Do We Love................?

I really have been moved by this incident... Its hard to believe that this can be so true in our everyday lives... The friends we chose are smart, beautiful, RICH, fashionable, and all the good things in them, whereas the poor, not-so-intellgents, not so beautiful, dark skinned, FAT are always looked down upon... WHY?

A story is told about a soldier who was finally coming home after having fought in Vietnam. He called his parents from San Francisco. "Mom and Dad, I`m coming home, but I`ve a favor to ask. I have a friend I`d like to bring home with me." "Sure," they replied, "we`d love to meet him." "There`s something you should know," the son continued, "he was hurt pretty badly in the fighting. He stepped on a land mind and lost an arm and a leg. He has nowhere else to go, and I want him to come live with us." "I`m sorry to hear that, son. Maybe we can help him find somewhere to live." "No, Mom and Dad, I want him to live with us." "Son," said the father, "you don`t know what you`re asking. Someone with such a handicap would be a terrible burden on us. We have our own lives to live, and we can`t let something like this interfere with our lives. I think you should just come home and forget about this guy. He`ll find a way to live on his own." At that point, the son hung up the phone. The parents heard nothing more from him. A few days later, however, they received a call from the San Francisco police. Their son had died after falling from a building, they were told. The police believed it was suicide. The grief-stricken parents flew to San Francisco and were taken to the city morgue to identify the body of their son. They recognized him, but to their horror they also discovered something they didn`t know, their son had only one arm and one leg. The parents in this story are like many of us. We find it easy to love those who are good-looking or fun to have around, but we don`t like people who inconvenience us or make us feel uncomfortable. We would rather stay away from people who aren`t as healthy, beautiful, or smart as we are.

love and life...

Thanks so much Moon for sharing such a lovely, beautiful piece of story and also an advice not to make a wrong decision which will lead to a hasty decision and eventually a bitter-heart between people who means a lot in your life but just because of some unimportant misunderstandings, you lose them. This story really shows the true meaning which life has to offer.

This story tells us something about LOVE & LIFE

My husband is S/W Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Two years of courtship and now, five years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband is my complete opposite; his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about LOVE.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.

"Why?" he asked, shocked.

"I am tired. There are no reasons for everything in the world!" I answered.

He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought. My feeling of disappointment only increased. Here was a man who was not able to even express his predicament, so what else could I expect from him?

And finally he asked me: "What can I do to change your mind?"

Somebody said it right... It's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.

Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: "Here is the question. If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind.

Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?"

He said: "I will give you your answer tomorrow...." My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes....

My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you, but....please allow me to explain the reasons further.....

This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.

You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.

You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way.

You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every month. I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.
You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.

You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand...and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the colour of the glow on your young face...

Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and die ... "

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting... and as I continue on reading... "Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk...

I rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread....Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone...

That's LIFE, and LOVE. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms. It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form ...

Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands... AND THAT'S LIFE
Linda Hansworth

Three Secrets to Creating More Success

Set Can Do Goals

Set goals that move you toward successful results. People fail because they don’t know what they want or what they don’t want. Ask a friend, family member, or associate what they want in life. In most cases, they will pause and really think about what they want. Sometimes they can’t come up with an answer. Sometimes they may come up with a weak response. However, ask the following question, “What don’t you want in life?” and, in most situations, you will receive multiple, clear, and quick answers to your question. That’s because we concentrate on what we don’t want to happen instead of what we want to happen. In life, as in sports, we concentrate on “not losing” instead of concentrating how to “win.”

Set S-M-A-R-T-E-R (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely, Encouraging, Rewarding) goals that create a crystal clear roadmap for your success, and work to achieve these goals everyday.

Take Care of Your N-E-T-S
N-E-T-S stands for Network with Everyone Today for Success. Fill your NETS with positive people that will support your positive “can do” attitude. These people, while supporting your goals, will also help you pass roadblocks to achieve your goals. You will also make your NETS stronger by supporting their goals to create a mutually supportive situation.

Joy Fisher-Sykes always says, “Clean your NETS of people who have a “can’t do,” negative attitude, and who don’t support your quest to achieve your goals.” The more junk (negative people) in your NETS, the less room you have for more treasure (positive people). Take a close look at “friends,” family and co-workers and ask, “Do they support me and my “can do” attitude?” If they don’t, remove them from your NET. Keep your NET strong with positive people.

Concentrate on the Positive
Recent research shows that 75-80% of daily communication is negative. This would include negative self-talk, conversations with others, or the media (TV, radio, the internet, etc.).

Take back control of your mind and be responsible for your “can do” attitude. You can start with the following:

Concentrate on self-talk with positive solutions
Start your mornings with meditation. Concentrate on positive thoughts with positive results. Visualize, involving as many senses as possible, to intensify the visualization and make it real for you. Ask, “What does your success feel, look, sound, and taste like?” Be aware of negative self-talk, and replace it with positive self-talk.

Control the Communication
If it is a conversation, reframe the negative conversation into a more positive conversation. If someone is complaining endlessly, say, “Mike, I hear what you are saying. What solutions to you see to this problem?”

If the media is negative, tune it out or turn it off.

You can always walk away. You have that right.

Walk the Talk
Be consistent in your behavior, and act on your “can do” attitude.

Getting Coffee = Sexual Harassment?

If male supervisors ask a female underling to get them coffee, does such a request amount to sexual harassment? A federal court sitting in Pennsylvania recently faced that question.

What happened.A woman worked as a part-time receptionist for National Sales & Supply, of Bensalem, for 6 weeks. When two male vice presidents asked her to get coffee for them on an almost-daily basis, she complied a few times, but felt that the requests "reinforced outdated gender stereotypes" and bordered on harassment. When one of the VPs insisted via e-mail that one of her responsibilities was to make and bring him coffee, she responded that had she known this, she would never have taken the job. Nine minutes later, he sent an e-mail back to her telling her she was fired. She sued the company for sexual harassment. National asked the court to dismiss the case.

What the court said. The court interpreted the sexual harassment claim as a claim of a hostile work environment. She had to show that (1) she suffered intentional discrimination because of [her] sex; (2) the discrimination was pervasive and regular; (3) the discrimination detrimentally affected her; (4) the discrimination would detrimentally affect a reasonable person of the same sex in that position; and (5) the employer was responsible for it.

Sexual overtones aren`t necessarily required: Behavior that creates a barrier to the progress of women in the workplace may qualify as such, the court said, because it conveys the message that women do not belong, and that they are welcome in the workplace only if they will subvert their identities to the sexual stereotypes prevalent in that environment. Here, the court stated that the act of getting coffee is not, by itself, a gender-specific act, but that in the context of other indicators of sexism, getting coffee could evince a discriminatory intent.

However, comparing her evidence to that presented in support of similar successful claims of sexual harassment, the court found that there was no evidence of offensive statements or other servile acts (e.g., dropping off laundry or paying personal bills for the male superiors). "There is no evidence of spoken or written statements, demeaning or otherwise, relating even tangentially to sex or gender," the court stated, granting the motion to dismiss. Klopfenstein v. National Sales and Supply, U.S. District Court for the Eastern District of Pennsylvania, No. 07-4004 (6/5/08).

Point to remember: As the court stated, in the context of other indicators of sexism, getting coffee could evince a discriminatory intent. But with no evidence of any demeaning statements relating even tangentially to sex or gender, the request that a female employee go for coffee does not amount to sexual harassment.

Please Realize that your are Blessed !!!

Enjoy reading and thank God that you are blessed with lovely parents and let your parents know what they mean to you .

At 4 Years
My daddy is great.

At 6 Years
My daddy knows everybody.

At 10 Years
My daddy is good but is short tempered

At 12 Years
My daddy was very nice to me when I was young .

At 14 Years
My daddy is getting fastidious.

At 16 Years
My daddy is not in line with the current times.

At 18 Years
My daddy is becoming increasingly cranky.

At 20 Years
O h! Its becoming difficult to tolerate daddy. Wonder how Mother puts up with him.

At 25 Years
Daddy is objecting to everything.

At 30 Years
I t`s becoming difficult to manage my son. I was so scared of my
father when I was young.

At 40 Years
Daddy brought me up with so much discipline. Even I should do the
same.

At 45 Years
I am baffled as to how my daddy brought us up.

At 50 Years
My daddy faced so many hardships to bring us up. I am unable to manage a single son.

At 55 Years
My daddy was so far sighted and planned so many things for us.
He is one of his kind and unique.

At 60 Years
My daddy is great.

Thus, it took 56 years to complete the cycle and come back to the
1st stage.

Realize the true value of your parents before its too late.