction.

So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you shortchanging yourself with toxic self-talk like, " I'm fat. Nobody will like me. I'll try this diet. I'm not good enough. I'm so stupid. I'm broke, etc. etc."

If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue. Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words.

Notice when you or other people use them.

Ø But: Negates any words that are stated before it.
Ø Try: Presupposes failure.
Ø If: Presupposes that you may not.
Ø Might: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener.
Ø Would Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.
Ø Should Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt.)
Ø Could Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.
Ø Can't Don't: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.

Examples:
Toxic phrase: "Don't drop the ball!"
Likely result: Drops the ball
Better language: "Catch the ball!"

Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television."
Likely result: Watches more television.
Better language: "I read too much television makes people stupid. You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!"

Exercise: Take a moment to write down all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic self-talk that you have noticed yourself using. Write these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself as they occur and change them.

Five Questions That Help You Make the Most of Your Time

Questions have the power to instantly change your focus and put you into a productive frame of mind.

These five simple time management questions will immediately direct your attention, your focus, and your thinking toward your top priorities and away from distractions.

Just ask yourself these questions habitually throughout the day, and you will start making better use of your time.

1. What is the most valuable use of my time right now?

This is a slight variation of a question developed by time management expert Alan Lakein.

The purpose of this question is to shift your focus to what is most important and valuable at this moment. It is a perfect question to ask whenever you are unsure about what to do next, whenever you face an unexpected interruption, or whenever you feel that you are not making good use of your time.

For example, let's say you find yourself with an extra 20 minutes of unscheduled time. Asking yourself "What is the most valuable use of my time right now?" will help you find an important task for the time you have available.

2. What am I ultimately trying to accomplish?

The purpose of this question is to focus your thinking on your real objectives and goals -- the real reasons you are working on your projects and task

Asking this question habitually will help you avoid getting sidetracked, drifting into trivia, or falling into perfectionism. You can use this powerful question for all your projects.

For example, while preparing a presentation, you can easily get sucked into less valuable work when you start playing with the formatting, or adding bells and whistles, instead of working on the content.

The work seems important because it is connected to your presentation project, but when you take a closer look, you realize that you are wasting your time on details that don't really matter.

Asking this question will help you refocus your efforts on your real objectives and away from trivial matters. If it turns out that the formatting details are important for this project, you'll recognize this as well and give them the attention they deserve.

This question can also help you find and eliminate useless tasks that don't contribute toward your ultimate goals.

3. What am I giving up to do this?

Whenever you choose to do something, you automatically reject everything else you could have done during that time.

The purpose of this question is to help you realize what you are giving up in order to undertake a task or project. Once you recognize the true cost of an activity, you may decide that it is not how you really want to spend your time.

Asking this question before you take on a new task or project will help you stay focused on what really matters. It will also help you recognize when you should be saying no to that new request.

You should also ask this question about activities that you are already doing on a regular basis. These could be things like volunteering to do some work for your trade association, chairing a committee, or serving on the board of a community organization.

While all of these things may be valuable undertakings, you may be sacrificing something even more important to do them. Asking "What am I giving up to do this?" may turn out to be a real eye opener.

You probably wouldn't consciously sacrifice time with your family in order to participate in a committee you don't care about, but you might be doing it by default if you don't examine your existing commitments on a regular basis.

4. What are my three most important projects or tasks today?

The purpose of this question is to help you make use of the 80/20 rule every day. The 80/20 rule states that 80 percent of the value is contained in only 20 percent of the items. The top two or three projects and tasks in any given day could account for up to 80 percent of your day's value, so give them the time and priority they deserve.

If you practice weekly planning, you can change this question to "What are the three most important projects for this week?"

5. Should I continue doing this?

This is a slight variation of the first two questions, but shifts the focus toward what to stop doing rather than what to start doing.

Deciding to stop doing something that is no longer valuable is often more important than actually deciding to start doing something else.

This is a perfect question to ask whenever you feel you may be wasting time trying to perfect something that should already be done, or when you feel stuck in a commitment that is no longer serving your long-term objectives.

Keys to Success:

* Make it a habit. At first, you'll have to keep reminding yourself to ask these questions over and over again. However, if you keep asking consistently, eventually they will become a habit that will serve you for the rest of your life.

* Use these three steps whenever you have to make a time management decision: pause to think before you react, use questions to put you in the right frame of mind, and do the right thing.

* Keep asking until you get an answer. Sometimes you won't get an answer to these questions right away; just keep asking while you review your projects and task. The right answer will come.

make happiness to happen...

You don't have to wait for something great to happen to be happy. You don't need a reason. All you need is to make a decision that's what you want to be and every day. As I said, what you focus on expands.

If you're watching something funny and laughing are you feeling stressed or at that moment feeling happy.

Check this out. For just a moment, close your eyes sit up straight, relax your shoulders, open your arms wide as if you're going to hug someone, take a deep breath and smile. How do you feel? Have a feeling of lightness, energy!

Now, hunch your shoulders, make your hands into fists, take some short quick breaths and frown. How does it feel to do this? Feel your energy draining?

All you did was make a decision! You can do this every day. Over the years, I've often heard from people, well when I have........ ......... ..I'll be happy, if I could do.......... ........I would be happy. And as I told them, no you wouldn't. It might make you more comfortable however it would not necessarily make you feel happier.

Happiness is something we create from the inside and can occur whatever your situation. People who are penniless and homeless can be happy if that's what they decide or you can have all the material things in the world, money, cars, clothes and homes and still be unhappy. I know from the latter that it's true. I had most of the material things 25 years ago and I still wasn't happy.

Now I set an intention each day that no matter what, I'm going to have a happy day. I encourage you to do this for atleast one week. See if you feel lighter at the weeks end and then continue doing the same. Laugh each day, enjoy everything around you and be very grateful that you have the life you are living. You see, it really is all about a state of mind.

when you thought I wasn't looking...

A message every adult should read, because children are watching you and doing as you do, not as you say.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you hang my first painting on the refrigerator, and I immediately wanted to paint another one.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you feed a stray cat, and I learned that it was good to be kind to animals.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you make my favorite cake for me and I learned that the little things can be the special things in life.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I heard you say a prayer, and I knew there is a God I could always talk to and I learned to trust in God.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you make a meal and take it to a friend who was sick, and I learned that we all have to help take care of each other.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you give of your time and money to help people who had nothing and I learned that those who have something should give to those who don't.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you take care of our house and everyone in it and I learned we have to take care of what we are given.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw how you handled your responsibilities, even when you didn't feel good and I learned that I would have to be responsible when I grow up.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw tears come from your eyes and I learned that sometimes things hurt, but it's all right to cry.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw that you cared and I wanted to be everything that I could be.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I learned most of life's lessons that I need to know to be a good and productive person when I grow up.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I looked at you and wanted to say, "Thanks for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn't looking."

LITTLE EYES SEE A LOT.

Each of us (parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, teacher or friend) influence the life of a child.

Attitudes of Successful Learners

1. "I can."
This is the most basic of all attitudes. We simply must choose to believe that we can learn. In our house we are not allowed to say, "I can't." We can say, "I'll try," or "I tried and failed," but not "I can't." Telling yourself that you can't will in effect make it so. But telling yourself that you can, will in effect enable you to learn much more. Even if you actually only achieve 50% of what you tell yourself, you will achieve at least that much more than if you told yourself you couldn't. So many people were told at a young age that they couldn't learn. Many others were allowed to engage in that kind of negative self talk (tell themselves, "I can't learn", "I don't understand", I'll never get this", etc.) and their parents and teachers didn't intervene. This enabled them to develop the "I can't" attitudes that become self-fulfilling prophecies.

I actually have a standard way of going about getting myself off of the starting block. I simply say if somebody else has achieved great learning heights, then I can too. I have to be smarter than at least one of those who has already done it. I have to be able to work harder than at least one other. There has to be at least one other person who has come from more difficult circumstances than me. And if they can do it then certainly, "I can!"

2. "This is a long-term approach."
Learning isn't something that happens overnight. Yes, you can learn individual facts, but the real growth comes when you see your learning build on itself and compound for years, when your knowledge meets up with your experience. When we take the attitude that it all has to happen immediately, we hurt ourselves in the long run because the fact is that it takes time to learn (even though we can accelerate it). If we expect it to happen immediately and it doesn't, then we can get frustrated and stop learning altogether.

Instead, we need to take a long-term view just as we do in financial matters, weight management, leadership, etc. Long-term thinking, including our learning is always the best way to go for success.

3. "Learning is valuable."
Some people have a "learning schmearning - who needs learning" attitude. They think that learning is overrated. I hate to tell you this, but not only was that wrong 5000, 500 and 50 years ago, it is especially wrong today. We live in the information age. We must gain knowledge and the ability to apply that knowledge if we are going to be successful. We must tell ourselves and cultivate the attitude that learning is valuable and that it will affect our lives.

4. "I will make a difference in the lives of those around me."
People who soar are generally people who have the attitude of helping other people. Yes, they may do it for monetary gain, but they are others-focused. They want to change the way people live and experience life for the better. They are difference makers all around. This is the same in what we learn. We learn first for ourselves, but then with the goal of taking what we have learned, and what we make of ourselves, and we then help others to do the same

Start Your Day With Happiness !!!

Happiness, Love, Luck...... Are you looking for that? Then be ready to commit yourself to be happy.

Put now all your worries, troubles, doubts into the hand and blow it strong away.

Try to start each day with the following proven recommendations and you will meet a lot of positive changes one by one each day.

Do you know that the ocean starts from drop?
Take your chance to dive later in the ocean of happiness doing these small things each day:

1) Put a smile on your face when you get up in the morning (you will recognize that you are not used to that)! DO IT! It means - I give a good chance for all good things to happen during this day. Say "GOOD morning" first to yourself and then to everyone else.

2) NO BAD WORDS! Kick them out from your mind and mouth!
For a lot of people it is one of the most difficult tasks, but think now how many times per day you say sh.t, f..k, d..n and so on?
And you expect positive changes?

3) ACCEPT EVERYONE AS HE/SHE IS!

4) DON`T BLAME neither yourself nor the others.

5) NO sad, depressive, fatal books, songs or TV programs.

6) Love yourself! YOU ARE the unique person! Say to yourself often how much you love yourself.

7) When you say "THANK YOU" to someone during day, please, mean it in deed. The same when you ask someone "HOW ARE YOU?" - mean it indeed!!! You will feel the difference! People will get warmer to you!

8) If someone tries to spoil your mood, don`t react on it. Say "Thank you very much!" Why? - Because this person gives you the lesson of patience. Be above such provocations!

9) If you have a dream to learn something, or to start searching for another job - DO IT NOW! Change your life TODAY!

Do you think that you can follow these recommendations at least for one week? Great! Then be ready for happy surprises soon.

believe in your footsteps...

How To Stay Motivated When It`s So Easy To Get Discouraged !!

I think it`s safe to say that if you are reading this you have had times when being discouraged was much easier then staying motivated. This is an awful feeling because you want to be motivated but everything seems to be going wrong and getting you down. Here are 3 keys to stay motivated when it’s so easy to be discouraged.

1. Watch something motivating.
For me, this is one of the best things that I can do. With websites like youtube and metacafe, it’s very easy to look up videos that will motivate and inspire you. It’s great to be able to watch something about someone that has gone through something worse then you and come out the winner. I can’t help but to stay motivated when I see these kinds of things.

2. Remember your reasons why.
There are times when you may feel very discouraged but it’s important to not forget why you are doing what you are doing. In the midst of disappointment and discouragement it can be very easy to forget your ‘why’. Take some time and reinforce in your mind your ‘why’. This may be all you need to stay motivated and keep on going.

3. Talk with your mentor.
Whenever things get discouraging it’s easy to make them even worse in your mind. If you are finding it hard to stay motivated, talk about it to your mentor. They will be able to help put things back into perspective for you as well as encourage you. Sometimes all you need is to be able to talk with someone that can show that it’s not as big a deal as you think it is.

Patience... takes a life's journey to achieve...

A carrot, an egg and a cup of coffee...

You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way
again.........
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her
life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see." Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.
Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.
Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee.
The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean?"
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity..boiling water. Each reacted differently.
The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.
The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a
coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I?
Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death,a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water,the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.
When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest,do you
elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity?

Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don`t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past;
you can`t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches...

Angels Paradise

Reason of Fuel Hiking

JUST THINK OVER

• What is the environment? Why is the global environment so important?
• Can you name 10 different ways we use fuel or electricity every day?
• What are ways that we could save fuel or electricity?
• What does it mean to say that the U.S. is currently dependent on other nations for our petroleum?
• How has transportation changed over the centuries?
• What kind of fuel do most cars use today?
• Are there different ways to power cars? Can you name any alternative sources of fuel?
• Why don't more cars run on alternative fuel sources?
• What do you think would be the best way to power a car?
• How would the engine work?
• Do you think cars will be the same when you're old enough to drive? How will they be different?

Earth Day Discussion

• Can one person make a difference when it comes to helping the environment?
• Can you name any well-known heroes who work to make a difference? (Answers might include Rachel Carson, Mardy Murie, or Gaylord Nelson.)
• Can you name environmental heroes you know personally?
• What is Earth Day? Is it something that is celebrated only in the United States?
• What do people do on this day?
• What can you do to make a difference? How about your school? Your family?
• How can every day be like Earth Day?
• Is there a way you can help spread the message about helping the environment?
• What is an alternative fuel source? Can you name three?
• Why are many alternative fuel sources better options for the planet?

Write important numbers on the blackboard to provide students with this background information:

• According to a study at the Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute, there are about 3 to 4.5 million traffic signals operating in the United States. Each one uses around 990 kilowatt-hours of electricity a year. Together, they consume almost 3 billion kilowatt-hours.
• About 1.4 million tons of coal is needed to generate that much electricity.
• A 100-watt light bulb uses 0.1 kilowatt-hours an hour.

Ask:

• How many days could you light a 100-watt bulb using the same amount of energy a traffic signal uses in a year?
• How long could you light the same bulb with the amount of energy used by all the traffic lights?
• If your math book weighs a pound, how many math books would it take to equal the same weight as 1.4 million tons of coal?
• Do you think we need traffic signals? Is there a different way of controlling traffic?
• Can you think of an alternative source of energy for the traffic signals?
• How can you let your community leaders know about your ideas?

Wrap up:

• Explain that some communities have switched from using incandescent traffic lights to LEDs (light-emitting diodes). LEDs can cut energy consumption by up to 90 percent.

Extension:

• Sacramento County in California has a plan to replace lights at more than 100 intersections with LEDs. This could save the county $67,000 in just one year.
• Ask students to research traffic lights in their communities. Do the signals use incandescent lights or LEDs?

Bill Gates' 11 Rules of Life...

Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about 11 things they did not and will not learn in school. He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world. Rule 1 : Life is not fair - get used to it!

Rule 2: The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.

Loser!!!

College Canteen...

Cancer Update from Johns Hopkins University

This information is being circulated at Walter Reed Army Medical Center as well. Please circulate to all you know; Cancer update
Johns Hopkins - Cancer News from Johns Hopkins

No plastic containers in microwave...

No water bottles in freezers...

No plastic wrap in microwave...

A dioxin chemical causes cancer, especially breast cancer...

Dioxins are highly poisonous to the cells of our bodies. Don't freeze your plastic bottles with water in them as this releases dioxins from the plastic.

Recently, Edward Fujimoto, Wellness Program Manager at Castle Hospital , was on a TV program to explain this health hazard. He talked about dioxins and how bad they are for us. He said that we should not be heating our food in the microwave using plastic containers.

This especially applies to foods that contain fat. He said that the combination of fat, high heat, and plastics releases dioxin into the food and ultimately into the cells of the body...

Instead, he recommends using glass, such as Corning Ware, Pyrex or ceramic containers for heat! ing food... You get the same results, only without the dioxin. So such things as TV dinners, instant ramen and soups, etc., should be removed from the container and heated in something else. Paper isn't bad but you don't know what is in the paper. It's just safer to use tempered glass, Corning Ware, etc. He reminded us that a while ago some of the fast food restaurants moved away from the foam containers to paper. The dioxin problem is one of the reasons...

Also, he pointed out that plastic wrap, such as Saran, is just as dangerous when placed over foods to be cooked in the microwave. As the food is nuked, the high heat causes poisonous toxins to actually melt out of the plastic wrap and drip into the food. Cover food with a paper towel instead.

Obama declares victory over Clinton

Declaring victory: Barack Obama in Saint Paul today (Reuters: Jeff Haynes)

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Illinois Senator Barack Obama said America was witnessing "a moment that will define a generation" as he declared victory over rival Hillary Clinton in the Democratic presidential nominating race today.

Senator Obama won the nomination after the final primary votes in Montana and South Dakota, with US news network CNN saying its projections showed he had secured the 2,118 delegates he needs to make his victory official.

The win ends the often-bitter tussle with Senator Clinton, which had threatened to split the Democratic party in two, and sets him up to take on Republican presumptive nominee John McCain in November's election.

Senator Obama declared victory in a speech to supporters in Saint Paul, Minnesota.

"Tonight, I can stand here and say that I will be the Democratic nominee for president of the United States," he told cheering supporters.

"Tonight we mark the end of one historic journey with the beginning of another - a journey that will bring a new and better day to America."

Senator Obama called his nominating win "a moment that will define a generation".

The polls in South Dakota closed at 11:00am AEST, with Montana following at midday.

Senator Clinton stopped short of admitting defeat, telling supporters at an emotional New York rally that "I will be making no decision tonight" but saying she is committed to uniting the Democratic Party ahead of November's presidential election.

The win means that Senator Obama will be the first African-American to run for US president.

10 Reasons Why You Can't Get What You Want

I believe that all of us want happiness and success in life. However, very few can actually admit that they have got there. Many didn't know why they aren't successful, so few knew why, but didn't do anything about it. I have the privilege to come across a list of reasons why most people couldn't achieve happiness or success in life. As I read through, I too discovered that some of the reasons here have been standing in the way between success and me. As you go over the list now, check yourself by it, point by point, to find out how many of these causes-of-failure stand between you and success.

Lack of purpose in life - Before I start taking my life seriously, I have no major purpose in life. All day long, I would either play games at home, or after work, chill out with my friends. There is no sense of responsibility to my family, no commitment at work and of cause, no purpose. Life was pretty much a routine. A routine that I hate, a routine that I want to get rid of.
Many people I have come across are leading the life that I have led years ago. And gradually I discovered that lack of purpose in life (or anything else for that matter) is always and will always be at the top of the list of failure.

Lack of ambition to aim high - People who are not happy at where they are and yet are unwilling to aim high above mediocre and pay the price of success, will never be happy. I have seen them, they will whine about their work, about their boss, about everything and anything under the sun. But they aren't willing to work on it, to find out how to get ahead of the pack.
When told of what they could have done so that they could get out of the rug, they will come up will excuses for not able to do it. No success will ever befall on those who lack the ambition to aim high above the mediocrity.

Insufficient education - This is a handicap, which can be overcome with ease. How many times have you read or heard of successful people having little or no educational background? Experience has proven that the best-educated people are often those who are known as "self-made" or self-educated. In times like these, college degree alone is no longer sufficient to bring you to the top.

Education consists, not so much of knowledge, but of knowledge effectively and persistently applied. We are paid, not merely for what we know, but more particularly for what we do with which we know.

Lack of self-discipline - Self-discipline comes from self-control. This means you need to control all the negative qualities you believe you have. Self-control, though is a skill, will be one of the hardest skill you will ever learnt. However, if you do not conquer yourself, yourself will conquer you.

Ill health - No one can enjoy outstanding success without good health. Many causes of ill health is the result of poor self-control. Some of the examples that contribute to ill health are
- Overeating
- Wrong habits of thought
- Smoking
- Lack of proper physical exercise
- Drinking

Unfavorable environmental influence - Most people who have tendency to commit crime acquire them as the result of bad environment and improper associates during childhood.

Procrastination - One of the most common causes of failures. Procrastination is the deferment or avoidance of an action or task and is often linked to perfection. Most people failed in life because they are waiting for the 'time to be right'. The thing is, the time will never be right. Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.

Lack of persistence - There are many good 'starters', but very few finishers of everything they begin. They will begin something with high hopes and enthusiasm but loss that excitement when they are facing the first sign of defeat. But we ought to learn that nothing substitute the lack of persistence. And those who know this discovered that failure has no way in coping persistence.

Negative personality - There is no hope of success for a person who repels others through negative personality. Not many realize this; success is attained through the cooperation efforts of other people. A negative personality will not induce cooperation.
Above are 10 reasons that may have stopped you from achieving happiness, attaining success. Look through it and see if you have possessed any of them. If you have, ask yourself "what will you do to overcome them?"

What is Guillain-Barre syndrome(GB- Syndrome) "

Introduction
Guillain-Barre syndrome is an uncommon inflammatory disorder in which your body's immune system attacks your nerves, typically causing severe weakness and numbness that usually starts in your extremities and quickly worsens. Eventually your whole body can become paralyzed, even the muscles used for breathing.

The exact cause of Guillain-Barre syndrome is unknown, but it sometimes is triggered by a respiratory infection or the stomach flu. Luckily, this potentially deadly disorder is relatively rare, occurring worldwide in only one or two people per 100,000. All age groups can be affected, but it occurs most often in young adults and the elderly.

In its most severe form, Guillain-Barre syndrome is a medical emergency requiring hospitalization. About 30 percent of the people who have the disorder will temporarily need the help of a machine to breathe.

There is no cure for the disorder, but several treatments can ease symptoms and reduce the duration of the illness. Most people recover completely from even the most severe cases of Guillain-Barre syndrome.

Nerve and myelin sheath

Guillain-Barre syndrome destroys the protective covering of the peripheral nerves (myelin sheath), disabling the nerves from transmitting signals to the muscles

Good Manners Are Key to Your Success

Do you like people who are rude to you? Do you mind if someone interrupts you? Are you happy when people ignore you?
Of course not. No one likes bad manners.
People with bad manners are rejected. They do not get the good jobs or the promotions. Their businesses do not succeed.
People with good manners are accepted. They are liked and supported. They have more friends, luck and success.
"In a culture, manners are the lubrication that ease the frictions of social contacts." -- L. Ron Hubbard
When you improve your manners, you improve your chances for success.
12 Examples of Good Manners

1. Be polite to everyone you meet. You will never regret being too polite, but you might regret being rude. For example, when you go on a sales call or job interview, be courteous to receptionists and assistants as they can affect your chances of succeeding.

2. Use the magic words as often as possible: "Hello," "Please," "Excuse me," "Sorry" and these two most important words: "Thank you."

3. Use good manners in all of your communications. Examples:
Return telephone and e-mail messages within 24 hours.
Do not use swear words or vulgar words.
If you receive a rude message, do not respond with rudeness, but be polite.
Do not interrupt people.
Make sure people are ready to listen to you before you start talking.
Talk less than 50% of the time.

4. Leave generous tips for food servers, luggage handlers, auto valets, hairdressers or barbers who do their jobs.

5. Use good manners as a driver. Weaving in and out of heavy traffic and cutting in front of other cars only gains you a few seconds of time. If you are courteous, patient and calm, you arrive safely and more relaxed.

6. Do not blow your nose, use toothpicks or perform other bodily activities in front of guests or people you respect. Never smoke around a non-smoker.

7. Show your appreciation at every opportunity, even for small things. "Thank you for returning my call." "Your advice has been very helpful." "I appreciate your taking the time to meet with me."

8. Arrive on time or early for appointments. When you arrive late, you appear to be disrespectful, disorganized or both.

9. A good sense of humor is good manners. However, avoid jokes about race, disability, sex and so on. Tell clean jokes about yourself or pass on humorous stories that anyone would enjoy.

10. If someone treats you with bad manners, do not lower yourself to the same level. Smooth out the friction with your best manners. For example, "I'm sure you have a good reason to swear at me, but I think we can work this out so we're both happy. Can you take a minute and try?"

11. Before starting important conversations, meals or meetings, turn off your cell phone. Ignoring people while you chat on your cell phone is disrespectful. You can probably leave your cell phone off for hours with no lasting harm.

12. Do not try to show off or prove you are more important than others. This is called "one-upmanship" and is poor manners. For example, a friend is excited about meeting an important scientist. You immediately "top" him and tell about the time when you met a much more important scientist. Instead, share your friend's excitement without bringing up your own story.

As you improve your manners, you will enjoy more support, admiration and respect from everyone around you.

it was just yesterday...

Day before yesterday i was born...
I saw a lovely world

My life is so incomplete...

Life is a lovers dream, a sweet memory that stay afresh forever and ever without growing old by a single day... This is a poem written by Moon, for all the lovers to dance in the memory of their lovers...

Dedicated to true lovers (if there’s any…)

When you are not here to share my days and nights,

My life is so incomplete.

For you are my heart, my soul,

The ‘oneness’ I had known to seek.

Without you I merely exist from day to day,

With you I know that I will find.

All that I have been searching for

My completeness, my eternal peace of mind.

You are the keeper of my dreams

The man who holds my heart in his hands

The one I want to spend my life with

The one with whom I always stand.

Stand beside thru thick and thin

Thru all that life will throw our way

Knowing that this special love we share

Will guide us each and every day.

This journey was started long ago

Before this time and place

The journey of completeness

As two heart and souls embrace.

Forever is what I want with you

For the search is at an end

Our hearts have found each other

As lovers, as soul mates, as friends…

BY: Moon