There are just so many words
But I can't find one that's perfectly true.
I have said lots of I love you's
Have given you lots of kisses and hugs
I have given you my all
But still those are just not enough.
You're the only one I desire
You're the only one in my heart
Through good and bad
To my one and only love
That no one will ever compare
Take this simple vow
Let this be my devotion forever.
I love you and I will never leave you
No matter what happens I'll always be true
Though times may be rough
and days may be tough
I'll stick with you through and through
until the next life...
Monday, December 15, 2008
Friday, November 21, 2008
I'm thinking about you again and again
And I'm thinking about you again and again
I'm thinking if you were here beside me
I guarantee...
You'll make me happy with your smile
You'll make me warm with your hug
You'll make me beautiful with your kiss
You'll make me strong with your words
And the most important thing...
I will not feel lonely like this
I really missing you, my Janom
Love you more each day
Because you really know whatever I want
Because you really know whatever I need
You really know about me
And you really understanding me
My dear, I LOVE YOU
Monday, November 17, 2008
Strength of a Man and Beauty of a Woman..!
Strength of a Man
The strength of a man isn't seen in the width of his shoulders.
It is seen in the width of his arms that encircle you.
The strength of a man isn't in the deep tone of his voice.
It is in the gentle words he whispers.
The strength of a man isn't how many buddies he has.
It is how good a buddy he is with his kids.
The strength of a man isn't in how respected he is at work.
It is in how respected he is at home.
The strength of a man isn't in how hard he hits..
It is in how tender he touches.
The strength of a man isn't how many women he's Loved by.
It is in can he be true to one woman.
The strength of a man isn't in the weight he can lift.
It is in the burdens he can understand and overcome.
Beauty of a Woman
The beauty of a woman
Is not in the clothes she wears,
The figure she carries,
Or the way she combs her hair.
The beauty of a woman
Must be seen from her eyes,
Because that is the doorway to her heart,
The place where love resides.
The beauty of a woman
Is not in a facial mole,
But true beauty in a woman
Is reflected in her soul.
It is the caring that she lovingly gives,
The passion that she shows,
The beauty of a woman
With passing years-only grows.
Lucky is the man who is the first love of a woman,
but luckier is the woman who is the last love of a man
Love Happens Only Once....
Rest Is Just Life..
The strength of a man isn't seen in the width of his shoulders.
It is seen in the width of his arms that encircle you.
The strength of a man isn't in the deep tone of his voice.
It is in the gentle words he whispers.
The strength of a man isn't how many buddies he has.
It is how good a buddy he is with his kids.
The strength of a man isn't in how respected he is at work.
It is in how respected he is at home.
The strength of a man isn't in how hard he hits..
It is in how tender he touches.
The strength of a man isn't how many women he's Loved by.
It is in can he be true to one woman.
The strength of a man isn't in the weight he can lift.
It is in the burdens he can understand and overcome.
Beauty of a Woman
The beauty of a woman
Is not in the clothes she wears,
The figure she carries,
Or the way she combs her hair.
The beauty of a woman
Must be seen from her eyes,
Because that is the doorway to her heart,
The place where love resides.
The beauty of a woman
Is not in a facial mole,
But true beauty in a woman
Is reflected in her soul.
It is the caring that she lovingly gives,
The passion that she shows,
The beauty of a woman
With passing years-only grows.
Lucky is the man who is the first love of a woman,
but luckier is the woman who is the last love of a man
Love Happens Only Once....
Rest Is Just Life..
When a girl...
When a GIRL is quiet, Millions of things are running in her mind.
When a GIRL is not arguing,She is thinking deeply.
When a GIRL looks at u with eyes full of questions, She is wondering how long you will be around.
When a GIRL answers "i'm fine" after a few seconds, She is not at all fine.
When a GIRL stares at you, She is wondering why you are lying.
When a GIRL says I love you, She means it.
When a GIRL says "i miss you", No one in this world can miss you more than her.
I MISS U
When a GIRL is not arguing,She is thinking deeply.
When a GIRL looks at u with eyes full of questions, She is wondering how long you will be around.
When a GIRL answers "i'm fine" after a few seconds, She is not at all fine.
When a GIRL stares at you, She is wondering why you are lying.
When a GIRL says I love you, She means it.
When a GIRL says "i miss you", No one in this world can miss you more than her.
I MISS U
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
Journey Through Life
I've learn't
that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
I've learn't
that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
I've learn't
that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I've learn't
that you can keep going long after you can't. I've learned- that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I've learn't
that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I've learn't
that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
I've learn't
that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences. .
I've learn't
that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I've learn't
that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I've learn't
that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
I've learn't
that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
I've learn't
that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
I've learn't
that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
I've learn't
that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
I've learn't
that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.
I've learn't
that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
I've learn't
that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others, Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
I've learn't
that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I've learn't
that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
I've learn't
that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I've learn't
that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret, It could change your life forever.
I've learn't
that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I've learn't
that your life can be changed in a matter of minutes, by people who don't even know you.
I've learn't
that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
I've learn't
that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I've learn't
that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.
Monday, September 8, 2008
True
Time passes by as I watch you walk away
Finger by finger we are losing grasp
Pictures frozen in time are becoming clearer
The tears start to express what I cannot say
You have turned your back to me forever
I have been dying inside little by little
Going out of my mind in endless circles
Falling faster barely breathing
I’m half the man I thought I would be
Cause I lost a soul mate
You put me on the shelf and found somebody else
I never thought that you would ever do that
Said that you love me, said that you would never leave me
Maybe I just heard you wrong
Or maybe you gave up too soon
Damaged, scarred, forsaken, betrayed and broken
I cannot bear love again, NEVER
Emptiness and darkness envelope me from everywhere
Loneliness and regret consume me, I'm unable to share
I'm alive and I'm still breathing
And yet, my heart seems to have stopped beating
Your betrayal to our love, I will never forget
The affection and care you once showed me, all gone
What choice do I have but to sit back and bleed?
My dreams are all battered and torn
My trust, my faith seems so meaningless now
I'm unable to take this pain anymore
It’s just so real
Yet my heart tells me to forgive
Yet my heart tells me to love you
To let go of the past, to let the love live
But a broken heart cannot think any good
It's probably reacting just the way it should
I fell so hard that I could never get up again
Love has left me empty handed
But God forbid this ever happens to you
My prayers and thoughts tell you'll come back to me
You'll beg for my love, beg for a chance to see
How you can make up for all you have done
How you can change all those lies to nothing, just fun
I am broken, Yes but I can still love
And now as I turn away from you
I wish that I hadn't been so true and sincere to you
Everything I did, I did it for you
But If I ever get one single wish
I wish I could do it all over again, just to be with you
Time will change nothing at all
The scars and wounds run so deep there will never heal
This pain is just so real that time cannot erase them
True love, that’s what it’s called
My love has been vanquished
My dreams shattered, my life destroyed
It hurts to know how I've been played with, used and toyed
But I’ll carry my broken heart with me wherever I go
And you’ll always be a part of it, just like a tattoo
Looking back at you, I will try to refrain
You might have bewitched me but I'm not falling for it ever again
I know how to love but I cannot feel it
I don’t know what a kiss is or a hug
I don’t know how it feels to hold someone warm
I watch the sunrise and the sunset by myself
I look around and no one sees me
Just a shadow of my mistakes, my own shadow haunting me
All that was left is gone away, there’s nothing left to prove
It all seemed so beautiful till I lost what I had once fought for and won
I poured my heart out to you, humbled myself
And made myself miserable, just for your happiness
But with Hope and Faith
My spirit is broken and every night I’m cold
Every night I dream and I hope
That I will be whole again
Some day I will no longer be alone, I no longer will cry at night, I pray
But love is just a dream that I want to have and never wake up
Maybe some day I will have that dream
Only fairytales have endings, I’m not the lucky ones
But you are….
Au Domo Ni Iko
This is TRUE.
By KrisThursday, September 4, 2008
Dengue Fever
Symptoms Symptoms of typical uncomplicated (classic) dengue usually start with fever within 4 to 7 days after you have been bitten by an infected mosquito and include
The rash may appear over most of your body 3 to 4 days after the fever begins, and then subsides after 1 to 2 days. You may get a second rash a few days later. Symptoms of dengue hemorrhagic fever include all of the symptoms of classic dengue plus
This form of dengue disease can cause death. Symptoms of dengue shock syndrome--the most severe form of dengue disease--include all of the symptoms of classic dengue and dengue hemorrhagic fever, plus
This form of the disease usually occurs in children (sometimes adults) experiencing their second dengue infection. It is sometimes fatal, especially in children and young adults. |
Prevention
The best way to prevent dengue virus infection is to take special precautions to avoid being bitten by mosquitoes. Several dengue vaccines are being developed, but none is likely to be licensed by the Food and Drug Administration in the next few years.
When outdoors in an area where dengue fever has been found
- Use a mosquito repellent containing DEET, picaridin, or oil of lemon eucalyptus
- Dress in protective clothing—long-sleeved shirts, long pants, socks, and shoes
Because Aedes mosquitoes usually bite during the day, be sure to take precautions, especially during early morning hours before daybreak and in the late afternoon before dark.
Other precautions include
- Keeping unscreened windows and doors closed
- Keeping window and door screens repaired
- Getting rid of areas where mosquitoes breed, such as standing water in flower pots, containers, birdbaths, discarded tires, etc.
You may have seen the Fiji Times article stating that Medical authorities in
It is important that you recognise possible symptoms you have Dengue and seek medical help early on. It's also important that we know of the possible diagnosis, as you can pass it on if bitten by a mosquito while having a fever, and that mosquito bites another person.
More about Dengue fever is available on http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dengue_fever . For those of you that don't have Internet, here is the info:
NB: Do not take Aspirin.
Signs and symptoms
This infectious disease is manifested by a sudden onset of fever, with severe headache, muscle and joint pains (myalgias and arthralgias—severe pain gives it the name break-bone fever or bonecrusher disease) and rashes. The dengue rash is characteristically bright red petechiae and usually appears first on the lower limbs and the chest; in some patients, it spreads to cover most of the body. There may also be gastritis with some combination of associated abdominal pain, nausea, vomiting or diarrhea.
Other symptoms include
- fever;
- chills;
- constant headaches;
- bleeding from nose, mouth or gums;
- severe dizziness; and,
- loss of appetite.
Some cases develop much milder symptoms which can be misdiagnosed as influenza or other viral infection when no rash is present. Thus travelers from tropical areas may pass on dengue in their home countries inadvertently, having not been properly diagnosed at the height of their illness. Patients with dengue can pass on the infection only through mosquitoes or blood products and only while they are still febrile.
The classic dengue fever lasts about six to seven days, with a smaller peak of fever at the trailing end of the disease (the so-called "biphasic pattern"). Clinically, the platelet count will drop until the patient's temperature is normal.
Treatment
The mainstay of treatment is supportive therapy. Increased oral fluid intake is recommended to prevent dehydration. Supplementation with intravenous fluids may be necessary to prevent dehydration and significant concentration of the blood if the patient is unable to maintain oral intake. A platelet transfusion is indicated in rare cases if the platelet level drops significantly (below 20,000) or if there is significant bleeding.
The presence of melena may indicate internal gastrointestinal bleeding requiring platelet and/or red blood cell transfusion.
Aspirin and non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs should be avoided as these drugs may worsen the bleeding tendency associated with some of these infections. Patients may receive paracetamol preparations to deal with these symptoms if dengue is suspected
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Do We Love................?
I really have been moved by this incident... Its hard to believe that this can be so true in our everyday lives... The friends we chose are smart, beautiful, RICH, fashionable, and all the good things in them, whereas the poor, not-so-intellgents, not so beautiful, dark skinned, FAT are always looked down upon... WHY?
A story is told about a soldier who was finally coming home after having fought in Vietnam. He called his parents from San Francisco. "Mom and Dad, I`m coming home, but I`ve a favor to ask. I have a friend I`d like to bring home with me." "Sure," they replied, "we`d love to meet him." "There`s something you should know," the son continued, "he was hurt pretty badly in the fighting. He stepped on a land mind and lost an arm and a leg. He has nowhere else to go, and I want him to come live with us." "I`m sorry to hear that, son. Maybe we can help him find somewhere to live." "No, Mom and Dad, I want him to live with us." "Son," said the father, "you don`t know what you`re asking. Someone with such a handicap would be a terrible burden on us. We have our own lives to live, and we can`t let something like this interfere with our lives. I think you should just come home and forget about this guy. He`ll find a way to live on his own." At that point, the son hung up the phone. The parents heard nothing more from him. A few days later, however, they received a call from the San Francisco police. Their son had died after falling from a building, they were told. The police believed it was suicide. The grief-stricken parents flew to San Francisco and were taken to the city morgue to identify the body of their son. They recognized him, but to their horror they also discovered something they didn`t know, their son had only one arm and one leg. The parents in this story are like many of us. We find it easy to love those who are good-looking or fun to have around, but we don`t like people who inconvenience us or make us feel uncomfortable. We would rather stay away from people who aren`t as healthy, beautiful, or smart as we are.
A story is told about a soldier who was finally coming home after having fought in Vietnam. He called his parents from San Francisco. "Mom and Dad, I`m coming home, but I`ve a favor to ask. I have a friend I`d like to bring home with me." "Sure," they replied, "we`d love to meet him." "There`s something you should know," the son continued, "he was hurt pretty badly in the fighting. He stepped on a land mind and lost an arm and a leg. He has nowhere else to go, and I want him to come live with us." "I`m sorry to hear that, son. Maybe we can help him find somewhere to live." "No, Mom and Dad, I want him to live with us." "Son," said the father, "you don`t know what you`re asking. Someone with such a handicap would be a terrible burden on us. We have our own lives to live, and we can`t let something like this interfere with our lives. I think you should just come home and forget about this guy. He`ll find a way to live on his own." At that point, the son hung up the phone. The parents heard nothing more from him. A few days later, however, they received a call from the San Francisco police. Their son had died after falling from a building, they were told. The police believed it was suicide. The grief-stricken parents flew to San Francisco and were taken to the city morgue to identify the body of their son. They recognized him, but to their horror they also discovered something they didn`t know, their son had only one arm and one leg. The parents in this story are like many of us. We find it easy to love those who are good-looking or fun to have around, but we don`t like people who inconvenience us or make us feel uncomfortable. We would rather stay away from people who aren`t as healthy, beautiful, or smart as we are.
Friday, August 8, 2008
love and life...
Thanks so much Moon for sharing such a lovely, beautiful piece of story and also an advice not to make a wrong decision which will lead to a hasty decision and eventually a bitter-heart between people who means a lot in your life but just because of some unimportant misunderstandings, you lose them. This story really shows the true meaning which life has to offer.
This story tells us something about LOVE & LIFE
My husband is S/W Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.
Two years of courtship and now, five years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.
I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband is my complete opposite; his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about LOVE.
One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.
"Why?" he asked, shocked.
"I am tired. There are no reasons for everything in the world!" I answered.
He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought. My feeling of disappointment only increased. Here was a man who was not able to even express his predicament, so what else could I expect from him?
And finally he asked me: "What can I do to change your mind?"
Somebody said it right... It's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.
Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: "Here is the question. If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind.
Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?"
He said: "I will give you your answer tomorrow...." My hopes just sank by listening to his response.
I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes....
My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you, but....please allow me to explain the reasons further.....
This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.
"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.
You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.
You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way.
You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every month. I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.
You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.
You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand...and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the colour of the glow on your young face...
Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and die ... "
My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting... and as I continue on reading... "Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk...
I rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread....Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone...
That's LIFE, and LOVE. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.
Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms. It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form ...
Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands... AND THAT'S LIFE
Linda Hansworth
This story tells us something about LOVE & LIFE
My husband is S/W Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.
Two years of courtship and now, five years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.
I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband is my complete opposite; his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about LOVE.
One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.
"Why?" he asked, shocked.
"I am tired. There are no reasons for everything in the world!" I answered.
He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought. My feeling of disappointment only increased. Here was a man who was not able to even express his predicament, so what else could I expect from him?
And finally he asked me: "What can I do to change your mind?"
Somebody said it right... It's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.
Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: "Here is the question. If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind.
Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?"
He said: "I will give you your answer tomorrow...." My hopes just sank by listening to his response.
I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes....
My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you, but....please allow me to explain the reasons further.....
This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.
"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.
You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.
You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way.
You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every month. I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.
You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.
You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand...and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the colour of the glow on your young face...
Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and die ... "
My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting... and as I continue on reading... "Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk...
I rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread....Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone...
That's LIFE, and LOVE. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.
Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms. It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form ...
Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands... AND THAT'S LIFE
Linda Hansworth
Thursday, August 7, 2008
Three Secrets to Creating More Success
Set Can Do Goals
Set goals that move you toward successful results. People fail because they don’t know what they want or what they don’t want. Ask a friend, family member, or associate what they want in life. In most cases, they will pause and really think about what they want. Sometimes they can’t come up with an answer. Sometimes they may come up with a weak response. However, ask the following question, “What don’t you want in life?” and, in most situations, you will receive multiple, clear, and quick answers to your question. That’s because we concentrate on what we don’t want to happen instead of what we want to happen. In life, as in sports, we concentrate on “not losing” instead of concentrating how to “win.”
Set S-M-A-R-T-E-R (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely, Encouraging, Rewarding) goals that create a crystal clear roadmap for your success, and work to achieve these goals everyday.
Take Care of Your N-E-T-S
N-E-T-S stands for Network with Everyone Today for Success. Fill your NETS with positive people that will support your positive “can do” attitude. These people, while supporting your goals, will also help you pass roadblocks to achieve your goals. You will also make your NETS stronger by supporting their goals to create a mutually supportive situation.
Joy Fisher-Sykes always says, “Clean your NETS of people who have a “can’t do,” negative attitude, and who don’t support your quest to achieve your goals.” The more junk (negative people) in your NETS, the less room you have for more treasure (positive people). Take a close look at “friends,” family and co-workers and ask, “Do they support me and my “can do” attitude?” If they don’t, remove them from your NET. Keep your NET strong with positive people.
Concentrate on the Positive
Recent research shows that 75-80% of daily communication is negative. This would include negative self-talk, conversations with others, or the media (TV, radio, the internet, etc.).
Take back control of your mind and be responsible for your “can do” attitude. You can start with the following:
Concentrate on self-talk with positive solutions
Start your mornings with meditation. Concentrate on positive thoughts with positive results. Visualize, involving as many senses as possible, to intensify the visualization and make it real for you. Ask, “What does your success feel, look, sound, and taste like?” Be aware of negative self-talk, and replace it with positive self-talk.
Control the Communication
If it is a conversation, reframe the negative conversation into a more positive conversation. If someone is complaining endlessly, say, “Mike, I hear what you are saying. What solutions to you see to this problem?”
If the media is negative, tune it out or turn it off.
You can always walk away. You have that right.
Walk the Talk
Be consistent in your behavior, and act on your “can do” attitude.
Set goals that move you toward successful results. People fail because they don’t know what they want or what they don’t want. Ask a friend, family member, or associate what they want in life. In most cases, they will pause and really think about what they want. Sometimes they can’t come up with an answer. Sometimes they may come up with a weak response. However, ask the following question, “What don’t you want in life?” and, in most situations, you will receive multiple, clear, and quick answers to your question. That’s because we concentrate on what we don’t want to happen instead of what we want to happen. In life, as in sports, we concentrate on “not losing” instead of concentrating how to “win.”
Set S-M-A-R-T-E-R (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely, Encouraging, Rewarding) goals that create a crystal clear roadmap for your success, and work to achieve these goals everyday.
Take Care of Your N-E-T-S
N-E-T-S stands for Network with Everyone Today for Success. Fill your NETS with positive people that will support your positive “can do” attitude. These people, while supporting your goals, will also help you pass roadblocks to achieve your goals. You will also make your NETS stronger by supporting their goals to create a mutually supportive situation.
Joy Fisher-Sykes always says, “Clean your NETS of people who have a “can’t do,” negative attitude, and who don’t support your quest to achieve your goals.” The more junk (negative people) in your NETS, the less room you have for more treasure (positive people). Take a close look at “friends,” family and co-workers and ask, “Do they support me and my “can do” attitude?” If they don’t, remove them from your NET. Keep your NET strong with positive people.
Concentrate on the Positive
Recent research shows that 75-80% of daily communication is negative. This would include negative self-talk, conversations with others, or the media (TV, radio, the internet, etc.).
Take back control of your mind and be responsible for your “can do” attitude. You can start with the following:
Concentrate on self-talk with positive solutions
Start your mornings with meditation. Concentrate on positive thoughts with positive results. Visualize, involving as many senses as possible, to intensify the visualization and make it real for you. Ask, “What does your success feel, look, sound, and taste like?” Be aware of negative self-talk, and replace it with positive self-talk.
Control the Communication
If it is a conversation, reframe the negative conversation into a more positive conversation. If someone is complaining endlessly, say, “Mike, I hear what you are saying. What solutions to you see to this problem?”
If the media is negative, tune it out or turn it off.
You can always walk away. You have that right.
Walk the Talk
Be consistent in your behavior, and act on your “can do” attitude.
Getting Coffee = Sexual Harassment?
If male supervisors ask a female underling to get them coffee, does such a request amount to sexual harassment? A federal court sitting in Pennsylvania recently faced that question.
What happened.A woman worked as a part-time receptionist for National Sales & Supply, of Bensalem, for 6 weeks. When two male vice presidents asked her to get coffee for them on an almost-daily basis, she complied a few times, but felt that the requests "reinforced outdated gender stereotypes" and bordered on harassment. When one of the VPs insisted via e-mail that one of her responsibilities was to make and bring him coffee, she responded that had she known this, she would never have taken the job. Nine minutes later, he sent an e-mail back to her telling her she was fired. She sued the company for sexual harassment. National asked the court to dismiss the case.
What the court said. The court interpreted the sexual harassment claim as a claim of a hostile work environment. She had to show that (1) she suffered intentional discrimination because of [her] sex; (2) the discrimination was pervasive and regular; (3) the discrimination detrimentally affected her; (4) the discrimination would detrimentally affect a reasonable person of the same sex in that position; and (5) the employer was responsible for it.
Sexual overtones aren`t necessarily required: Behavior that creates a barrier to the progress of women in the workplace may qualify as such, the court said, because it conveys the message that women do not belong, and that they are welcome in the workplace only if they will subvert their identities to the sexual stereotypes prevalent in that environment. Here, the court stated that the act of getting coffee is not, by itself, a gender-specific act, but that in the context of other indicators of sexism, getting coffee could evince a discriminatory intent.
However, comparing her evidence to that presented in support of similar successful claims of sexual harassment, the court found that there was no evidence of offensive statements or other servile acts (e.g., dropping off laundry or paying personal bills for the male superiors). "There is no evidence of spoken or written statements, demeaning or otherwise, relating even tangentially to sex or gender," the court stated, granting the motion to dismiss. Klopfenstein v. National Sales and Supply, U.S. District Court for the Eastern District of Pennsylvania, No. 07-4004 (6/5/08).
Point to remember: As the court stated, in the context of other indicators of sexism, getting coffee could evince a discriminatory intent. But with no evidence of any demeaning statements relating even tangentially to sex or gender, the request that a female employee go for coffee does not amount to sexual harassment.
What happened.A woman worked as a part-time receptionist for National Sales & Supply, of Bensalem, for 6 weeks. When two male vice presidents asked her to get coffee for them on an almost-daily basis, she complied a few times, but felt that the requests "reinforced outdated gender stereotypes" and bordered on harassment. When one of the VPs insisted via e-mail that one of her responsibilities was to make and bring him coffee, she responded that had she known this, she would never have taken the job. Nine minutes later, he sent an e-mail back to her telling her she was fired. She sued the company for sexual harassment. National asked the court to dismiss the case.
What the court said. The court interpreted the sexual harassment claim as a claim of a hostile work environment. She had to show that (1) she suffered intentional discrimination because of [her] sex; (2) the discrimination was pervasive and regular; (3) the discrimination detrimentally affected her; (4) the discrimination would detrimentally affect a reasonable person of the same sex in that position; and (5) the employer was responsible for it.
Sexual overtones aren`t necessarily required: Behavior that creates a barrier to the progress of women in the workplace may qualify as such, the court said, because it conveys the message that women do not belong, and that they are welcome in the workplace only if they will subvert their identities to the sexual stereotypes prevalent in that environment. Here, the court stated that the act of getting coffee is not, by itself, a gender-specific act, but that in the context of other indicators of sexism, getting coffee could evince a discriminatory intent.
However, comparing her evidence to that presented in support of similar successful claims of sexual harassment, the court found that there was no evidence of offensive statements or other servile acts (e.g., dropping off laundry or paying personal bills for the male superiors). "There is no evidence of spoken or written statements, demeaning or otherwise, relating even tangentially to sex or gender," the court stated, granting the motion to dismiss. Klopfenstein v. National Sales and Supply, U.S. District Court for the Eastern District of Pennsylvania, No. 07-4004 (6/5/08).
Point to remember: As the court stated, in the context of other indicators of sexism, getting coffee could evince a discriminatory intent. But with no evidence of any demeaning statements relating even tangentially to sex or gender, the request that a female employee go for coffee does not amount to sexual harassment.
Please Realize that your are Blessed !!!
Enjoy reading and thank God that you are blessed with lovely parents and let your parents know what they mean to you .
At 4 Years
My daddy is great.
At 6 Years
My daddy knows everybody.
At 10 Years
My daddy is good but is short tempered
At 12 Years
My daddy was very nice to me when I was young .
At 14 Years
My daddy is getting fastidious.
At 16 Years
My daddy is not in line with the current times.
At 18 Years
My daddy is becoming increasingly cranky.
At 20 Years
O h! Its becoming difficult to tolerate daddy. Wonder how Mother puts up with him.
At 25 Years
Daddy is objecting to everything.
At 30 Years
I t`s becoming difficult to manage my son. I was so scared of my
father when I was young.
At 40 Years
Daddy brought me up with so much discipline. Even I should do the
same.
At 45 Years
I am baffled as to how my daddy brought us up.
At 50 Years
My daddy faced so many hardships to bring us up. I am unable to manage a single son.
At 55 Years
My daddy was so far sighted and planned so many things for us.
He is one of his kind and unique.
At 60 Years
My daddy is great.
Thus, it took 56 years to complete the cycle and come back to the
1st stage.
Realize the true value of your parents before its too late.
At 4 Years
My daddy is great.
At 6 Years
My daddy knows everybody.
At 10 Years
My daddy is good but is short tempered
At 12 Years
My daddy was very nice to me when I was young .
At 14 Years
My daddy is getting fastidious.
At 16 Years
My daddy is not in line with the current times.
At 18 Years
My daddy is becoming increasingly cranky.
At 20 Years
O h! Its becoming difficult to tolerate daddy. Wonder how Mother puts up with him.
At 25 Years
Daddy is objecting to everything.
At 30 Years
I t`s becoming difficult to manage my son. I was so scared of my
father when I was young.
At 40 Years
Daddy brought me up with so much discipline. Even I should do the
same.
At 45 Years
I am baffled as to how my daddy brought us up.
At 50 Years
My daddy faced so many hardships to bring us up. I am unable to manage a single son.
At 55 Years
My daddy was so far sighted and planned so many things for us.
He is one of his kind and unique.
At 60 Years
My daddy is great.
Thus, it took 56 years to complete the cycle and come back to the
1st stage.
Realize the true value of your parents before its too late.
Monday, July 28, 2008
The King & his Leather Slippers!
Long long ago, there was a king who never knew that something like a foot ware existed. He was forever bruising and scraping his feet over hard rocky soil or would slip and fall on damp soil. One day, completely exasperated with this problem, he turned to his trusty minister and ordered: “I want you to carpet the entire kingdom with leather, or it`s off with your head!”
The poor minister sat up half the night thinking about this impossible task, and knowing full well that he would surely lose his head if he does not come with a right solution. Suddenly, just as the sun began to rise, his fear turned to joy. He had an idea. Bounding from his bed, he ran to the leather shoe maker
When the king awoke the next morning he jumped quickly out of bed and hurried to the royal window to view his leather carpet atleast around his palace. Seeing not one inch of leather carpet anywhere he began bellowing for the minister roaring wildly. “Minister, Where`s my minister? I`ll have his head!”
At that very moment, the minister appeared at the king`s door clutching a pair of well designed leather slippers in his hands. “Oh your highness, please be so kind as to try these first,” he begged. The king agreed, and in the wink of an eye the minister slipped the world`s first pair of leather slippers onto the king`s royal feet.
Instantly the king`s anger turned to delight. Shuffling around the room with the softness of the finest leather in the kingdom beneath his feet, all he could do was smile with every step.
Moral of this story: Relates to effective listening and finding something to get interested in. It is about listening for more than we are accustomed to, and turning every interaction into a challenge.
Throughout life we often find ourselves in situations we don`t like and can`t change; we can, however, learn how to change our own experience and gain valuable insights along the way. Most of us do not realize the importance of listening as a communicative tool. Yet studies have shown that we actually spend 50% more time listening than we do talking. We often take listening for granted, never realizing that it is a skill that can be learned.
Listening is an attitude that one can change for the better!
The poor minister sat up half the night thinking about this impossible task, and knowing full well that he would surely lose his head if he does not come with a right solution. Suddenly, just as the sun began to rise, his fear turned to joy. He had an idea. Bounding from his bed, he ran to the leather shoe maker
When the king awoke the next morning he jumped quickly out of bed and hurried to the royal window to view his leather carpet atleast around his palace. Seeing not one inch of leather carpet anywhere he began bellowing for the minister roaring wildly. “Minister, Where`s my minister? I`ll have his head!”
At that very moment, the minister appeared at the king`s door clutching a pair of well designed leather slippers in his hands. “Oh your highness, please be so kind as to try these first,” he begged. The king agreed, and in the wink of an eye the minister slipped the world`s first pair of leather slippers onto the king`s royal feet.
Instantly the king`s anger turned to delight. Shuffling around the room with the softness of the finest leather in the kingdom beneath his feet, all he could do was smile with every step.
Moral of this story: Relates to effective listening and finding something to get interested in. It is about listening for more than we are accustomed to, and turning every interaction into a challenge.
Throughout life we often find ourselves in situations we don`t like and can`t change; we can, however, learn how to change our own experience and gain valuable insights along the way. Most of us do not realize the importance of listening as a communicative tool. Yet studies have shown that we actually spend 50% more time listening than we do talking. We often take listening for granted, never realizing that it is a skill that can be learned.
Listening is an attitude that one can change for the better!
Most Difficult Questions Asked in the Interview !!!(With Answers)!!
Tell me about yourself.
My background to date has been centered around preparing myself to become the very best _____ I can become. Let me tell you specifically how I`ve prepared myself . . . ..............
Why should I hire you?
Because I sincerely believe that I`m the best person for the job. I realize that there are many other college students who have the ability to do this job. I also have that ability. But I also bring an additional quality that makes me the very best person for the job--my attitude for excellence. Not just giving lip service to excellence, but putting every part of myself into achieving it. In _____ and _____ I have consistently reached for becoming the very best I can become by doing the following . . . ............( your few achievemnts)
What is your long-range objective? Where do you want to be 10 or 15 years from now?
Although it`s certainly difficult to predict things far into the future, I know what direction I want to develop toward. Within five years, I would like to become the very best _____ your company has. In fact, my personal career mission statement is to become a world-class _____ in the _____ industry. I will work toward becoming the expert that others rely upon. And in doing so, I feel I will be fully prepared to take on any greater responsibilities that might be presented in the long term.
How has your education prepared you for your career?
As you will note on my resume, I`ve taken not only the required core classes in the _____ field, I`ve also gone above and beyond. I`ve taken every class the college has to offer in the field and also completed an independent study project specifically in this area. But it`s not just taking the classes to gain academic knowledge--I`ve taken each class, both inside and outside of my major, with this profession in mind. So when we`re studying _____ in _____, I`ve viewed it from the perspective of _____. In addition, I`ve always tried to keep a practical view of how the information would apply to my job. Not just theory, but how it would actually apply. My capstone course project in my final semester involved developing a real-world model of _____, which is very similar to what might be used within your company. Let me tell you more about it . . .
Are you a team player?
Very much so. In fact, I`ve had opportunities in both athletics and academics to develop my skills as a team player. I was involved in _____ at the intramural level, including leading my team in assists during the past year--I always try to help others achieve their best. In academics, I`ve worked on several team projects, serving as both a member and team leader. I`ve seen the value of working together as a team to achieve a greater goal than any one of us could have achieved individually. As an example . . .
Have you ever had a conflict with a boss or professor? How was it resolved?
Yes, I have had conflicts in the past. Never major ones, but certainly there have been situations where there was a disagreement that needed to be resolved. I`ve found that when conflict occurs, it`s because of a failure to see both sides of the situation. Therefore, I ask the other person to give me their perspective and at the same time ask that they allow me to fully explain my perspective. At that point, I would work with the person to find out if a compromise could be reached. If not, I would submit to their decision because they are my superior. In the end, you have to be willing to submit yourself to the directives of your superior, whether you`re in full agreement or not. An example of this was when . . .
What is your greatest weakness?
I would say my greatest weakness has been my lack of proper planning in the past. I would overcommit myself with too many variant tasks, then not be able to fully accomplish each as I would like. However, since I`ve come to recognize that weakness, I`ve taken steps to correct it. For example, I now carry a planning calendar in my pocket so that I can plan all of my appointments and "to do" items. Here, let me show you how I have this week planned out . . .
If I were to ask your professors to describe you, what would they say?
I believe they would say I`m a very energetic person, that I put my mind to the task at hand and see to it that it`s accomplished. They would say that if they ever had something that needed to be done, I was the person who they could always depend on to see that it was accomplished. They would say that I always took a keen interest in the subjects I was studying and always sought ways to apply the knowledge in real world settings. Am I just guessing that they would say these things? No, in fact, I`m quite certain they would say those things because I have with me several letters of recommendation from my professors, and those are their very words. Let me show you . . .
What qualities do you feel a successful manager should have?
The key quality should be leadership--the ability to be the visionary for the people who are working under them. The person who can set the course and direction for subordinates. A manager should also be a positive role model for others to follow. The highest calling of a true leader is inspiring others to reach the highest of their abilities. I`d like to tell you about a person who I consider to be a true leader . . .
If you had to live your life over again, what would you change?
That`s a good question. I realize that it can be very easy to continually look back and wish that things had been different in the past. But I also realize that things in the past cannot be changed, that only things in the future can be changed. That`s why I continually strive to improve myself each and every day and that`s why I`m working hard to continually increase my knowledge in the _____ field. That`s also the reason why I want to become the very best _____ your company has ever had. To make positive change. And all of that is still in the future. So in answer to your question, there isn`t anything in my past that I would change. I look only to the future to make changes in my life.
In reviewing the above responses, please remember that these are sample answers. Please do not rehearse them verbatim or adopt them as your own. They are meant to stir your creative juices and get you thinking about how to properly answer the broader range of questions that you will face.
My background to date has been centered around preparing myself to become the very best _____ I can become. Let me tell you specifically how I`ve prepared myself . . . ..............
Why should I hire you?
Because I sincerely believe that I`m the best person for the job. I realize that there are many other college students who have the ability to do this job. I also have that ability. But I also bring an additional quality that makes me the very best person for the job--my attitude for excellence. Not just giving lip service to excellence, but putting every part of myself into achieving it. In _____ and _____ I have consistently reached for becoming the very best I can become by doing the following . . . ............( your few achievemnts)
What is your long-range objective? Where do you want to be 10 or 15 years from now?
Although it`s certainly difficult to predict things far into the future, I know what direction I want to develop toward. Within five years, I would like to become the very best _____ your company has. In fact, my personal career mission statement is to become a world-class _____ in the _____ industry. I will work toward becoming the expert that others rely upon. And in doing so, I feel I will be fully prepared to take on any greater responsibilities that might be presented in the long term.
How has your education prepared you for your career?
As you will note on my resume, I`ve taken not only the required core classes in the _____ field, I`ve also gone above and beyond. I`ve taken every class the college has to offer in the field and also completed an independent study project specifically in this area. But it`s not just taking the classes to gain academic knowledge--I`ve taken each class, both inside and outside of my major, with this profession in mind. So when we`re studying _____ in _____, I`ve viewed it from the perspective of _____. In addition, I`ve always tried to keep a practical view of how the information would apply to my job. Not just theory, but how it would actually apply. My capstone course project in my final semester involved developing a real-world model of _____, which is very similar to what might be used within your company. Let me tell you more about it . . .
Are you a team player?
Very much so. In fact, I`ve had opportunities in both athletics and academics to develop my skills as a team player. I was involved in _____ at the intramural level, including leading my team in assists during the past year--I always try to help others achieve their best. In academics, I`ve worked on several team projects, serving as both a member and team leader. I`ve seen the value of working together as a team to achieve a greater goal than any one of us could have achieved individually. As an example . . .
Have you ever had a conflict with a boss or professor? How was it resolved?
Yes, I have had conflicts in the past. Never major ones, but certainly there have been situations where there was a disagreement that needed to be resolved. I`ve found that when conflict occurs, it`s because of a failure to see both sides of the situation. Therefore, I ask the other person to give me their perspective and at the same time ask that they allow me to fully explain my perspective. At that point, I would work with the person to find out if a compromise could be reached. If not, I would submit to their decision because they are my superior. In the end, you have to be willing to submit yourself to the directives of your superior, whether you`re in full agreement or not. An example of this was when . . .
What is your greatest weakness?
I would say my greatest weakness has been my lack of proper planning in the past. I would overcommit myself with too many variant tasks, then not be able to fully accomplish each as I would like. However, since I`ve come to recognize that weakness, I`ve taken steps to correct it. For example, I now carry a planning calendar in my pocket so that I can plan all of my appointments and "to do" items. Here, let me show you how I have this week planned out . . .
If I were to ask your professors to describe you, what would they say?
I believe they would say I`m a very energetic person, that I put my mind to the task at hand and see to it that it`s accomplished. They would say that if they ever had something that needed to be done, I was the person who they could always depend on to see that it was accomplished. They would say that I always took a keen interest in the subjects I was studying and always sought ways to apply the knowledge in real world settings. Am I just guessing that they would say these things? No, in fact, I`m quite certain they would say those things because I have with me several letters of recommendation from my professors, and those are their very words. Let me show you . . .
What qualities do you feel a successful manager should have?
The key quality should be leadership--the ability to be the visionary for the people who are working under them. The person who can set the course and direction for subordinates. A manager should also be a positive role model for others to follow. The highest calling of a true leader is inspiring others to reach the highest of their abilities. I`d like to tell you about a person who I consider to be a true leader . . .
If you had to live your life over again, what would you change?
That`s a good question. I realize that it can be very easy to continually look back and wish that things had been different in the past. But I also realize that things in the past cannot be changed, that only things in the future can be changed. That`s why I continually strive to improve myself each and every day and that`s why I`m working hard to continually increase my knowledge in the _____ field. That`s also the reason why I want to become the very best _____ your company has ever had. To make positive change. And all of that is still in the future. So in answer to your question, there isn`t anything in my past that I would change. I look only to the future to make changes in my life.
In reviewing the above responses, please remember that these are sample answers. Please do not rehearse them verbatim or adopt them as your own. They are meant to stir your creative juices and get you thinking about how to properly answer the broader range of questions that you will face.
Important !! CV/Resume !!
What is the best kind of resume?
There is no one best kind. The best resume is one that works best.
That`s obvious, isn`t it?
It should be, but most of the resumes I`ve seen aren`t designed with that "obvious" purpose in mind. They read like an obituary, simply listing jobs, duties and education. They are dull, boring and dead. What they aren`t, typically, is an advertisement to catch attention and stimulate interest.
But isn`t a resume supposed to tell your work history?
Says who? If a work history produces interviews, fine. Otherwise, no. A history or chronological resume can be effective for people who fit into a neat category. For example, if you have always worked as an accountant and want another job as an accountant, a work history may be appropriate. Even so, there are some pitfalls to avoid.
Like what?
Like length. Anything more than a page or so won`t be read. Like job duties. Anyone reading your resume probably knows what the duties of an accountant, or whatever, are. Instead of just listing duties, describe your accomplishments! Show how you have helped your employers. The typical resume says nothing about whether you did your job well or not, just that you did it.
What if you don`t have any spectacular successes?
That`s okay. An accomplishment doesn`t have to be major, just any task you performed well that helped your employer. There is no better way to prove you can help prospective employers solve their problems than to mention results you have produced in the past. Further, in listing accomplishments, you are not bragging, just stating facts. The reader will believe whatever their own conclusions are about those facts. They will doubt it if they hear from you how great you are. Accomplishments push an employer`s hot buttons buy focusing on what is in it for them in hiring you.
What else can a resume be, if not a history?
It can be an advertisement for you. Often, the most effective resume is one that shows what you can do for an employer, not just where you have been. A good resume embodies the "advertising theme" for your self-marketing campaign. It communicates a simple, clear, accurate, positive message emphasizing the benefits an employer will gain by hiring you. It is often best organized around skills, not jobs. For example, the main headings for a manager`s resume might be: Decision Making and Problem Solving;, Planning and Organizing; and Communication and Directing. Relevant accomplishments from several jobs are listed under each of these headings, proving you have that skill. A brief history of jobs and schooling might be at the bottom of the page. This can all fits on one page, is more memorable and it leads them to their own conclusion that you are good at what you do.
How do you know what skills to emphasize?
Figure out what your prospective employer is looking for, then emphasize that.
What if different job skills are wanted for various jobs?
Then you need more than one resume. Ideally, you should have a unique resume for each prospective employer.
That`s a lot of trouble, isn't it?
Not really. With word processing, it is easy to make different resumes once you have developed a list of accomplishments. Besides, if you are using your resume properly, you will not need many of them. The most important purpose of a resume is to think through your image, or "unique selling proposition". In an effective job search, the resume is mainly a script to use in talking about yourself. The best time to give your resume is at the end of the interview as a tangible reminder of the message you have been conveying.
You`re saying that people rely too much on resumes?
Exactly! But that`s another story.
There is no one best kind. The best resume is one that works best.
That`s obvious, isn`t it?
It should be, but most of the resumes I`ve seen aren`t designed with that "obvious" purpose in mind. They read like an obituary, simply listing jobs, duties and education. They are dull, boring and dead. What they aren`t, typically, is an advertisement to catch attention and stimulate interest.
But isn`t a resume supposed to tell your work history?
Says who? If a work history produces interviews, fine. Otherwise, no. A history or chronological resume can be effective for people who fit into a neat category. For example, if you have always worked as an accountant and want another job as an accountant, a work history may be appropriate. Even so, there are some pitfalls to avoid.
Like what?
Like length. Anything more than a page or so won`t be read. Like job duties. Anyone reading your resume probably knows what the duties of an accountant, or whatever, are. Instead of just listing duties, describe your accomplishments! Show how you have helped your employers. The typical resume says nothing about whether you did your job well or not, just that you did it.
What if you don`t have any spectacular successes?
That`s okay. An accomplishment doesn`t have to be major, just any task you performed well that helped your employer. There is no better way to prove you can help prospective employers solve their problems than to mention results you have produced in the past. Further, in listing accomplishments, you are not bragging, just stating facts. The reader will believe whatever their own conclusions are about those facts. They will doubt it if they hear from you how great you are. Accomplishments push an employer`s hot buttons buy focusing on what is in it for them in hiring you.
What else can a resume be, if not a history?
It can be an advertisement for you. Often, the most effective resume is one that shows what you can do for an employer, not just where you have been. A good resume embodies the "advertising theme" for your self-marketing campaign. It communicates a simple, clear, accurate, positive message emphasizing the benefits an employer will gain by hiring you. It is often best organized around skills, not jobs. For example, the main headings for a manager`s resume might be: Decision Making and Problem Solving;, Planning and Organizing; and Communication and Directing. Relevant accomplishments from several jobs are listed under each of these headings, proving you have that skill. A brief history of jobs and schooling might be at the bottom of the page. This can all fits on one page, is more memorable and it leads them to their own conclusion that you are good at what you do.
How do you know what skills to emphasize?
Figure out what your prospective employer is looking for, then emphasize that.
What if different job skills are wanted for various jobs?
Then you need more than one resume. Ideally, you should have a unique resume for each prospective employer.
That`s a lot of trouble, isn't it?
Not really. With word processing, it is easy to make different resumes once you have developed a list of accomplishments. Besides, if you are using your resume properly, you will not need many of them. The most important purpose of a resume is to think through your image, or "unique selling proposition". In an effective job search, the resume is mainly a script to use in talking about yourself. The best time to give your resume is at the end of the interview as a tangible reminder of the message you have been conveying.
You`re saying that people rely too much on resumes?
Exactly! But that`s another story.
Finding A Job - 4 Steps To Success !!!
Finding a job is a difficult process. If this is the first time you are looking for a job, you may be very nervous and worried about whether you will find one or not. The following steps will help you gain more chances of getting your desired job.
KNOW WHAT YOU WANT:This may sound simple but it is an essential factor making your success. You should ask yourself questions to find out which job suits you the best. Dont make your choice too
general. Make it specific and detailed. You have to focus on a certain work, a defined position.Nothing is worse than a vague idea. This will be more important later when you write the motivation letter or when you are interviewed. The employers are usually much more interested in applicants who are determined and have a clear idea about their strong and weak points, about what they exactly want and how they will do it.
SEARCH FOR INFORMATION:The information you have to search is everything about the companies you like, about the current status of your desired job or about any possible alternatives.You have to gather much information before making a decision. In addition, if you want to get a job, you have to master all public information about the company you apply to. The website of that company will help you a lot. If you know anyone working in that company, go and ask him for more information. Maybe he will help you with a lot of useful news and info. Having much information in hand doesnt only help you make a better choice but also helps you a great deal later, when you are interviewed. Employers may ask you some questions about their company and you will score more points if you have good knowledge about the history, development and current status of the company.
TAKE CARE OF YOUR APPLICATION:Your application packet is your application form, a letter of motivation, your CV and a letter of recommendation if possible.Choose the CV type which suits
you the best. If you have worked for another company before, you shouldnt describe much about what you did, but tell about your achievements and your good results.However,if you haven`t got
much working experience, you should write more about your skills and certifications as well as your extra activities and how eager and diligent you are in any activity.Be confident.You should show the employer that you believe that you are the right person for the position. Your motivation letter has to show that. If you dont believe in yourself, how can you gain the employers belief? However, self-confidence doesn`t mean arrogance.Be careful with your writing
and dont make people feel that you are boasting about yourself.
NEVER GIVE UP:There are many difficulties and obstacles in finding a job nowadays.People searching for jobs always outnumber jobs available.Nothing is easy, especially if its your first time.There is rarely anyone that can get his wished job right from the first time of application. Always keep trying and never be disheartened, your desired job will be there for you.
KNOW WHAT YOU WANT:This may sound simple but it is an essential factor making your success. You should ask yourself questions to find out which job suits you the best. Dont make your choice too
general. Make it specific and detailed. You have to focus on a certain work, a defined position.Nothing is worse than a vague idea. This will be more important later when you write the motivation letter or when you are interviewed. The employers are usually much more interested in applicants who are determined and have a clear idea about their strong and weak points, about what they exactly want and how they will do it.
SEARCH FOR INFORMATION:The information you have to search is everything about the companies you like, about the current status of your desired job or about any possible alternatives.You have to gather much information before making a decision. In addition, if you want to get a job, you have to master all public information about the company you apply to. The website of that company will help you a lot. If you know anyone working in that company, go and ask him for more information. Maybe he will help you with a lot of useful news and info. Having much information in hand doesnt only help you make a better choice but also helps you a great deal later, when you are interviewed. Employers may ask you some questions about their company and you will score more points if you have good knowledge about the history, development and current status of the company.
TAKE CARE OF YOUR APPLICATION:Your application packet is your application form, a letter of motivation, your CV and a letter of recommendation if possible.Choose the CV type which suits
you the best. If you have worked for another company before, you shouldnt describe much about what you did, but tell about your achievements and your good results.However,if you haven`t got
much working experience, you should write more about your skills and certifications as well as your extra activities and how eager and diligent you are in any activity.Be confident.You should show the employer that you believe that you are the right person for the position. Your motivation letter has to show that. If you dont believe in yourself, how can you gain the employers belief? However, self-confidence doesn`t mean arrogance.Be careful with your writing
and dont make people feel that you are boasting about yourself.
NEVER GIVE UP:There are many difficulties and obstacles in finding a job nowadays.People searching for jobs always outnumber jobs available.Nothing is easy, especially if its your first time.There is rarely anyone that can get his wished job right from the first time of application. Always keep trying and never be disheartened, your desired job will be there for you.
21 Ways to increase Self Motivation!!!
1. Consequences - Never use threats. They’ll turn people against you. But making people aware of the negative consequences of not getting results (for everyone involved) can have a big impact. This one is also big for self motivation. If you don’t get your act together, will you ever get what you want?
2. Pleasure - This is the old carrot on a stick technique. Providing pleasurable rewards creates eager and productive people.
3. Performance incentives - Appeal to people’s selfish nature. Give them the opportunity to earn more for themselves by earning more for you.
4. Detailed instructions - If you want a specific result, give specific instructions. People work better when they know exactly what’s expected.
5. Short and long term goals - Use both short and long term goals to guide the action process and create an overall philosophy.
6. Kindness - Get people on your side and they’ll want to help you. Piss them off and they’ll do everything they can to screw you over.
7. Deadlines - Many people are most productive right before a big deadline. They also have a hard time focusing until that deadline is looming overhead. Use this to your advantage by setting up a series of mini-deadlines building up to an end result.
8. Team Spirit - Create an environment of camaraderie. People work more effectively when they feel like part of team — they don’t want to let others down.
10. Recognize achievement - Make a point to recognize achievements one-on-one and also in group settings. People like to see that their work isn’t being ignored.
11. Personal stake - Think about the personal stake of others. What do they need? By understanding this you’ll be able to keep people happy and productive.
12. Concentrate on outcomes - No one likes to work with someone standing over their shoulder. Focus on outcomes — make it clear what you want and cut people loose to get it done on their own.
13. Trust and Respect - Give people the trust and respect they deserve and they’ll respond to requests much more favorably.
14. Create challenges - People are happy when they’re progressing towards a goal. Give them the opportunity to face new and difficult problems and they’ll be more enthusiastic.
15. Let people be creative - Don’t expect everyone to do things your way. Allowing people to be creative creates a more optimistic environment and can lead to awesome new ideas.
16. Constructive criticism - Often people don’t realize what they’re doing wrong. Let them know. Most people want to improve and will make an effort once they know how to do it.
17. Demand improvement - Don’t let people stagnate. Each time someone advances raise the bar a little higher (especially for yourself).
18. Make it fun - Work is most enjoyable when it doesn’t feel like work at all. Let people have fun and the positive environment will lead to better results.
19. Create opportunities - Give people the opportunity to advance. Let them know that hard work will pay off.
20. Communication - Keep the communication channels open. By being aware of potential problems you can fix them before a serious dispute arises.
21. Make it stimulating - Mix it up. Don’t ask people to do the same boring tasks all the time. A stimulating environment creates enthusiasm and the opportunity for “big picture” thinking.
2. Pleasure - This is the old carrot on a stick technique. Providing pleasurable rewards creates eager and productive people.
3. Performance incentives - Appeal to people’s selfish nature. Give them the opportunity to earn more for themselves by earning more for you.
4. Detailed instructions - If you want a specific result, give specific instructions. People work better when they know exactly what’s expected.
5. Short and long term goals - Use both short and long term goals to guide the action process and create an overall philosophy.
6. Kindness - Get people on your side and they’ll want to help you. Piss them off and they’ll do everything they can to screw you over.
7. Deadlines - Many people are most productive right before a big deadline. They also have a hard time focusing until that deadline is looming overhead. Use this to your advantage by setting up a series of mini-deadlines building up to an end result.
8. Team Spirit - Create an environment of camaraderie. People work more effectively when they feel like part of team — they don’t want to let others down.
10. Recognize achievement - Make a point to recognize achievements one-on-one and also in group settings. People like to see that their work isn’t being ignored.
11. Personal stake - Think about the personal stake of others. What do they need? By understanding this you’ll be able to keep people happy and productive.
12. Concentrate on outcomes - No one likes to work with someone standing over their shoulder. Focus on outcomes — make it clear what you want and cut people loose to get it done on their own.
13. Trust and Respect - Give people the trust and respect they deserve and they’ll respond to requests much more favorably.
14. Create challenges - People are happy when they’re progressing towards a goal. Give them the opportunity to face new and difficult problems and they’ll be more enthusiastic.
15. Let people be creative - Don’t expect everyone to do things your way. Allowing people to be creative creates a more optimistic environment and can lead to awesome new ideas.
16. Constructive criticism - Often people don’t realize what they’re doing wrong. Let them know. Most people want to improve and will make an effort once they know how to do it.
17. Demand improvement - Don’t let people stagnate. Each time someone advances raise the bar a little higher (especially for yourself).
18. Make it fun - Work is most enjoyable when it doesn’t feel like work at all. Let people have fun and the positive environment will lead to better results.
19. Create opportunities - Give people the opportunity to advance. Let them know that hard work will pay off.
20. Communication - Keep the communication channels open. By being aware of potential problems you can fix them before a serious dispute arises.
21. Make it stimulating - Mix it up. Don’t ask people to do the same boring tasks all the time. A stimulating environment creates enthusiasm and the opportunity for “big picture” thinking.
Excel Your Job Interview !!!
Interviews are often the most dreaded part of the job search process, but they need not be. With a little preparation, interviews become effortless and you can secure the job you want. When you sit to write an exam, you studied in advance. Its the same with interviews, but fortunately, not nearly as taxing as preparing for an exam. The steps themselves are simple, and dont require much in terms of preparation.
First, anticipate the likely questions. Sit and think about what sort of questions you would ask, if you were conducting the interview. Its impossible to anticipate every question, but think of some big ones, and even if they don`t get asked, they will be good preparation for other questions and provide you a base to answer from.
First impressions last. Sad but true. When it comes to an interview, you must take care to put forward the right image. This extends to personal hygeine, being clean shaven, having clean nails and so on. You want to convey an image of professionalism.
Our bodies communicate volumes of information. Trained interviewers can read your body language like a poker pro. While we cant hide the messages our body sends, we can control and shape those messages to improve the impression we give to the interviewer.
First, anticipate the likely questions. Sit and think about what sort of questions you would ask, if you were conducting the interview. Its impossible to anticipate every question, but think of some big ones, and even if they don`t get asked, they will be good preparation for other questions and provide you a base to answer from.
First impressions last. Sad but true. When it comes to an interview, you must take care to put forward the right image. This extends to personal hygeine, being clean shaven, having clean nails and so on. You want to convey an image of professionalism.
Our bodies communicate volumes of information. Trained interviewers can read your body language like a poker pro. While we cant hide the messages our body sends, we can control and shape those messages to improve the impression we give to the interviewer.
Tips for an Exceptional, Superb Life !!!
1.) Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate antidepressant.
2.) Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Buy a lock if you have to.
3.) Always pray and make time to exercise.
4.) Spend more time with people over the age of 70 And under the age of Six.
5.) Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants And eat less foods that are manufactured in Plants.
6.) Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat broccoli, almonds & walnuts.
7.) Try to make at least three people smile each day.
8.) Clear your clutter from your house, car, desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.
9.) Don`t waste your precious energy on gossip, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control.
Instead, invest your energy in the positive present moment.
10.) Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appears and fades away like algebra class .......but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
11.) Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a layman And dinner like a beggar.
12.) Life isn`t fair, but it`s still good.
13.) Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
14.) Don`t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15.) You don`t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
16.) Make peace with your past so it won`t screw up the present.
17.) Don`t compare your life to others`. You have no Idea what their journey is all about.
18.) Ladies - Go on and burn those `special` scented Candles, use the 600 thread count sheets, the good China and wear fancy clothes now. Stop waiting for a special occasion. Every day is special.
19.) No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
20.) Frame every so-called disaster with these Words: `In five years, will this matter?`
21.) Forgive everyone for everything.
22.) What other people think of you is none of your Business.
23.) Time heals almost everything. Give time, time!
24.) However good or bad a situation is, it will Change.
25.) Your job won`t take care of you when you are Sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch with them.
26.) Get rid of anything that isn`t useful, beautiful or joyful.
27.) Envy is a waste of time. You already have all You need. God provides, remember?!
28.) The best is yet to come.
29.) No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
30.) Do the right thing!
31.) Call your family often.
32.) Each night before you go to bed complete the Following statements: `I am thankful for __________.`
Today I accomplished _________.
33.) Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
34.) Enjoy the ride. Remember that this is not Disney World and you certainly don`t want a fast Pass. You only have one ride through life so make The most of it and enjoy the ride.
LIVE, LOVE, LAUGH. LIFE`S A gift. that`s why it`s called PRESENT ... UNWRAP IT!
2.) Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Buy a lock if you have to.
3.) Always pray and make time to exercise.
4.) Spend more time with people over the age of 70 And under the age of Six.
5.) Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants And eat less foods that are manufactured in Plants.
6.) Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat broccoli, almonds & walnuts.
7.) Try to make at least three people smile each day.
8.) Clear your clutter from your house, car, desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.
9.) Don`t waste your precious energy on gossip, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control.
Instead, invest your energy in the positive present moment.
10.) Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appears and fades away like algebra class .......but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
11.) Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a layman And dinner like a beggar.
12.) Life isn`t fair, but it`s still good.
13.) Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
14.) Don`t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15.) You don`t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
16.) Make peace with your past so it won`t screw up the present.
17.) Don`t compare your life to others`. You have no Idea what their journey is all about.
18.) Ladies - Go on and burn those `special` scented Candles, use the 600 thread count sheets, the good China and wear fancy clothes now. Stop waiting for a special occasion. Every day is special.
19.) No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
20.) Frame every so-called disaster with these Words: `In five years, will this matter?`
21.) Forgive everyone for everything.
22.) What other people think of you is none of your Business.
23.) Time heals almost everything. Give time, time!
24.) However good or bad a situation is, it will Change.
25.) Your job won`t take care of you when you are Sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch with them.
26.) Get rid of anything that isn`t useful, beautiful or joyful.
27.) Envy is a waste of time. You already have all You need. God provides, remember?!
28.) The best is yet to come.
29.) No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
30.) Do the right thing!
31.) Call your family often.
32.) Each night before you go to bed complete the Following statements: `I am thankful for __________.`
Today I accomplished _________.
33.) Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
34.) Enjoy the ride. Remember that this is not Disney World and you certainly don`t want a fast Pass. You only have one ride through life so make The most of it and enjoy the ride.
LIVE, LOVE, LAUGH. LIFE`S A gift. that`s why it`s called PRESENT ... UNWRAP IT!
Memory Improvement in 3 points !!
1) Primacy and Recency Effects
Changing tasks and taking strategic breaks in the middle of a task when you are studying is a great way to improve your memory of what you study. Taking breaks, especially in the middle of something might seem counterintuitive, but you will get exponentially better results from the time you put in. By studying smarter rather than harder, you can accomplish much more in much less time. Not only is it easier to remember something that you have left incomplete, it is also easier to remember what you do at the beginning and what you have done most recently.
2) Forgetting the Right Things
To develop your memory and increase efficiency, you must first choose the method of remembering that you want to focus on. For example, memorizing poetry will not help you to recall people’s names easily. In order to improve your memory, you must decide on the type of memory you want to achieve. Determine this based on your profession, or on your own specific requirements, questioning aspects such as “Is it necessary to have a good memory for names in my profession?” By analyzing your memory needs, you will have a more precise idea of what type of memory you should cultivate.
3) Making use of your Subconscious Mind
Whatever your mind dwells on before you go to bed becomes fodder for your subconscious mind. In order to harness its power, make a quick review of the material that you want to recall in an easily accessible format such as mind maps. You will find that this will greatly improve your memory on that material, and for an additional you go to sleep can do a great deal to improve your memory of that material. For a heightened memory, go through the same material when you wake up the next day. You will experience a deeper understanding of the material, and this will make remembering it a breeze.
Changing tasks and taking strategic breaks in the middle of a task when you are studying is a great way to improve your memory of what you study. Taking breaks, especially in the middle of something might seem counterintuitive, but you will get exponentially better results from the time you put in. By studying smarter rather than harder, you can accomplish much more in much less time. Not only is it easier to remember something that you have left incomplete, it is also easier to remember what you do at the beginning and what you have done most recently.
2) Forgetting the Right Things
To develop your memory and increase efficiency, you must first choose the method of remembering that you want to focus on. For example, memorizing poetry will not help you to recall people’s names easily. In order to improve your memory, you must decide on the type of memory you want to achieve. Determine this based on your profession, or on your own specific requirements, questioning aspects such as “Is it necessary to have a good memory for names in my profession?” By analyzing your memory needs, you will have a more precise idea of what type of memory you should cultivate.
3) Making use of your Subconscious Mind
Whatever your mind dwells on before you go to bed becomes fodder for your subconscious mind. In order to harness its power, make a quick review of the material that you want to recall in an easily accessible format such as mind maps. You will find that this will greatly improve your memory on that material, and for an additional you go to sleep can do a great deal to improve your memory of that material. For a heightened memory, go through the same material when you wake up the next day. You will experience a deeper understanding of the material, and this will make remembering it a breeze.
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