ANGELS PARADISE

Tumse hi tumhi me khona hai

2010-08-06T16:26:00.002+12:00

Jab mai tumse chup raheti huin… hazare batein man se guzarti hai
Jab mai tumse ladti nahi … bahut kuch sochti raheti
Jab mai tumhe dekhti hazaro sawalo ke saath…sochti hui kab tak tum mere rahoge
Jab mai deer se kaheti ki mai theek huin… mai theek nahi hoti
Jab mai tumhe sirf dekhti hi raheti… sochti huin tum sapna toh nahi
Jab mai kaheti mai tumhe yaad karti… yeh hi such hota
Jab tumse kaheti ki “i miss you"…mujhse zada aur koi nahi miss kar sakta tumhe
I MISS U

Story of a Doll

2010-08-05T15:59:00.002+12:00

Two small kids – boy and girl were crying…

Some1 asked y r u both crying???

Girl said my doll has broken..

Boy said- bcoz my doll is crying

The value of your wait!

2010-08-05T14:40:00.002+12:00

The value of a brother is known when you don't have one,

A newly divorced couple can only say what is the value of 10 years,

The value of 4 long years is only felt by graduate,

A student who failed his final can explain the value of one year,

The misery a mother goes through who gave birth to a still born realize the value of nine months,

A mother of a premature baby can realize the value of one month,

An editor of a weekly newspaper knows for the value of one week,

The value of one minute is realised by a person who has missed the train, bus or plane,

A person who has survived an accident has to his credit the value of one-second,

The value of one millisecond is the reason the person who has won a silver medal in the Olympics,

The value of a friend is realised when you lose one,

To realize the value of one hour, minutes, and second, fall for someone that gives you a meaning to smile,

Time waits for no one. Treasure every moment you have. You will treasure it even more when you can share it with that someone special.

I Will Miss You

2010-06-24T14:26:00.000+12:00

Love some from unexpected places... And at a time u least expect it

How true is this statement.. I never read meaning in it... until u came my way

I never really thought we could be..anything more than mere friends...but the moment I looked
into your eyes, I saw something special

Something I've never seen before..I felt it all over me..you showed me how love feels

The feeling was so good..I long to feel that way...every minute of the day.

It felt so right, so passionate, so great!

I wish I could be with you every now and again

But time and chance could not let it but all the same, we'll work it out.

I will do miss you

HAPPY BIRTHDAY to my Dearest Papa in Heaven... missing you so much...

2010-05-24T11:35:00.000+12:00

I am not alone in this World... But my World is so lonely without YOU!

What do you think? Will cow urine drinks take off?

2009-02-17T14:46:00.004+12:00

Cow urine the new taste sensation as India markets it as a soft drink

New taste sensation ... cow urine / Reuters

* India plans to launch cow urine drink
* Drink promotes ideology of Hindu-ness

JUST when you thought we were milking the cow for all it's worth, along comes a fresh idea: cow urine as a fizzy drink.

No, it's not a stunt. India's Hindu nationalist movement, the Cow Protection Department of the Rashtriya Swayamsevak Sangh (RSS), says the drink is in the final stages of development.

The Times reports head of the department Om Prakash as saying the drink - called "gau jal", or "cow water" - in Sanskrit was undergoing laboratory tests and would be launched "very soon, maybe by the end of this year".

"Don't worry, it won't smell like urine and will be tasty too," he told The Times. "Its USP will be that it's going to be very healthy. It won't be like carbonated drinks and would be devoid of any toxins."

The Times reports the drink is the latest attempt to cleanse India of foreign influence and promote its ideology of Hindutva, or Hindu-ness.
http://www.news.com.au/story/0,27574,25043427-38196,00.html

My One and only LOVE

2008-12-15T11:14:00.001+12:00

There are just so many words
But I can't find one that's perfectly true.
I have said lots of I love you's
Have given you lots of kisses and hugs
I have given you my all
But still those are just not enough.

You're the only one I desire
You're the only one in my heart
Through good and bad
To my one and only love
That no one will ever compare

Take this simple vow
Let this be my devotion forever.
I love you and I will never leave you
No matter what happens I'll always be true
Though times may be rough
and days may be tough
I'll stick with you through and through
until the next life...

I'm thinking about you again and again

2008-11-21T11:19:00.003+12:00

And I'm thinking about you again and again
I'm thinking if you were here beside me
I guarantee...
You'll make me happy with your smile
You'll make me warm with your hug
You'll make me beautiful with your kiss
You'll make me strong with your words
And the most important thing...
I will not feel lonely like this
I really missing you, my Janom
Love you more each day
Because you really know whatever I want
Because you really know whatever I need
You really know about me
And you really understanding me
My dear, I LOVE YOU

Strength of a Man and Beauty of a Woman..!

2008-11-17T13:14:00.000+12:00

Strength of a Man

The strength of a man isn't seen in the width of his shoulders.
It is seen in the width of his arms that encircle you.
The strength of a man isn't in the deep tone of his voice.
It is in the gentle words he whispers.
The strength of a man isn't how many buddies he has.
It is how good a buddy he is with his kids.
The strength of a man isn't in how respected he is at work.
It is in how respected he is at home.
The strength of a man isn't in how hard he hits..
It is in how tender he touches.
The strength of a man isn't how many women he's Loved by.
It is in can he be true to one woman.
The strength of a man isn't in the weight he can lift.
It is in the burdens he can understand and overcome.

Beauty of a Woman

The beauty of a woman
Is not in the clothes she wears,
The figure she carries,
Or the way she combs her hair.
The beauty of a woman
Must be seen from her eyes,
Because that is the doorway to her heart,
The place where love resides.
The beauty of a woman
Is not in a facial mole,
But true beauty in a woman
Is reflected in her soul.
It is the caring that she lovingly gives,
The passion that she shows,
The beauty of a woman
With passing years-only grows.

Lucky is the man who is the first love of a woman,
but luckier is the woman who is the last love of a man

Love Happens Only Once....
Rest Is Just Life..

When a girl...

2008-11-17T12:26:00.000+12:00

When a GIRL is quiet, Millions of things are running in her mind.
When a GIRL is not arguing,She is thinking deeply.
When a GIRL looks at u with eyes full of questions, She is wondering how long you will be around.
When a GIRL answers "i'm fine" after a few seconds, She is not at all fine.
When a GIRL stares at you, She is wondering why you are lying.
When a GIRL says I love you, She means it.
When a GIRL says "i miss you", No one in this world can miss you more than her.
I MISS U

Journey Through Life

2008-09-09T11:38:00.002+12:00

I've learn't
that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I've learn't
that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I've learn't
that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I've learn't
that you can keep going long after you can't. I've learned- that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I've learn't
that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I've learn't
that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I've learn't
that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences. .

I've learn't
that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I've learn't
that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

I've learn't
that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.

I've learn't
that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I've learn't
that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I've learn't
that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I've learn't
that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I've learn't
that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.

I've learn't
that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I've learn't
that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others, Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learn't
that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I've learn't
that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I've learn't
that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I've learn't
that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret, It could change your life forever.

I've learn't
that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I've learn't
that your life can be changed in a matter of minutes, by people who don't even know you.

I've learn't
that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I've learn't
that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I've learn't
that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

True

2008-09-08T16:57:00.007+12:00

A dear brother has written his heart out for the girl he loves so much... you and I will know how he feel through this poem, hope one day his girl realises it too....wish you well with all the faith...

Time passes by as I watch you walk away

Finger by finger we are losing grasp

Pictures frozen in time are becoming clearer

The tears start to express what I cannot say

You have turned your back to me forever

I have been dying inside little by little

Going out of my mind in endless circles

Falling faster barely breathing

I’m half the man I thought I would be

Cause I lost a soul mate

You put me on the shelf and found somebody else

I never thought that you would ever do that

Said that you love me, said that you would never leave me

Maybe I just heard you wrong

Or maybe you gave up too soon

Damaged, scarred, forsaken, betrayed and broken

I cannot bear love again, NEVER

Emptiness and darkness envelope me from everywhere

Loneliness and regret consume me, I'm unable to share

I'm alive and I'm still breathing

And yet, my heart seems to have stopped beating

Your betrayal to our love, I will never forget

The affection and care you once showed me, all gone

What choice do I have but to sit back and bleed?

My dreams are all battered and torn

My trust, my faith seems so meaningless now

I'm unable to take this pain anymore

It’s just so real

Yet my heart tells me to forgive

Yet my heart tells me to love you

To let go of the past, to let the love live

But a broken heart cannot think any good

It's probably reacting just the way it should

I fell so hard that I could never get up again

Love has left me empty handed

But God forbid this ever happens to you

My prayers and thoughts tell you'll come back to me

You'll beg for my love, beg for a chance to see

How you can make up for all you have done

How you can change all those lies to nothing, just fun

I am broken, Yes but I can still love

And now as I turn away from you

I wish that I hadn't been so true and sincere to you

Everything I did, I did it for you

But If I ever get one single wish

I wish I could do it all over again, just to be with you

Time will change nothing at all

The scars and wounds run so deep there will never heal

This pain is just so real that time cannot erase them

True love, that’s what it’s called

My love has been vanquished

My dreams shattered, my life destroyed

It hurts to know how I've been played with, used and toyed

But I’ll carry my broken heart with me wherever I go

And you’ll always be a part of it, just like a tattoo

Looking back at you, I will try to refrain

You might have bewitched me but I'm not falling for it ever again

I know how to love but I cannot feel it

I don’t know what a kiss is or a hug

I don’t know how it feels to hold someone warm

I watch the sunrise and the sunset by myself

I look around and no one sees me

Just a shadow of my mistakes, my own shadow haunting me

All that was left is gone away, there’s nothing left to prove

It all seemed so beautiful till I lost what I had once fought for and won

I poured my heart out to you, humbled myself

And made myself miserable, just for your happiness

But with Hope and Faith

My spirit is broken and every night I’m cold

Every night I dream and I hope

That I will be whole again

Some day I will no longer be alone, I no longer will cry at night, I pray

But love is just a dream that I want to have and never wake up

Maybe some day I will have that dream

Only fairytales have endings, I’m not the lucky ones

But you are….

Au Domo Ni Iko

This is TRUE.

By Kris

Dengue Fever

2008-09-04T09:22:00.000+12:00

Symptoms

Symptoms of typical uncomplicated (classic) dengue usually start with fever within 4 to 7 days after you have been bitten by an infected mosquito and include

High fever, up to 105ºF
Severe headache
Retro-orbital (behind the eye) pain
Severe joint and muscle pain
Nausea and vomiting
Rash

The rash may appear over most of your body 3 to 4 days after the fever begins, and then subsides after 1 to 2 days. You may get a second rash a few days later.

Symptoms of dengue hemorrhagic fever include all of the symptoms of classic dengue plus

Marked damage to blood and lymph vessels
Bleeding from the nose, gums, or under the skin, causing purplish bruises

This form of dengue disease can cause death.

Symptoms of dengue shock syndrome--the most severe form of dengue disease--include all of the symptoms of classic dengue and dengue hemorrhagic fever, plus

Fluids leaking outside of blood vessels
Massive bleeding
Shock (very low blood pressure)

This form of the disease usually occurs in children (sometimes adults) experiencing their second dengue infection. It is sometimes fatal, especially in children and young adults.

Prevention

The best way to prevent dengue virus infection is to take special precautions to avoid being bitten by mosquitoes. Several dengue vaccines are being developed, but none is likely to be licensed by the Food and Drug Administration in the next few years.

When outdoors in an area where dengue fever has been found

Use a mosquito repellent containing DEET, picaridin, or oil of lemon eucalyptus
Dress in protective clothing—long-sleeved shirts, long pants, socks, and shoes

Because Aedes mosquitoes usually bite during the day, be sure to take precautions, especially during early morning hours before daybreak and in the late afternoon before dark.

Other precautions include

Keeping unscreened windows and doors closed
Keeping window and door screens repaired
Getting rid of areas where mosquitoes breed, such as standing water in flower pots, containers, birdbaths, discarded tires, etc.

You may have seen the Fiji Times article stating that Medical authorities in Fiji have confirmed a national Dengue fever outbreak. As of last Friday, 53 suspected cases of Dengue had been reported throughout Fiji. More than four new cases are being reported each day.

It is important that you recognise possible symptoms you have Dengue and seek medical help early on. It's also important that we know of the possible diagnosis, as you can pass it on if bitten by a mosquito while having a fever, and that mosquito bites another person.

More about Dengue fever is available on http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dengue_fever . For those of you that don't have Internet, here is the info:

NB: Do not take Aspirin.

Signs and symptoms
This infectious disease is manifested by a sudden onset of fever, with severe headache, muscle and joint pains (myalgias and arthralgias—severe pain gives it the name break-bone fever or bonecrusher disease) and rashes. The dengue rash is characteristically bright red petechiae and usually appears first on the lower limbs and the chest; in some patients, it spreads to cover most of the body. There may also be gastritis with some combination of associated abdominal pain, nausea, vomiting or diarrhea.

Other symptoms include

fever;
chills;
constant headaches;
bleeding from nose, mouth or gums;
severe dizziness; and,
loss of appetite.

Some cases develop much milder symptoms which can be misdiagnosed as influenza or other viral infection when no rash is present. Thus travelers from tropical areas may pass on dengue in their home countries inadvertently, having not been properly diagnosed at the height of their illness. Patients with dengue can pass on the infection only through mosquitoes or blood products and only while they are still febrile.

The classic dengue fever lasts about six to seven days, with a smaller peak of fever at the trailing end of the disease (the so-called "biphasic pattern"). Clinically, the platelet count will drop until the patient's temperature is normal.

Treatment
The mainstay of treatment is supportive therapy. Increased oral fluid intake is recommended to prevent dehydration. Supplementation with intravenous fluids may be necessary to prevent dehydration and significant concentration of the blood if the patient is unable to maintain oral intake. A platelet transfusion is indicated in rare cases if the platelet level drops significantly (below 20,000) or if there is significant bleeding.

The presence of melena may indicate internal gastrointestinal bleeding requiring platelet and/or red blood cell transfusion.

Aspirin and non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs should be avoided as these drugs may worsen the bleeding tendency associated with some of these infections. Patients may receive paracetamol preparations to deal with these symptoms if dengue is suspected

Do We Love................?

2008-08-20T09:38:00.007+12:00

I really have been moved by this incident... Its hard to believe that this can be so true in our everyday lives... The friends we chose are smart, beautiful, RICH, fashionable, and all the good things in them, whereas the poor, not-so-intellgents, not so beautiful, dark skinned, FAT are always looked down upon... WHY?

A story is told about a soldier who was finally coming home after having fought in Vietnam. He called his parents from San Francisco. "Mom and Dad, I`m coming home, but I`ve a favor to ask. I have a friend I`d like to bring home with me." "Sure," they replied, "we`d love to meet him." "There`s something you should know," the son continued, "he was hurt pretty badly in the fighting. He stepped on a land mind and lost an arm and a leg. He has nowhere else to go, and I want him to come live with us." "I`m sorry to hear that, son. Maybe we can help him find somewhere to live." "No, Mom and Dad, I want him to live with us." "Son," said the father, "you don`t know what you`re asking. Someone with such a handicap would be a terrible burden on us. We have our own lives to live, and we can`t let something like this interfere with our lives. I think you should just come home and forget about this guy. He`ll find a way to live on his own." At that point, the son hung up the phone. The parents heard nothing more from him. A few days later, however, they received a call from the San Francisco police. Their son had died after falling from a building, they were told. The police believed it was suicide. The grief-stricken parents flew to San Francisco and were taken to the city morgue to identify the body of their son. They recognized him, but to their horror they also discovered something they didn`t know, their son had only one arm and one leg. The parents in this story are like many of us. We find it easy to love those who are good-looking or fun to have around, but we don`t like people who inconvenience us or make us feel uncomfortable. We would rather stay away from people who aren`t as healthy, beautiful, or smart as we are.

love and life...

2008-08-08T11:43:00.004+12:00

Thanks so much Moon for sharing such a lovely, beautiful piece of story and also an advice not to make a wrong decision which will lead to a hasty decision and eventually a bitter-heart between people who means a lot in your life but just because of some unimportant misunderstandings, you lose them. This story really shows the true meaning which life has to offer.

This story tells us something about LOVE & LIFE

My husband is S/W Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Two years of courtship and now, five years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband is my complete opposite; his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about LOVE.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.

"Why?" he asked, shocked.

"I am tired. There are no reasons for everything in the world!" I answered.

He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought. My feeling of disappointment only increased. Here was a man who was not able to even express his predicament, so what else could I expect from him?

And finally he asked me: "What can I do to change your mind?"

Somebody said it right... It's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.

Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: "Here is the question. If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind.

Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?"

He said: "I will give you your answer tomorrow...." My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes....

My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you, but....please allow me to explain the reasons further.....

This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.

You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.

You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way.

You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every month. I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.
You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.

You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand...and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the colour of the glow on your young face...

Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and die ... "

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting... and as I continue on reading... "Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk...

I rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread....Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone...

That's LIFE, and LOVE. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms. It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form ...

Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands... AND THAT'S LIFE
Linda Hansworth

Three Secrets to Creating More Success

2008-08-07T13:00:00.000+12:00

Set Can Do Goals

Set goals that move you toward successful results. People fail because they don’t know what they want or what they don’t want. Ask a friend, family member, or associate what they want in life. In most cases, they will pause and really think about what they want. Sometimes they can’t come up with an answer. Sometimes they may come up with a weak response. However, ask the following question, “What don’t you want in life?” and, in most situations, you will receive multiple, clear, and quick answers to your question. That’s because we concentrate on what we don’t want to happen instead of what we want to happen. In life, as in sports, we concentrate on “not losing” instead of concentrating how to “win.”

Set S-M-A-R-T-E-R (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely, Encouraging, Rewarding) goals that create a crystal clear roadmap for your success, and work to achieve these goals everyday.

Take Care of Your N-E-T-S
N-E-T-S stands for Network with Everyone Today for Success. Fill your NETS with positive people that will support your positive “can do” attitude. These people, while supporting your goals, will also help you pass roadblocks to achieve your goals. You will also make your NETS stronger by supporting their goals to create a mutually supportive situation.

Joy Fisher-Sykes always says, “Clean your NETS of people who have a “can’t do,” negative attitude, and who don’t support your quest to achieve your goals.” The more junk (negative people) in your NETS, the less room you have for more treasure (positive people). Take a close look at “friends,” family and co-workers and ask, “Do they support me and my “can do” attitude?” If they don’t, remove them from your NET. Keep your NET strong with positive people.

Concentrate on the Positive
Recent research shows that 75-80% of daily communication is negative. This would include negative self-talk, conversations with others, or the media (TV, radio, the internet, etc.).

Take back control of your mind and be responsible for your “can do” attitude. You can start with the following:

Concentrate on self-talk with positive solutions
Start your mornings with meditation. Concentrate on positive thoughts with positive results. Visualize, involving as many senses as possible, to intensify the visualization and make it real for you. Ask, “What does your success feel, look, sound, and taste like?” Be aware of negative self-talk, and replace it with positive self-talk.

Control the Communication
If it is a conversation, reframe the negative conversation into a more positive conversation. If someone is complaining endlessly, say, “Mike, I hear what you are saying. What solutions to you see to this problem?”

If the media is negative, tune it out or turn it off.

You can always walk away. You have that right.

Walk the Talk
Be consistent in your behavior, and act on your “can do” attitude.

Getting Coffee = Sexual Harassment?

2008-08-07T12:30:00.001+12:00

If male supervisors ask a female underling to get them coffee, does such a request amount to sexual harassment? A federal court sitting in Pennsylvania recently faced that question.

What happened.A woman worked as a part-time receptionist for National Sales & Supply, of Bensalem, for 6 weeks. When two male vice presidents asked her to get coffee for them on an almost-daily basis, she complied a few times, but felt that the requests "reinforced outdated gender stereotypes" and bordered on harassment. When one of the VPs insisted via e-mail that one of her responsibilities was to make and bring him coffee, she responded that had she known this, she would never have taken the job. Nine minutes later, he sent an e-mail back to her telling her she was fired. She sued the company for sexual harassment. National asked the court to dismiss the case.

What the court said. The court interpreted the sexual harassment claim as a claim of a hostile work environment. She had to show that (1) she suffered intentional discrimination because of [her] sex; (2) the discrimination was pervasive and regular; (3) the discrimination detrimentally affected her; (4) the discrimination would detrimentally affect a reasonable person of the same sex in that position; and (5) the employer was responsible for it.

Sexual overtones aren`t necessarily required: Behavior that creates a barrier to the progress of women in the workplace may qualify as such, the court said, because it conveys the message that women do not belong, and that they are welcome in the workplace only if they will subvert their identities to the sexual stereotypes prevalent in that environment. Here, the court stated that the act of getting coffee is not, by itself, a gender-specific act, but that in the context of other indicators of sexism, getting coffee could evince a discriminatory intent.

However, comparing her evidence to that presented in support of similar successful claims of sexual harassment, the court found that there was no evidence of offensive statements or other servile acts (e.g., dropping off laundry or paying personal bills for the male superiors). "There is no evidence of spoken or written statements, demeaning or otherwise, relating even tangentially to sex or gender," the court stated, granting the motion to dismiss. Klopfenstein v. National Sales and Supply, U.S. District Court for the Eastern District of Pennsylvania, No. 07-4004 (6/5/08).

Point to remember: As the court stated, in the context of other indicators of sexism, getting coffee could evince a discriminatory intent. But with no evidence of any demeaning statements relating even tangentially to sex or gender, the request that a female employee go for coffee does not amount to sexual harassment.

Please Realize that your are Blessed !!!

2008-08-07T10:26:00.000+12:00

Enjoy reading and thank God that you are blessed with lovely parents and let your parents know what they mean to you .

At 4 Years
My daddy is great.

At 6 Years
My daddy knows everybody.

At 10 Years
My daddy is good but is short tempered

At 12 Years
My daddy was very nice to me when I was young .

At 14 Years
My daddy is getting fastidious.

At 16 Years
My daddy is not in line with the current times.

At 18 Years
My daddy is becoming increasingly cranky.

At 20 Years
O h! Its becoming difficult to tolerate daddy. Wonder how Mother puts up with him.

At 25 Years
Daddy is objecting to everything.

At 30 Years
I t`s becoming difficult to manage my son. I was so scared of my
father when I was young.

At 40 Years
Daddy brought me up with so much discipline. Even I should do the
same.

At 45 Years
I am baffled as to how my daddy brought us up.

At 50 Years
My daddy faced so many hardships to bring us up. I am unable to manage a single son.

At 55 Years
My daddy was so far sighted and planned so many things for us.
He is one of his kind and unique.

At 60 Years
My daddy is great.

Thus, it took 56 years to complete the cycle and come back to the
1st stage.

Realize the true value of your parents before its too late.

The King & his Leather Slippers!

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Long long ago, there was a king who never knew that something like a foot ware existed. He was forever bruising and scraping his feet over hard rocky soil or would slip and fall on damp soil. One day, completely exasperated with this problem, he turned to his trusty minister and ordered: “I want you to carpet the entire kingdom with leather, or it`s off with your head!”

The poor minister sat up half the night thinking about this impossible task, and knowing full well that he would surely lose his head if he does not come with a right solution. Suddenly, just as the sun began to rise, his fear turned to joy. He had an idea. Bounding from his bed, he ran to the leather shoe maker

When the king awoke the next morning he jumped quickly out of bed and hurried to the royal window to view his leather carpet atleast around his palace. Seeing not one inch of leather carpet anywhere he began bellowing for the minister roaring wildly. “Minister, Where`s my minister? I`ll have his head!”

At that very moment, the minister appeared at the king`s door clutching a pair of well designed leather slippers in his hands. “Oh your highness, please be so kind as to try these first,” he begged. The king agreed, and in the wink of an eye the minister slipped the world`s first pair of leather slippers onto the king`s royal feet.

Instantly the king`s anger turned to delight. Shuffling around the room with the softness of the finest leather in the kingdom beneath his feet, all he could do was smile with every step.

Moral of this story: Relates to effective listening and finding something to get interested in. It is about listening for more than we are accustomed to, and turning every interaction into a challenge.

Throughout life we often find ourselves in situations we don`t like and can`t change; we can, however, learn how to change our own experience and gain valuable insights along the way. Most of us do not realize the importance of listening as a communicative tool. Yet studies have shown that we actually spend 50% more time listening than we do talking. We often take listening for granted, never realizing that it is a skill that can be learned.

Listening is an attitude that one can change for the better!

Most Difficult Questions Asked in the Interview !!!(With Answers)!!

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Tell me about yourself.
My background to date has been centered around preparing myself to become the very best _____ I can become. Let me tell you specifically how I`ve prepared myself . . . ..............

Why should I hire you?
Because I sincerely believe that I`m the best person for the job. I realize that there are many other college students who have the ability to do this job. I also have that ability. But I also bring an additional quality that makes me the very best person for the job--my attitude for excellence. Not just giving lip service to excellence, but putting every part of myself into achieving it. In _____ and _____ I have consistently reached for becoming the very best I can become by doing the following . . . ............( your few achievemnts)

What is your long-range objective? Where do you want to be 10 or 15 years from now?
Although it`s certainly difficult to predict things far into the future, I know what direction I want to develop toward. Within five years, I would like to become the very best _____ your company has. In fact, my personal career mission statement is to become a world-class _____ in the _____ industry. I will work toward becoming the expert that others rely upon. And in doing so, I feel I will be fully prepared to take on any greater responsibilities that might be presented in the long term.

How has your education prepared you for your career?
As you will note on my resume, I`ve taken not only the required core classes in the _____ field, I`ve also gone above and beyond. I`ve taken every class the college has to offer in the field and also completed an independent study project specifically in this area. But it`s not just taking the classes to gain academic knowledge--I`ve taken each class, both inside and outside of my major, with this profession in mind. So when we`re studying _____ in _____, I`ve viewed it from the perspective of _____. In addition, I`ve always tried to keep a practical view of how the information would apply to my job. Not just theory, but how it would actually apply. My capstone course project in my final semester involved developing a real-world model of _____, which is very similar to what might be used within your company. Let me tell you more about it . . .

Are you a team player?
Very much so. In fact, I`ve had opportunities in both athletics and academics to develop my skills as a team player. I was involved in _____ at the intramural level, including leading my team in assists during the past year--I always try to help others achieve their best. In academics, I`ve worked on several team projects, serving as both a member and team leader. I`ve seen the value of working together as a team to achieve a greater goal than any one of us could have achieved individually. As an example . . .

Have you ever had a conflict with a boss or professor? How was it resolved?
Yes, I have had conflicts in the past. Never major ones, but certainly there have been situations where there was a disagreement that needed to be resolved. I`ve found that when conflict occurs, it`s because of a failure to see both sides of the situation. Therefore, I ask the other person to give me their perspective and at the same time ask that they allow me to fully explain my perspective. At that point, I would work with the person to find out if a compromise could be reached. If not, I would submit to their decision because they are my superior. In the end, you have to be willing to submit yourself to the directives of your superior, whether you`re in full agreement or not. An example of this was when . . .

What is your greatest weakness?
I would say my greatest weakness has been my lack of proper planning in the past. I would overcommit myself with too many variant tasks, then not be able to fully accomplish each as I would like. However, since I`ve come to recognize that weakness, I`ve taken steps to correct it. For example, I now carry a planning calendar in my pocket so that I can plan all of my appointments and "to do" items. Here, let me show you how I have this week planned out . . .

If I were to ask your professors to describe you, what would they say?
I believe they would say I`m a very energetic person, that I put my mind to the task at hand and see to it that it`s accomplished. They would say that if they ever had something that needed to be done, I was the person who they could always depend on to see that it was accomplished. They would say that I always took a keen interest in the subjects I was studying and always sought ways to apply the knowledge in real world settings. Am I just guessing that they would say these things? No, in fact, I`m quite certain they would say those things because I have with me several letters of recommendation from my professors, and those are their very words. Let me show you . . .

What qualities do you feel a successful manager should have?
The key quality should be leadership--the ability to be the visionary for the people who are working under them. The person who can set the course and direction for subordinates. A manager should also be a positive role model for others to follow. The highest calling of a true leader is inspiring others to reach the highest of their abilities. I`d like to tell you about a person who I consider to be a true leader . . .

If you had to live your life over again, what would you change?
That`s a good question. I realize that it can be very easy to continually look back and wish that things had been different in the past. But I also realize that things in the past cannot be changed, that only things in the future can be changed. That`s why I continually strive to improve myself each and every day and that`s why I`m working hard to continually increase my knowledge in the _____ field. That`s also the reason why I want to become the very best _____ your company has ever had. To make positive change. And all of that is still in the future. So in answer to your question, there isn`t anything in my past that I would change. I look only to the future to make changes in my life.

In reviewing the above responses, please remember that these are sample answers. Please do not rehearse them verbatim or adopt them as your own. They are meant to stir your creative juices and get you thinking about how to properly answer the broader range of questions that you will face.

Important !! CV/Resume !!

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What is the best kind of resume?
There is no one best kind. The best resume is one that works best.

That`s obvious, isn`t it?

It should be, but most of the resumes I`ve seen aren`t designed with that "obvious" purpose in mind. They read like an obituary, simply listing jobs, duties and education. They are dull, boring and dead. What they aren`t, typically, is an advertisement to catch attention and stimulate interest.

But isn`t a resume supposed to tell your work history?

Says who? If a work history produces interviews, fine. Otherwise, no. A history or chronological resume can be effective for people who fit into a neat category. For example, if you have always worked as an accountant and want another job as an accountant, a work history may be appropriate. Even so, there are some pitfalls to avoid.

Like what?

Like length. Anything more than a page or so won`t be read. Like job duties. Anyone reading your resume probably knows what the duties of an accountant, or whatever, are. Instead of just listing duties, describe your accomplishments! Show how you have helped your employers. The typical resume says nothing about whether you did your job well or not, just that you did it.

What if you don`t have any spectacular successes?

That`s okay. An accomplishment doesn`t have to be major, just any task you performed well that helped your employer. There is no better way to prove you can help prospective employers solve their problems than to mention results you have produced in the past. Further, in listing accomplishments, you are not bragging, just stating facts. The reader will believe whatever their own conclusions are about those facts. They will doubt it if they hear from you how great you are. Accomplishments push an employer`s hot buttons buy focusing on what is in it for them in hiring you.

What else can a resume be, if not a history?

It can be an advertisement for you. Often, the most effective resume is one that shows what you can do for an employer, not just where you have been. A good resume embodies the "advertising theme" for your self-marketing campaign. It communicates a simple, clear, accurate, positive message emphasizing the benefits an employer will gain by hiring you. It is often best organized around skills, not jobs. For example, the main headings for a manager`s resume might be: Decision Making and Problem Solving;, Planning and Organizing; and Communication and Directing. Relevant accomplishments from several jobs are listed under each of these headings, proving you have that skill. A brief history of jobs and schooling might be at the bottom of the page. This can all fits on one page, is more memorable and it leads them to their own conclusion that you are good at what you do.

How do you know what skills to emphasize?

Figure out what your prospective employer is looking for, then emphasize that.

What if different job skills are wanted for various jobs?

Then you need more than one resume. Ideally, you should have a unique resume for each prospective employer.

That`s a lot of trouble, isn't it?

Not really. With word processing, it is easy to make different resumes once you have developed a list of accomplishments. Besides, if you are using your resume properly, you will not need many of them. The most important purpose of a resume is to think through your image, or "unique selling proposition". In an effective job search, the resume is mainly a script to use in talking about yourself. The best time to give your resume is at the end of the interview as a tangible reminder of the message you have been conveying.

You`re saying that people rely too much on resumes?

Exactly! But that`s another story.

Finding A Job - 4 Steps To Success !!!

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Finding a job is a difficult process. If this is the first time you are looking for a job, you may be very nervous and worried about whether you will find one or not. The following steps will help you gain more chances of getting your desired job.

KNOW WHAT YOU WANT:This may sound simple but it is an essential factor making your success. You should ask yourself questions to find out which job suits you the best. Dont make your choice too
general. Make it specific and detailed. You have to focus on a certain work, a defined position.Nothing is worse than a vague idea. This will be more important later when you write the motivation letter or when you are interviewed. The employers are usually much more interested in applicants who are determined and have a clear idea about their strong and weak points, about what they exactly want and how they will do it.

SEARCH FOR INFORMATION:The information you have to search is everything about the companies you like, about the current status of your desired job or about any possible alternatives.You have to gather much information before making a decision. In addition, if you want to get a job, you have to master all public information about the company you apply to. The website of that company will help you a lot. If you know anyone working in that company, go and ask him for more information. Maybe he will help you with a lot of useful news and info. Having much information in hand doesnt only help you make a better choice but also helps you a great deal later, when you are interviewed. Employers may ask you some questions about their company and you will score more points if you have good knowledge about the history, development and current status of the company.

TAKE CARE OF YOUR APPLICATION:Your application packet is your application form, a letter of motivation, your CV and a letter of recommendation if possible.Choose the CV type which suits
you the best. If you have worked for another company before, you shouldnt describe much about what you did, but tell about your achievements and your good results.However,if you haven`t got
much working experience, you should write more about your skills and certifications as well as your extra activities and how eager and diligent you are in any activity.Be confident.You should show the employer that you believe that you are the right person for the position. Your motivation letter has to show that. If you dont believe in yourself, how can you gain the employers belief? However, self-confidence doesn`t mean arrogance.Be careful with your writing
and dont make people feel that you are boasting about yourself.

NEVER GIVE UP:There are many difficulties and obstacles in finding a job nowadays.People searching for jobs always outnumber jobs available.Nothing is easy, especially if its your first time.There is rarely anyone that can get his wished job right from the first time of application. Always keep trying and never be disheartened, your desired job will be there for you.

21 Ways to increase Self Motivation!!!

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1. Consequences - Never use threats. They’ll turn people against you. But making people aware of the negative consequences of not getting results (for everyone involved) can have a big impact. This one is also big for self motivation. If you don’t get your act together, will you ever get what you want?

2. Pleasure - This is the old carrot on a stick technique. Providing pleasurable rewards creates eager and productive people.

3. Performance incentives - Appeal to people’s selfish nature. Give them the opportunity to earn more for themselves by earning more for you.

4. Detailed instructions - If you want a specific result, give specific instructions. People work better when they know exactly what’s expected.

5. Short and long term goals - Use both short and long term goals to guide the action process and create an overall philosophy.

6. Kindness - Get people on your side and they’ll want to help you. Piss them off and they’ll do everything they can to screw you over.

7. Deadlines - Many people are most productive right before a big deadline. They also have a hard time focusing until that deadline is looming overhead. Use this to your advantage by setting up a series of mini-deadlines building up to an end result.

8. Team Spirit - Create an environment of camaraderie. People work more effectively when they feel like part of team — they don’t want to let others down.

10. Recognize achievement - Make a point to recognize achievements one-on-one and also in group settings. People like to see that their work isn’t being ignored.

11. Personal stake - Think about the personal stake of others. What do they need? By understanding this you’ll be able to keep people happy and productive.

12. Concentrate on outcomes - No one likes to work with someone standing over their shoulder. Focus on outcomes — make it clear what you want and cut people loose to get it done on their own.

13. Trust and Respect - Give people the trust and respect they deserve and they’ll respond to requests much more favorably.

14. Create challenges - People are happy when they’re progressing towards a goal. Give them the opportunity to face new and difficult problems and they’ll be more enthusiastic.

15. Let people be creative - Don’t expect everyone to do things your way. Allowing people to be creative creates a more optimistic environment and can lead to awesome new ideas.

16. Constructive criticism - Often people don’t realize what they’re doing wrong. Let them know. Most people want to improve and will make an effort once they know how to do it.

17. Demand improvement - Don’t let people stagnate. Each time someone advances raise the bar a little higher (especially for yourself).

18. Make it fun - Work is most enjoyable when it doesn’t feel like work at all. Let people have fun and the positive environment will lead to better results.

19. Create opportunities - Give people the opportunity to advance. Let them know that hard work will pay off.

20. Communication - Keep the communication channels open. By being aware of potential problems you can fix them before a serious dispute arises.

21. Make it stimulating - Mix it up. Don’t ask people to do the same boring tasks all the time. A stimulating environment creates enthusiasm and the opportunity for “big picture” thinking.

Excel Your Job Interview !!!

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Interviews are often the most dreaded part of the job search process, but they need not be. With a little preparation, interviews become effortless and you can secure the job you want. When you sit to write an exam, you studied in advance. Its the same with interviews, but fortunately, not nearly as taxing as preparing for an exam. The steps themselves are simple, and dont require much in terms of preparation.

First, anticipate the likely questions. Sit and think about what sort of questions you would ask, if you were conducting the interview. Its impossible to anticipate every question, but think of some big ones, and even if they don`t get asked, they will be good preparation for other questions and provide you a base to answer from.

First impressions last. Sad but true. When it comes to an interview, you must take care to put forward the right image. This extends to personal hygeine, being clean shaven, having clean nails and so on. You want to convey an image of professionalism.

Our bodies communicate volumes of information. Trained interviewers can read your body language like a poker pro. While we cant hide the messages our body sends, we can control and shape those messages to improve the impression we give to the interviewer.

Tips for an Exceptional, Superb Life !!!

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1.) Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate antidepressant.

2.) Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Buy a lock if you have to.

3.) Always pray and make time to exercise.

4.) Spend more time with people over the age of 70 And under the age of Six.

5.) Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants And eat less foods that are manufactured in Plants.

6.) Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat broccoli, almonds & walnuts.

7.) Try to make at least three people smile each day.

8.) Clear your clutter from your house, car, desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.

9.) Don`t waste your precious energy on gossip, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control.
Instead, invest your energy in the positive present moment.

10.) Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appears and fades away like algebra class .......but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

11.) Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a layman And dinner like a beggar.

12.) Life isn`t fair, but it`s still good.

13.) Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

14.) Don`t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

15.) You don`t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

16.) Make peace with your past so it won`t screw up the present.

17.) Don`t compare your life to others`. You have no Idea what their journey is all about.

18.) Ladies - Go on and burn those `special` scented Candles, use the 600 thread count sheets, the good China and wear fancy clothes now. Stop waiting for a special occasion. Every day is special.

19.) No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

20.) Frame every so-called disaster with these Words: `In five years, will this matter?`

21.) Forgive everyone for everything.

22.) What other people think of you is none of your Business.

23.) Time heals almost everything. Give time, time!

24.) However good or bad a situation is, it will Change.

25.) Your job won`t take care of you when you are Sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch with them.

26.) Get rid of anything that isn`t useful, beautiful or joyful.

27.) Envy is a waste of time. You already have all You need. God provides, remember?!

28.) The best is yet to come.

29.) No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

30.) Do the right thing!

31.) Call your family often.

32.) Each night before you go to bed complete the Following statements: `I am thankful for __________.`
Today I accomplished _________.

33.) Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.

34.) Enjoy the ride. Remember that this is not Disney World and you certainly don`t want a fast Pass. You only have one ride through life so make The most of it and enjoy the ride.

LIVE, LOVE, LAUGH. LIFE`S A gift. that`s why it`s called PRESENT ... UNWRAP IT!

Memory Improvement in 3 points !!

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1) Primacy and Recency Effects

Changing tasks and taking strategic breaks in the middle of a task when you are studying is a great way to improve your memory of what you study. Taking breaks, especially in the middle of something might seem counterintuitive, but you will get exponentially better results from the time you put in. By studying smarter rather than harder, you can accomplish much more in much less time. Not only is it easier to remember something that you have left incomplete, it is also easier to remember what you do at the beginning and what you have done most recently.

2) Forgetting the Right Things

To develop your memory and increase efficiency, you must first choose the method of remembering that you want to focus on. For example, memorizing poetry will not help you to recall people’s names easily. In order to improve your memory, you must decide on the type of memory you want to achieve. Determine this based on your profession, or on your own specific requirements, questioning aspects such as “Is it necessary to have a good memory for names in my profession?” By analyzing your memory needs, you will have a more precise idea of what type of memory you should cultivate.

3) Making use of your Subconscious Mind

Whatever your mind dwells on before you go to bed becomes fodder for your subconscious mind. In order to harness its power, make a quick review of the material that you want to recall in an easily accessible format such as mind maps. You will find that this will greatly improve your memory on that material, and for an additional you go to sleep can do a great deal to improve your memory of that material. For a heightened memory, go through the same material when you wake up the next day. You will experience a deeper understanding of the material, and this will make remembering it a breeze.

A Positive Attitude Is The Key To a Better Life

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Surely you`ve known someone in your life with a negative attitude and so you know what that means. People don`t want to be around such a person, whose negativity affects his job, his relationships with people around him at work, as well as his social interactions.

What if you are a person like this? What if you have a negative outlook, and it is spilling over into various aspects of your life? Even if your job performance has been suffering, or if people are no longer welcoming your company, you do not need to live with these consequences - because you do not need to hold onto the attitude which has caused them!

Your world will change when you have a positive attitudfe! Soon after you have begun to apply this principle, you will see this for yourself!

A negative attitude will dampen your spirits and hold you down; a positive attitude will help bring you back up. Negativity will keep you focused on everything that is wrong, everything that has ever been wrong; but a positive attitude will bring your focus to everything that is right and better. The very best way to look at the subject, though, is to remind yourself that while a negative attitude will limit you, a positive attitude will go a long way in getting rid of those limits. If you think about how much a negative attitude has limited you, this in itself should be a great motivating factor!

Most people do not like to acknowledge that they are limiting themselves and their prospects with their own attitudes and behavior. When you start to replace the "cannot" with "can," you will see how much power there is in your own attitude! You will feel that you have more potential, as well as the ability to reach your potential ` while the only thing that has actually changed is your own attitude! Goal-setting and making plans will become much easier, and you will find that you can accomplish much more than you had previously thought you could!

When you take on a new, positive attitude, you will experience wonderful results with other people. When you change your attitude people will notice and interact with you instead of shying away from the person you were before - a constant complainer who rarely had anything positive to say.

A positive attitude will work wonders in how you feel about yourself, also. You will find a new appreciation of yourself and your life once you stop looking for what`s wrong with you. You will find that you like your life more than you did before ` and that you like yourself better, too!

If you are not yet convinced, perhaps you would like to give it a try! When some of these former negative feelings, ideas or thoughts creep back into your conscience mind, push them away and replace them with positive, uplifting and good thoughts, feelings and ideas. It will not be long before you experience results - Andrea

How precious we are!!!

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Dear Friends,
Sometimes we just need to be reminded!
A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20.00
bill. In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this $20 bill?"
Hands started going up.
He said, "I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let
me do this.
He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill. He then asked, "Who
still wants it?"
Still the hands were up in the air. Well, he replied, "What if I do
this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into
the floor with his shoe.
He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty.
"Now, who still wants it?"
Still the hands went into the air. My friends, we have all learned a
very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still
wanted it because it did not decrease in value.
It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, we are dropped,
crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the
circumstances that come our way.
We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened
or what will happen, you will never lose your value. Dirty or clean,
crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who DO
LOVE you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by WHO WE ARE.
You are special- Don`t EVER forget it."
You may never know the lives it touches, the hurting hearts it
speaks to, or the hope that it can bring.
Count your blessings, not your problems.
And remember: Amateurs built the Ark .. Professionals built the
Titanic.

Do you know where you`re going in life???

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A boat docked in a tiny Mexican village. An American tourist complimented the Mexican fisherman on the quality of his fish and asked “How long it took him to catch them?”
"Not very long," answered the Mexican. "But then, why didn`t you stay out longer and catch more?" asked the American.

The Mexican explained that his small catch was sufficient to meet his needs and those of his family.

The American asked, "But what do you do with the rest of your time?"

"I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, and take a siesta with my wife. In the evenings, I go into the village to see my friends, play the guitar, and sing a few songs... I have a full life."

The American interrupted, "I have an MBA from Harvard, and I can help you! You should start by fishing longer every day. You can then sell the extra fish you catch. With the extra revenue, you can buy a bigger boat."

"And after that?" asked the Mexican. “With the extra money the larger boat will bring, you can buy a second one and a third one and so on until you have an entire fleet of trawlers. Instead of selling your fish to a middle man, you can then negotiate directly with the processing plants and maybe even open your own plant. You can then leave this little village and move to Mexico City, Los Angeles, or even New York City! From there you can direct your huge new enterprise."

"How long would that take?" asked the Mexican? "Twenty, perhaps twenty-five years," replied the American. "And after that?"

Well, my friend, that`s when it gets really interesting," answered the American, laughing. "When your business gets really big, you can cart Selling stocks and make millions!"

“Millions? Really? And after that?" said the Mexican.

"After that you`ll be able to retire, live in a tiny village near the coast, sleep late, play with your children, catch a few fish, take a siesta with your wife and spend your evenings doing what you like and enjoying your friends."

"With all due respect sir, but that`s exactly what I am doing now. So what’s the point wasting twenty-five years?" asked the Mexican.
And the moral is: Know where you`re going in life...you may already be there.

stress wont 'bite' you...

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I wonder why one get stressed. I wonder why one get tired with work. I wonder why one gets home looking all drained and without energy. I wonder why one gets upset with their daily chores and wish to be in their friends or neighbours shoes. I wonder why one doesn't see the beauty of their own life rather than dreaming for a different life. I wonder why!

Work as if that's the best thing you have ever done. Do whatever you feel like doing and not just coz you have to for a higher pay. Start your day with a smile on your face and looking forward to doing your chores, rather than cursing a new day to start its routine again. Stress wont 'bite' you if you do not let it bite you.

the four seasons of life...

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Life changes as the four season's which we are blessed with. Every season lets us experience something new and totally different. We tend to miss the season which has passed and wish to go back to the season before the current which we experience at the moment. The season which has passed through our life seems more beautiful than the one which we have now.

Try to love the season which you are experiencing at the moment since one day it will the same season which has passed through your life and you will definately miss it. Cherish what you have today rather than missing it in future.

Have the best season today.

Why Living with People Is So Difficult !!!

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The most difficult thing to do is to live in peace and harmony with people.It is, perhaps, easier to live with birds and animals. Why is living withpeople a problem?

We know that fire is hot and we accept that fact. If we are burnt by
touching fire, we do not blame it. If a whole house is burnt down, we may condemn other factors or blame our negligence, but would accept fire as it is. Its place is undeniable and it is not rejected. Similarly, we accept the coolness of ice, the beauty of flowers, fruits, trees and plants. Again, if we are admiring a beautiful, full moon and someone else comes and starts appreciating it, we don`t say, "Why are you looking at my moon? You have no
right to see it!" There is no sense of ownership, no possessiveness; there is acceptance without any projection of likes and dislikes.

The Bhagavad Gita says that a wise person moves everywhere with love and affection. Like the wind blowing freely, he does not get attached to anything. He accepts all. Sometimes people behave nicely, sometimes they donʼt.This neither elates nor depresses the wise person. "Such a man of wisdom lives with his senses under control, free from personal likes and dislikes,and therefore, enjoys every object, place, situation and person".

Also, we find it difficult to live with people because we have too many expectations of them. If I expect something of another, that person may also expect something of me. Furthermore, I am unable to fulfill my own expectations of myself. I want to do so many things, but I am unable to do them. Thus, we feel disappointed and frustrated with ourselves, and aggrieved or upset with others when they fail to satisfy our expectations. I saw a sticker that said, "Don`t try to change me. Accept me as I am".It is important to understand the message clearly and completely. The message is that one should accept the fact as it is. Then if a change is necessary, try to make that change, but do not insist on it.

Every parent wants the child to perform well and excel whether in sports or in studies.
There is nothing wrong with that. But, to expect something that may not be possible for the child to do, and unnecessarily apply pressure and force will cause frustration to all.

When one is living with people it may not be possible to have no
expectations at all, so one should have reasonable expectations. An
artistically inclined child with no aptitude for commerce should not be forced into the family business. Expectations should be reasonable and based on knowledge and wisdom.

As far as nature or the moon is concerned, we do not feel a sense of
ownership or possessiveness. But with regard to people this feeling is deep-seated and can be very destructive. What we need to have is love and affection. Along with that there should be freedom and space, too.

Two hands joined together leave a gap and can be easily separated.
Similarly, we should give space to people. Often we hear people say, "Give me some space please!" If you love a bird, will you cage it and expect it to be happy? It is not possible to love someone and also confine them in that love.

How to become a STAR?

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To become a STAR PERFORMER, just remember four points:

S- STOP

T- THINK

A- ACTION/ ACT

R- REVIEW

If you want to become a STAR then start yourself from “S”, Before doing any task just STOP for a while and analyze what your employer expect from you? THINK and plan your activity to achieve your goal and then put your plan into ACTION. Perform whatever you plan to achieve your goal. After completion of your activity never forget to REVIEW your activity/ performance.

Definitely you will become STAR PERFORMER !!!

Power of Positive Talk

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I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age. Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success.

One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little eight-year-old brain didn't realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.

My older cousin, Tammy, was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy's mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad's voice over the wind yell, "Bart, Hold on tightly." So I did. The next thing I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree.

I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, when Tammy's mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, "Tammy, don't fall!" And Tammy did... fall.

My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image. In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.

This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can't visualize not doing something. The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that. For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn't get it together at that age. I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, "Don't drop it!" Naturally, I dropped the ball.

My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper "self-talk." They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn't. I'll never make it pro, but I'm now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career.

Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary. Ask them to hold a pen or pencil. Hand it to them. Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them, "Okay, try to drop the pencil." Observe what they do.

Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor. You respond, "You weren't paying attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please do it again." Most people then pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil.

The point is made.

If you tell your brain you will "give it a try," you are actually telling your brain to fail. I have a "no try" rule in my house and with everyone I interact with. Either people will do it or they won't. Either they will be at the party or they won't. I'm brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they think I don't know they are really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort? You will never hear the words "I'll try" come out of my mouth unless I'm teaching this concept in a seminar.

If you "try" and do something, your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed. If I truly can't make a decision I will tell the truth. "Sorry John. I'm not sure if I will be at your party or not. I've got an outstanding commitment. If that falls through, I will be here. Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite."

People respect honesty. So remove the word "try" from your vocabulary.

My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. I have no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism.

These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children.

Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms. Heck, I know you are talking to yourself all day long. We all have internal voices that give us direction.

So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you shortchanging yourself with toxic self-talk like, " I'm fat. Nobody will like me. I'll try this diet. I'm not good enough. I'm so stupid. I'm broke, etc. etc."

If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue. Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words.

Notice when you or other people use them.

Ø But: Negates any words that are stated before it.
Ø Try: Presupposes failure.
Ø If: Presupposes that you may not.
Ø Might: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener.
Ø Would Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.
Ø Should Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt.)
Ø Could Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.
Ø Can't Don't: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.

Examples:
Toxic phrase: "Don't drop the ball!"
Likely result: Drops the ball
Better language: "Catch the ball!"

Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television."
Likely result: Watches more television.
Better language: "I read too much television makes people stupid. You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!"

Exercise: Take a moment to write down all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic self-talk that you have noticed yourself using. Write these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself as they occur and change them.

Five Questions That Help You Make the Most of Your Time

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Questions have the power to instantly change your focus and put you into a productive frame of mind.

These five simple time management questions will immediately direct your attention, your focus, and your thinking toward your top priorities and away from distractions.

Just ask yourself these questions habitually throughout the day, and you will start making better use of your time.

1. What is the most valuable use of my time right now?

This is a slight variation of a question developed by time management expert Alan Lakein.

The purpose of this question is to shift your focus to what is most important and valuable at this moment. It is a perfect question to ask whenever you are unsure about what to do next, whenever you face an unexpected interruption, or whenever you feel that you are not making good use of your time.

For example, let's say you find yourself with an extra 20 minutes of unscheduled time. Asking yourself "What is the most valuable use of my time right now?" will help you find an important task for the time you have available.

2. What am I ultimately trying to accomplish?

The purpose of this question is to focus your thinking on your real objectives and goals -- the real reasons you are working on your projects and task

Asking this question habitually will help you avoid getting sidetracked, drifting into trivia, or falling into perfectionism. You can use this powerful question for all your projects.

For example, while preparing a presentation, you can easily get sucked into less valuable work when you start playing with the formatting, or adding bells and whistles, instead of working on the content.

The work seems important because it is connected to your presentation project, but when you take a closer look, you realize that you are wasting your time on details that don't really matter.

Asking this question will help you refocus your efforts on your real objectives and away from trivial matters. If it turns out that the formatting details are important for this project, you'll recognize this as well and give them the attention they deserve.

This question can also help you find and eliminate useless tasks that don't contribute toward your ultimate goals.

3. What am I giving up to do this?

Whenever you choose to do something, you automatically reject everything else you could have done during that time.

The purpose of this question is to help you realize what you are giving up in order to undertake a task or project. Once you recognize the true cost of an activity, you may decide that it is not how you really want to spend your time.

Asking this question before you take on a new task or project will help you stay focused on what really matters. It will also help you recognize when you should be saying no to that new request.

You should also ask this question about activities that you are already doing on a regular basis. These could be things like volunteering to do some work for your trade association, chairing a committee, or serving on the board of a community organization.

While all of these things may be valuable undertakings, you may be sacrificing something even more important to do them. Asking "What am I giving up to do this?" may turn out to be a real eye opener.

You probably wouldn't consciously sacrifice time with your family in order to participate in a committee you don't care about, but you might be doing it by default if you don't examine your existing commitments on a regular basis.

4. What are my three most important projects or tasks today?

The purpose of this question is to help you make use of the 80/20 rule every day. The 80/20 rule states that 80 percent of the value is contained in only 20 percent of the items. The top two or three projects and tasks in any given day could account for up to 80 percent of your day's value, so give them the time and priority they deserve.

If you practice weekly planning, you can change this question to "What are the three most important projects for this week?"

5. Should I continue doing this?

This is a slight variation of the first two questions, but shifts the focus toward what to stop doing rather than what to start doing.

Deciding to stop doing something that is no longer valuable is often more important than actually deciding to start doing something else.

This is a perfect question to ask whenever you feel you may be wasting time trying to perfect something that should already be done, or when you feel stuck in a commitment that is no longer serving your long-term objectives.

Keys to Success:

* Make it a habit. At first, you'll have to keep reminding yourself to ask these questions over and over again. However, if you keep asking consistently, eventually they will become a habit that will serve you for the rest of your life.

* Use these three steps whenever you have to make a time management decision: pause to think before you react, use questions to put you in the right frame of mind, and do the right thing.

* Keep asking until you get an answer. Sometimes you won't get an answer to these questions right away; just keep asking while you review your projects and task. The right answer will come.

make happiness to happen...

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You don't have to wait for something great to happen to be happy. You don't need a reason. All you need is to make a decision that's what you want to be and every day. As I said, what you focus on expands.

If you're watching something funny and laughing are you feeling stressed or at that moment feeling happy.

Check this out. For just a moment, close your eyes sit up straight, relax your shoulders, open your arms wide as if you're going to hug someone, take a deep breath and smile. How do you feel? Have a feeling of lightness, energy!

Now, hunch your shoulders, make your hands into fists, take some short quick breaths and frown. How does it feel to do this? Feel your energy draining?

All you did was make a decision! You can do this every day. Over the years, I've often heard from people, well when I have........ ......... ..I'll be happy, if I could do.......... ........I would be happy. And as I told them, no you wouldn't. It might make you more comfortable however it would not necessarily make you feel happier.

Happiness is something we create from the inside and can occur whatever your situation. People who are penniless and homeless can be happy if that's what they decide or you can have all the material things in the world, money, cars, clothes and homes and still be unhappy. I know from the latter that it's true. I had most of the material things 25 years ago and I still wasn't happy.

Now I set an intention each day that no matter what, I'm going to have a happy day. I encourage you to do this for atleast one week. See if you feel lighter at the weeks end and then continue doing the same. Laugh each day, enjoy everything around you and be very grateful that you have the life you are living. You see, it really is all about a state of mind.

when you thought I wasn't looking...

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A message every adult should read, because children are watching you and doing as you do, not as you say.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you hang my first painting on the refrigerator, and I immediately wanted to paint another one.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you feed a stray cat, and I learned that it was good to be kind to animals.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you make my favorite cake for me and I learned that the little things can be the special things in life.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I heard you say a prayer, and I knew there is a God I could always talk to and I learned to trust in God.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you make a meal and take it to a friend who was sick, and I learned that we all have to help take care of each other.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you give of your time and money to help people who had nothing and I learned that those who have something should give to those who don't.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you take care of our house and everyone in it and I learned we have to take care of what we are given.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw how you handled your responsibilities, even when you didn't feel good and I learned that I would have to be responsible when I grow up.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw tears come from your eyes and I learned that sometimes things hurt, but it's all right to cry.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw that you cared and I wanted to be everything that I could be.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I learned most of life's lessons that I need to know to be a good and productive person when I grow up.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I looked at you and wanted to say, "Thanks for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn't looking."

LITTLE EYES SEE A LOT.

Each of us (parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, teacher or friend) influence the life of a child.

Attitudes of Successful Learners

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1. "I can."
This is the most basic of all attitudes. We simply must choose to believe that we can learn. In our house we are not allowed to say, "I can't." We can say, "I'll try," or "I tried and failed," but not "I can't." Telling yourself that you can't will in effect make it so. But telling yourself that you can, will in effect enable you to learn much more. Even if you actually only achieve 50% of what you tell yourself, you will achieve at least that much more than if you told yourself you couldn't. So many people were told at a young age that they couldn't learn. Many others were allowed to engage in that kind of negative self talk (tell themselves, "I can't learn", "I don't understand", I'll never get this", etc.) and their parents and teachers didn't intervene. This enabled them to develop the "I can't" attitudes that become self-fulfilling prophecies.

I actually have a standard way of going about getting myself off of the starting block. I simply say if somebody else has achieved great learning heights, then I can too. I have to be smarter than at least one of those who has already done it. I have to be able to work harder than at least one other. There has to be at least one other person who has come from more difficult circumstances than me. And if they can do it then certainly, "I can!"

2. "This is a long-term approach."
Learning isn't something that happens overnight. Yes, you can learn individual facts, but the real growth comes when you see your learning build on itself and compound for years, when your knowledge meets up with your experience. When we take the attitude that it all has to happen immediately, we hurt ourselves in the long run because the fact is that it takes time to learn (even though we can accelerate it). If we expect it to happen immediately and it doesn't, then we can get frustrated and stop learning altogether.

Instead, we need to take a long-term view just as we do in financial matters, weight management, leadership, etc. Long-term thinking, including our learning is always the best way to go for success.

3. "Learning is valuable."
Some people have a "learning schmearning - who needs learning" attitude. They think that learning is overrated. I hate to tell you this, but not only was that wrong 5000, 500 and 50 years ago, it is especially wrong today. We live in the information age. We must gain knowledge and the ability to apply that knowledge if we are going to be successful. We must tell ourselves and cultivate the attitude that learning is valuable and that it will affect our lives.

4. "I will make a difference in the lives of those around me."
People who soar are generally people who have the attitude of helping other people. Yes, they may do it for monetary gain, but they are others-focused. They want to change the way people live and experience life for the better. They are difference makers all around. This is the same in what we learn. We learn first for ourselves, but then with the goal of taking what we have learned, and what we make of ourselves, and we then help others to do the same

Start Your Day With Happiness !!!

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Happiness, Love, Luck...... Are you looking for that? Then be ready to commit yourself to be happy.

Put now all your worries, troubles, doubts into the hand and blow it strong away.

Try to start each day with the following proven recommendations and you will meet a lot of positive changes one by one each day.

Do you know that the ocean starts from drop?
Take your chance to dive later in the ocean of happiness doing these small things each day:

1) Put a smile on your face when you get up in the morning (you will recognize that you are not used to that)! DO IT! It means - I give a good chance for all good things to happen during this day. Say "GOOD morning" first to yourself and then to everyone else.

2) NO BAD WORDS! Kick them out from your mind and mouth!
For a lot of people it is one of the most difficult tasks, but think now how many times per day you say sh.t, f..k, d..n and so on?
And you expect positive changes?

3) ACCEPT EVERYONE AS HE/SHE IS!

4) DON`T BLAME neither yourself nor the others.

5) NO sad, depressive, fatal books, songs or TV programs.

6) Love yourself! YOU ARE the unique person! Say to yourself often how much you love yourself.

7) When you say "THANK YOU" to someone during day, please, mean it in deed. The same when you ask someone "HOW ARE YOU?" - mean it indeed!!! You will feel the difference! People will get warmer to you!

8) If someone tries to spoil your mood, don`t react on it. Say "Thank you very much!" Why? - Because this person gives you the lesson of patience. Be above such provocations!

9) If you have a dream to learn something, or to start searching for another job - DO IT NOW! Change your life TODAY!

Do you think that you can follow these recommendations at least for one week? Great! Then be ready for happy surprises soon.

believe in your footsteps...

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How To Stay Motivated When It`s So Easy To Get Discouraged !!

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I think it`s safe to say that if you are reading this you have had times when being discouraged was much easier then staying motivated. This is an awful feeling because you want to be motivated but everything seems to be going wrong and getting you down. Here are 3 keys to stay motivated when it’s so easy to be discouraged.

1. Watch something motivating.
For me, this is one of the best things that I can do. With websites like youtube and metacafe, it’s very easy to look up videos that will motivate and inspire you. It’s great to be able to watch something about someone that has gone through something worse then you and come out the winner. I can’t help but to stay motivated when I see these kinds of things.

2. Remember your reasons why.
There are times when you may feel very discouraged but it’s important to not forget why you are doing what you are doing. In the midst of disappointment and discouragement it can be very easy to forget your ‘why’. Take some time and reinforce in your mind your ‘why’. This may be all you need to stay motivated and keep on going.

3. Talk with your mentor.
Whenever things get discouraging it’s easy to make them even worse in your mind. If you are finding it hard to stay motivated, talk about it to your mentor. They will be able to help put things back into perspective for you as well as encourage you. Sometimes all you need is to be able to talk with someone that can show that it’s not as big a deal as you think it is.

Patience... takes a life's journey to achieve...

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A carrot, an egg and a cup of coffee...

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You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way
again.........
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her
life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see." Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.
Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.
Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee.
The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean?"
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity..boiling water. Each reacted differently.
The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.
The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a
coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I?
Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death,a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water,the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.
When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest,do you
elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity?

Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don`t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past;
you can`t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches...

Angels Paradise

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Reason of Fuel Hiking

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JUST THINK OVER

What is the environment? Why is the global environment so important?
Can you name 10 different ways we use fuel or electricity every day?
What are ways that we could save fuel or electricity?
What does it mean to say that the U.S. is currently dependent on other nations for our petroleum?
How has transportation changed over the centuries?
What kind of fuel do most cars use today?
Are there different ways to power cars? Can you name any alternative sources of fuel?
Why don't more cars run on alternative fuel sources?
What do you think would be the best way to power a car?
How would the engine work?
Do you think cars will be the same when you're old enough to drive? How will they be different?

Earth Day Discussion

Can one person make a difference when it comes to helping the environment?
Can you name any well-known heroes who work to make a difference? (Answers might include Rachel Carson, Mardy Murie, or Gaylord Nelson.)
Can you name environmental heroes you know personally?
What is Earth Day? Is it something that is celebrated only in the United States?
What do people do on this day?
What can you do to make a difference? How about your school? Your family?
How can every day be like Earth Day?
Is there a way you can help spread the message about helping the environment?
What is an alternative fuel source? Can you name three?
Why are many alternative fuel sources better options for the planet?

Write important numbers on the blackboard to provide students with this background information:

According to a study at the Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute, there are about 3 to 4.5 million traffic signals operating in the United States. Each one uses around 990 kilowatt-hours of electricity a year. Together, they consume almost 3 billion kilowatt-hours.
About 1.4 million tons of coal is needed to generate that much electricity.
A 100-watt light bulb uses 0.1 kilowatt-hours an hour.

Ask:

How many days could you light a 100-watt bulb using the same amount of energy a traffic signal uses in a year?
How long could you light the same bulb with the amount of energy used by all the traffic lights?
If your math book weighs a pound, how many math books would it take to equal the same weight as 1.4 million tons of coal?
Do you think we need traffic signals? Is there a different way of controlling traffic?
Can you think of an alternative source of energy for the traffic signals?
How can you let your community leaders know about your ideas?

Wrap up:

Explain that some communities have switched from using incandescent traffic lights to LEDs (light-emitting diodes). LEDs can cut energy consumption by up to 90 percent.

Extension:

Sacramento County in California has a plan to replace lights at more than 100 intersections with LEDs. This could save the county $67,000 in just one year.
Ask students to research traffic lights in their communities. Do the signals use incandescent lights or LEDs?

Bill Gates' 11 Rules of Life...

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Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about 11 things they did not and will not learn in school. He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world. Rule 1 : Life is not fair - get used to it!

Rule 2: The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.

Loser!!!

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College Canteen...

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Cancer Update from Johns Hopkins University

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This information is being circulated at Walter Reed Army Medical Center as well. Please circulate to all you know; Cancer update
Johns Hopkins - Cancer News from Johns Hopkins

No plastic containers in microwave...

No water bottles in freezers...

No plastic wrap in microwave...

A dioxin chemical causes cancer, especially breast cancer...

Dioxins are highly poisonous to the cells of our bodies. Don't freeze your plastic bottles with water in them as this releases dioxins from the plastic.

Recently, Edward Fujimoto, Wellness Program Manager at Castle Hospital , was on a TV program to explain this health hazard. He talked about dioxins and how bad they are for us. He said that we should not be heating our food in the microwave using plastic containers.

This especially applies to foods that contain fat. He said that the combination of fat, high heat, and plastics releases dioxin into the food and ultimately into the cells of the body...

Instead, he recommends using glass, such as Corning Ware, Pyrex or ceramic containers for heat! ing food... You get the same results, only without the dioxin. So such things as TV dinners, instant ramen and soups, etc., should be removed from the container and heated in something else. Paper isn't bad but you don't know what is in the paper. It's just safer to use tempered glass, Corning Ware, etc. He reminded us that a while ago some of the fast food restaurants moved away from the foam containers to paper. The dioxin problem is one of the reasons...

Also, he pointed out that plastic wrap, such as Saran, is just as dangerous when placed over foods to be cooked in the microwave. As the food is nuked, the high heat causes poisonous toxins to actually melt out of the plastic wrap and drip into the food. Cover food with a paper towel instead.

Obama declares victory over Clinton

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Declaring victory: Barack Obama in Saint Paul today (Reuters: Jeff Haynes)

Illinois Senator Barack Obama said America was witnessing "a moment that will define a generation" as he declared victory over rival Hillary Clinton in the Democratic presidential nominating race today.

Senator Obama won the nomination after the final primary votes in Montana and South Dakota, with US news network CNN saying its projections showed he had secured the 2,118 delegates he needs to make his victory official.

The win ends the often-bitter tussle with Senator Clinton, which had threatened to split the Democratic party in two, and sets him up to take on Republican presumptive nominee John McCain in November's election.

Senator Obama declared victory in a speech to supporters in Saint Paul, Minnesota.

"Tonight, I can stand here and say that I will be the Democratic nominee for president of the United States," he told cheering supporters.

"Tonight we mark the end of one historic journey with the beginning of another - a journey that will bring a new and better day to America."

Senator Obama called his nominating win "a moment that will define a generation".

The polls in South Dakota closed at 11:00am AEST, with Montana following at midday.

Senator Clinton stopped short of admitting defeat, telling supporters at an emotional New York rally that "I will be making no decision tonight" but saying she is committed to uniting the Democratic Party ahead of November's presidential election.

The win means that Senator Obama will be the first African-American to run for US president.

10 Reasons Why You Can't Get What You Want

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I believe that all of us want happiness and success in life. However, very few can actually admit that they have got there. Many didn't know why they aren't successful, so few knew why, but didn't do anything about it. I have the privilege to come across a list of reasons why most people couldn't achieve happiness or success in life. As I read through, I too discovered that some of the reasons here have been standing in the way between success and me. As you go over the list now, check yourself by it, point by point, to find out how many of these causes-of-failure stand between you and success.

Lack of purpose in life - Before I start taking my life seriously, I have no major purpose in life. All day long, I would either play games at home, or after work, chill out with my friends. There is no sense of responsibility to my family, no commitment at work and of cause, no purpose. Life was pretty much a routine. A routine that I hate, a routine that I want to get rid of.
Many people I have come across are leading the life that I have led years ago. And gradually I discovered that lack of purpose in life (or anything else for that matter) is always and will always be at the top of the list of failure.

Lack of ambition to aim high - People who are not happy at where they are and yet are unwilling to aim high above mediocre and pay the price of success, will never be happy. I have seen them, they will whine about their work, about their boss, about everything and anything under the sun. But they aren't willing to work on it, to find out how to get ahead of the pack.
When told of what they could have done so that they could get out of the rug, they will come up will excuses for not able to do it. No success will ever befall on those who lack the ambition to aim high above the mediocrity.

Insufficient education - This is a handicap, which can be overcome with ease. How many times have you read or heard of successful people having little or no educational background? Experience has proven that the best-educated people are often those who are known as "self-made" or self-educated. In times like these, college degree alone is no longer sufficient to bring you to the top.

Education consists, not so much of knowledge, but of knowledge effectively and persistently applied. We are paid, not merely for what we know, but more particularly for what we do with which we know.

Lack of self-discipline - Self-discipline comes from self-control. This means you need to control all the negative qualities you believe you have. Self-control, though is a skill, will be one of the hardest skill you will ever learnt. However, if you do not conquer yourself, yourself will conquer you.

Ill health - No one can enjoy outstanding success without good health. Many causes of ill health is the result of poor self-control. Some of the examples that contribute to ill health are
- Overeating
- Wrong habits of thought
- Smoking
- Lack of proper physical exercise
- Drinking

Unfavorable environmental influence - Most people who have tendency to commit crime acquire them as the result of bad environment and improper associates during childhood.

Procrastination - One of the most common causes of failures. Procrastination is the deferment or avoidance of an action or task and is often linked to perfection. Most people failed in life because they are waiting for the 'time to be right'. The thing is, the time will never be right. Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.

Lack of persistence - There are many good 'starters', but very few finishers of everything they begin. They will begin something with high hopes and enthusiasm but loss that excitement when they are facing the first sign of defeat. But we ought to learn that nothing substitute the lack of persistence. And those who know this discovered that failure has no way in coping persistence.

Negative personality - There is no hope of success for a person who repels others through negative personality. Not many realize this; success is attained through the cooperation efforts of other people. A negative personality will not induce cooperation.
Above are 10 reasons that may have stopped you from achieving happiness, attaining success. Look through it and see if you have possessed any of them. If you have, ask yourself "what will you do to overcome them?"

What is Guillain-Barre syndrome(GB- Syndrome) "

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Introduction
Guillain-Barre syndrome is an uncommon inflammatory disorder in which your body's immune system attacks your nerves, typically causing severe weakness and numbness that usually starts in your extremities and quickly worsens. Eventually your whole body can become paralyzed, even the muscles used for breathing.

The exact cause of Guillain-Barre syndrome is unknown, but it sometimes is triggered by a respiratory infection or the stomach flu. Luckily, this potentially deadly disorder is relatively rare, occurring worldwide in only one or two people per 100,000. All age groups can be affected, but it occurs most often in young adults and the elderly.

In its most severe form, Guillain-Barre syndrome is a medical emergency requiring hospitalization. About 30 percent of the people who have the disorder will temporarily need the help of a machine to breathe.

There is no cure for the disorder, but several treatments can ease symptoms and reduce the duration of the illness. Most people recover completely from even the most severe cases of Guillain-Barre syndrome.

Nerve and myelin sheath

Guillain-Barre syndrome destroys the protective covering of the peripheral nerves (myelin sheath), disabling the nerves from transmitting signals to the muscles

Good Manners Are Key to Your Success

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Do you like people who are rude to you? Do you mind if someone interrupts you? Are you happy when people ignore you?
Of course not. No one likes bad manners.
People with bad manners are rejected. They do not get the good jobs or the promotions. Their businesses do not succeed.
People with good manners are accepted. They are liked and supported. They have more friends, luck and success.
"In a culture, manners are the lubrication that ease the frictions of social contacts." -- L. Ron Hubbard
When you improve your manners, you improve your chances for success.
12 Examples of Good Manners

1. Be polite to everyone you meet. You will never regret being too polite, but you might regret being rude. For example, when you go on a sales call or job interview, be courteous to receptionists and assistants as they can affect your chances of succeeding.

2. Use the magic words as often as possible: "Hello," "Please," "Excuse me," "Sorry" and these two most important words: "Thank you."

3. Use good manners in all of your communications. Examples:
Return telephone and e-mail messages within 24 hours.
Do not use swear words or vulgar words.
If you receive a rude message, do not respond with rudeness, but be polite.
Do not interrupt people.
Make sure people are ready to listen to you before you start talking.
Talk less than 50% of the time.

4. Leave generous tips for food servers, luggage handlers, auto valets, hairdressers or barbers who do their jobs.

5. Use good manners as a driver. Weaving in and out of heavy traffic and cutting in front of other cars only gains you a few seconds of time. If you are courteous, patient and calm, you arrive safely and more relaxed.

6. Do not blow your nose, use toothpicks or perform other bodily activities in front of guests or people you respect. Never smoke around a non-smoker.

7. Show your appreciation at every opportunity, even for small things. "Thank you for returning my call." "Your advice has been very helpful." "I appreciate your taking the time to meet with me."

8. Arrive on time or early for appointments. When you arrive late, you appear to be disrespectful, disorganized or both.

9. A good sense of humor is good manners. However, avoid jokes about race, disability, sex and so on. Tell clean jokes about yourself or pass on humorous stories that anyone would enjoy.

10. If someone treats you with bad manners, do not lower yourself to the same level. Smooth out the friction with your best manners. For example, "I'm sure you have a good reason to swear at me, but I think we can work this out so we're both happy. Can you take a minute and try?"

11. Before starting important conversations, meals or meetings, turn off your cell phone. Ignoring people while you chat on your cell phone is disrespectful. You can probably leave your cell phone off for hours with no lasting harm.

12. Do not try to show off or prove you are more important than others. This is called "one-upmanship" and is poor manners. For example, a friend is excited about meeting an important scientist. You immediately "top" him and tell about the time when you met a much more important scientist. Instead, share your friend's excitement without bringing up your own story.

As you improve your manners, you will enjoy more support, admiration and respect from everyone around you.

it was just yesterday...

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Day before yesterday i was born...
I saw a lovely world

My life is so incomplete...

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Life is a lovers dream, a sweet memory that stay afresh forever and ever without growing old by a single day... This is a poem written by Moon, for all the lovers to dance in the memory of their lovers...

Dedicated to true lovers (if there’s any…)

When you are not here to share my days and nights,

My life is so incomplete.

For you are my heart, my soul,

The ‘oneness’ I had known to seek.

Without you I merely exist from day to day,

With you I know that I will find.

All that I have been searching for

My completeness, my eternal peace of mind.

You are the keeper of my dreams

The man who holds my heart in his hands

The one I want to spend my life with

The one with whom I always stand.

Stand beside thru thick and thin

Thru all that life will throw our way

Knowing that this special love we share

Will guide us each and every day.

This journey was started long ago

Before this time and place

The journey of completeness

As two heart and souls embrace.

Forever is what I want with you

For the search is at an end

Our hearts have found each other

As lovers, as soul mates, as friends…

BY: Moon

HOW TO TAKE `SPOKEN` WORDS BACK !!

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Communication Recovery – Six Step Model

Have you ever said something unintentionally offensive & wished you could take it back? You know how awkward it feels when communication goes awry - it does very often. Even with the best of intent to be correct, you say things biased or objectionable. You may ignore it & hope no one notices. (It does get, for sure!) Or, you can employ a strategy for recovery.

“Communication Recovery” involves accepting your mistake, sincerely apologizing, & then moving on in a more positive way. This skill is underutilized. When things go wrong in communication, many shy away from trying to recover, are afraid things may become worse, don’t know what to do. The good news is Communication Recovery is possible, not difficult to do, & has a big payoff.

Communication Recovery allows you to acknowledge mistake – when you have unintentionally demeaned, discounted, or hurt others. Gives you a chance to rebuild communication with listener(s) & enhance credibility. The process includes 6 quick steps & takes 30 seconds or less. It is painless.

1. Accept the Feedback – Give some sign that you are open to input - listening & thanking the listner.

2. Acknowledge Intent & Impact – most important thing is to recognize negative impact of your statement or behavior on the listner, regardless of your good intent.

3. Apologize – Say “I’m sorry” or “I apologize,” and do so sincerely.

4. Ask Questions for Clarification – If you don’t understand the feedback you’re given, ask questions for greater clarity.

5. Adjust/Change – State/demonstrate what you will do differently, clear sign you’ve accepted the feedback & not to repeat offense.

6. Move Forward – Recovery is a quick process. You don’t need to linger. Move on once the listener is ready.

Of these, Acceptance of feedback & apologizing is most powerful. In its simplest form, recovery sounds like this:“Thanks for telling me. I’m sorry.”

Letter from President of India... Are we listening to his advice?

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Here is an eye opener from our President of India. Let us be positive and do sewa for our society & country:

Why is the media here so negative?
Why are we in India so embarrassed to recognize our own strengths, our achievements?
We are such a great nation. We have so many amazing success stories but we refuse to acknowledge them. Why?
We are the first in milk production.
We are number one in Remote sensing satellites.
We are the second largest producer of wheat.
We are the second largest producer of rice.
Look at Dr. Sudarshan, he has transferred the tribal village into a self-sustaining, self-driving unit. There are millions of such achievements but our media is only obsessed in the bad news and failures and disasters.
I was in Tel Aviv once and I was reading the Israeli newspaper. It was the day after a lot of attacks and bombardments and deaths had taken place. The Hamas had struck. But the front page of the newspaper had the picture of a Jewish gentleman who in five years had transformed his desert into an orchid and a granary. It was this inspiring picture that everyone woke up to. The gory details of killings, bombardments, deaths, were inside in the newspaper, buried among other news.

In India we only read about death, sickness, terrorism, crime. Why are we so NEGATIVE? Another question: Why are we, as a nation so obsessed with foreign things? We want foreign T.Vs, we want foreign shirts. We want foreign technology.

Why this obsession with everything imported. Do we not realize that self-respect comes with self-reliance? I was in Hyderabad giving this lecture, when a 14 year old girl asked me for my autograph. I asked her what her goal in life is. She replied: I want to live in a developed India.
For her, you and I will have to build this developed India. You must proclaim. India is not an under-developed nation; it is a highly developed nation. Do you have 10 minutes? Allow me to come back with a vengeance.

Got 10 minutes for your country? If yes, then read; otherwise, choice is yours.
YOU say that our government is inefficient.
YOU say that our laws are too old.
YOU say that the municipality does not pick up the garbage.
YOU say that the phones don't work, the railways are a joke, The airline is the worst in the world, mails never reach their destination.
YOU say that our country has been fed to the dogs and is the absolute pits.
YOU say, say and say. What do YOU do about it?
Take a person on his way to Singapore. Give him a name - YOURS. Give him a face - YOURS.
YOU walk out of the airport and you are at your International best. In Singapore you don't throw cigarette butts on the roads or eat in the stores. YOU are as proud of their Underground links as they are.
You pay $5 (approx. Rs. 60) to drive through Orchard Road (equivalent of Mahim Causeway or Pedder Road) between 5 PM and 8 PM. YOU come back to the parking lot to punch your parking ticket if you have over stayed in a restaurant or a shopping mall irrespective of your status identity...
In Singapore you don't say anything, DO YOU? YOU wouldn't dare to eat in public during Ramadan, in Dubai. YOU would not dare to go out without your head covered in Jeddah. YOU would not dare to buy an employee of the telephone exchange in London at 10 pounds (Rs.650) a month to, 'see to it that my STD and ISD calls are billed to someone else.
YOU would not dare to speed beyond 55 mph (88 km/h) in Washington and then tell the traffic cop, 'Jaanta hai main kaun hoon (Do you know who I am?). I am so and so's son. Take your two bucks and get lost.' YOU wouldn't chuck an empty coconut shell anywhere other than the garbage pail on the beaches in Australia and New Zealand.
Why don't YOU spit Paan on the streets of Tokyo? Why don't YOU use examination jockeys or buy fake certificates in Boston??? We are still talking of the same YOU. YOU who can respect and conform to a foreign system in other countries but cannot in your own. You who will throw papers and cigarettes on the road the moment you touch Indian ground. If you can
be an involved and appreciative citizen in an alien country, why cannot you be the same here in India?
Once in an interview, the famous Ex-municipal commissioner of Bombay, Mr.Tinaikar, had a point to make. 'Rich people's dogs are walked on the streets to leave their affluent droppings all over the place,' he said.
'And then the same people turn around to criticize and blame the authorities for inefficiency and dirty pavements. What do they expect the officers to do? Go down with a broom every time their dog feels the pressure in his bowels? In America every dog owner has to clean up after his pet has done the job. Same in Japan.

Will the Indian citizen do that here?' He's right. We go to the polls to choose a government and after that forfeit all responsibility. We sit back wanting to be pampered and expect the government to do everything for us whilst our contribution is totally negative. We expect the government to clean up but we are not going to stop chucking garbage all over the place nor are we going to stop to pick a up a stray piece of paper and throw it in the bin. We expect the railways to provide clean bathrooms but we are not going to learn the proper use of bathrooms.

We want Indian Airlines and Air India to provide the best of food and toiletries but we are not going to stop pilfering at the least opportunity. This applies even to the staff who is known not to pass on the service to the public. When it comes to burning social issues like those related
to women, dowry, girl child! and others, we make loud drawing room protestations and continue to do the reverse at home. Our excuse? 'It's the whole system which has to change, how will it matter if I alone forego my sons' rights to a dowry.' So who's going to change the system? What does a system consist of ? Very conveniently for us it consists of our neighbors, other households, other cities, other communities and the government. But definitely not me and YOU. When it comes to us actually making a positive contribution to the system we lock ourselves along with our families into a safe cocoon and look into the distance at countries far away and wait for a Mr.Clean to come along & work miracles for us with a majestic sweep of his hand or we leave the country and run away. Like lazy cowards hounded by our fears we run to America to bask in their glory and praise their system. When New York becomes insecure we run to England. When England experiences unemployment, we take the next flight out to the Gulf. When the Gulf is war struck, we demand to be rescued and brought home by the Indian government.

Everybody is out to abuse and rape the country. Nobody thinks of feeding the system. Our conscience is mortgaged to money.

Dear Indians, The article is highly thought inductive, calls for a great deal of introspection and pricks one's conscience too.... I am echoing J.F. Kennedy's words to his fellow Americans to relate to Indians.....

'ASK WHAT WE CAN DO FOR INDIA
AND DO WHAT HAS TO BE DONE TO MAKE INDIA
WHAT AMERICA AND OTHER WESTERN COUNTRIES ARE TODAY'

Lets do what India needs from us. Inform this to each Indian for a change instead of passing unnecessary gossips...

Thank you,
By: Dr. Abdul Kalaam (PRESIDENT OF INDIA)

how to survive a heart attack...

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Let's say it's 6.15pm and you're going home (alone of course), after an unusually hard day on the job. You're really tired, upset and frustrated. Suddenly you start experiencing severe pain in your chest that starts to radiate out into your arm and up into your jaw. You are only about five miles from the hospital nearest your home. Unfortunately you don't know if you'll be able to make it that far. You have been trained in CPR, but the guy that taught the course did not tell you how to perform it on yourself.

HOW TO SURVIVE A HEART ATTACK WHEN ALONE
Since many people are alone when they suffer a heart attack, without help, the person whose heart is beating improperly and who begins to feel faint, has only about 10 seconds left before losing consciousness. However,these victims can help themselves by coughing repeatedly and very vigorously. A deep breath should be taken before each cough, and the cough must be deep and prolonged, as when producing sputum from deep inside the chest.

A breath and a cough must be repeated about every two seconds without let-up until help arrives, or until the heart is felt to be beating normally again. Deep breaths get oxygen into the lungs and coughing movements squeeze the heart and keep the blood circulating. The squeezing pressure on the heart also helps it regain normal rhythm. In this way, heart attack victims can get to a hospital. Do try to read and understand this practice and also tell as many other people as possible about this. It could save yours and their lives!!

I love her, but I'm just too shy

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I came across this really touching poem, and wish to share with everyone, so that to learn to express yourself at the right time before you you lose time and regret for the rest of your life...

As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me.
She was my so-called "best friend". I stared at her long, silky
hair. I wished she were mine, but she didn't notice me like that.
And I knew it. After class she walked up to me and asked me
for the notes she had missed the day before, and I handed them to her.
She said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to
tell her. I wanted her to know that I don't want to be just
friends. I love her, but I'm just too shy. And I don't know why.

11th Grade

The phone rang. It was her on the other end. She was in tears,
mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She
asked me to come over because she didn't want to be alone, so I
did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes,
wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, a Drew Barrymore movie,
and three bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep. She looked at
me, said "thanks," and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell
her. I want her to know that I don't want to be just
friends. I love her, but I'm just too shy. And I don't know why.

12th Grade
The day before prom she walked to my locker. "My date is sick,"
she said. He's not going to go. Well, I didn't have a date and
in 7th grade we made a promise that if neither of us had dates we
would go together just as "best friends," so we did. Prom
night after everything was over I was standing at her front door
step. I stared at her. She smiled at me and stared at me with her
crystal eyes. I want her to be mine, but she doesn't think of me like
that, and I know it. Then she said, "I had the best time, thanks!"
and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her. I want her
to know that I don't want to be just friends. I love her, but I'm
just too shy. And I don't know why...

Graduation Day
A day passed. A week passed. A month passed. Before I could
blink, it was graduation day. I watched as her perfect body floated
like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be
mine, but she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. Before
everyone went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and she cried
as I hugged her. Then, she lifted her head from my shoulder and
said, "You're my best friend, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the
cheek. I want to tell her. I want her to know that I don't want to be
just friends. I love her, but I'm just too shy. And I don't
know why…

A Few Years Later
Now, I sit in the pews of the church. She is getting married, now.
I watched her say, "I do" and drive off to her new
life, married to another man. I wanted her to be mine but she didn't see me
like that, and I knew it. But before she drove away, she came to me
and said, "You came!" She said, "thanks!" and kissed me on the
cheek. I want to tell her. I want her to know that I don't want to
be just friends. I love her, but I'm just too shy. And I don't
know why...

Funeral
yrs passed, and I looked down at the coffin of the girl who
used to be my best friend." At the service they read a diary entry
she had wrote in her high school years. This is what it read: I
stare at him wishing he were mine. But he doesn't notice me like
that, and I know it. I want to tell him. I want him to know that I
don't want to be just friends. I love him, but I'm just too shy, and

I don't know why. I wish he would tell me he loved me…

i wish I did too…
i thought to myself, and I cried...

A VOICE FROM THE WOMB : SMOKER'S SPECIAL

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A PLIGHT TO SAVE THE NEXT GENERATION!

Benefits of Oats:

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1. Eating oat regularly will lower your blood cholesterol level

2. Buy and eat oats if you're feeling sad. It's a natural antidepressant - will make you feel calmer and normally used to treat depression, anxiety and nervous disorder

3. Unrefined oatmeal can be eaten on regular basis to reduce stress while cooked oats will relieve fatigue

4. Because of its high fiber content, the other benefit of oats is in protecting us from bowel cancer.

The use :

1. A bowl of oat porridge with a spoonful of honey makes a calming breakfast for a child in the morning before an exam

2. If you suffer from constipation, try eating raw oats before looking for any drugs.

3. Oatmeal bath ( a form of water therapy) will help heal eczema and other skin conditions

A Nice Article about Love: (by Swami Vivekananda)

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I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were
sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand
with some water and held it before me, and said this: "You see this
water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love."

This was how I saw it: As long as you keep your hand caringly open and
allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you
attempt to close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will
spill through the first cracks it finds.

This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love...they
try to posses it, they demand, they expect... and just like the water
spilling out of your hand, love will retrieve from you .

For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature. If there are
people you love, allow them to be free beings.

# Give and don't expect.
# Advise, but don't order.
# Ask, but never demand.

It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to
truly practice. It is the secret to true love. To truly practice it, you
must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an
unconditional caring."

Passing thought... Life is not measured by the number of breaths we
take; but by the moments that take our breath away.....

Life is beautiful!!! Live it!!!

"I Will Remember that person Not As The One Who Broke My Heart, But As
the One Who Taught Me, How To Live With A Broken Heart and how to love !!!!! "

YOU CAN MAKE SUCCESS HAPPEN

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You cannot do everything, but you can do something.
Your success is but a determined action away.
Your life will always be what you make of it.
Your thoughts and actions will lead you to success or failure.
So the keys to your success and fortune are in your hands.
Always accept the responsibility for your actions.
Always set a higher standard for yourself.
No one is going to do it for you.
Only you can make it happen.

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Have I Told You Lately...

Have I told you lately how much I need you ?!?
Have I told you lately how much I care??
Have I told you lately I love you ?!?!
and do you know I will always be there!!!!

As I started my day today
my thoughts went to you
and I thought how thankful I was
to know you are there!

Everything I do ..
I do for you
All my hopes and dreams
are based on you!

My heart has never felt so full
as it does now with you
I have not one doubt
of how very much I love you!!

I will do everything I can
to be there for you
anytime you need me
Just call out my name

Have I told you lately how much I love you ?!?!
... well, I am telling you now that
it is more numerous than the stars...
and much deeper than any ocean ..
and higher than the highest mountain top
found anywhere on earth!

DON'T MAKE YOUR THOUGHTS YOUR PRISONS

2008-06-01T01:15:00.004+12:00

You're more important than any of your problems.
What you have outside you counts less than what you have inside you.
Courage gives you the power to face your difficulties.
It comes from the reserves of your mind
that are more powerful than your outside circumstances.
Your obstacles will look large or small to you
according to whether you are large or small.
Courage gives you the capacity to confront what can be imagined.
It gives you the ability to rise above your present reality.
Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear,
not absence of fear.
When you recognize that you're bigger than your problems,
you'll gain the courage necessary to overcome anything.

Difference between Focusing on Problems and Focusing on Solutions
Case 1
When NASA began the launch of astronauts into space, they found out that the pens wouldn't work at zero gravity (ink won't flow down to the writing surface). To solve this problem, it took them one decade and $12 million. They developed a pen that worked at zero gravity, upside down, underwater, in practically any surface including crystal and in a temperature range from below freezing to over 300 degrees C.
And what did the Russians do...?? They used a pencil.

Case 2
One of the most memorable case studies on Japanese management was the case of the empty soapbox, which happened in one of Japan 's biggest cosmetics companies. The company received a complaint that a consumer had bought a soapbox that was empty. Immediately the authorities isolated the problem to the assembly line, which transported all the packaged boxes of soap to the delivery department. For some reason, one soapbox went through the assembly line empty. Management asked its engineers to solve the problem. Post-haste, the engineers worked hard to devise an X-ray machine with high-resolution monitors manned by two people to watch all the soapboxes that passed through the line to make sure they were not empty. No doubt, they worked hard and they worked fast but they spent whoopee amount to do so.

But when a rank-and-file employee in a small company was posed with the same problem, he did not get into complications of X-rays, etc., but instead came out with another solution. He bought a strong industrial electric fan and pointed it at the assembly line.. He switched the fan on, and as each soapbox passed the fan, it simply blew the empty boxes out of the line.

Moral:

1.. Always look for simple solutions...

2.. Devise the simplest possible solution that solves the problems...

3.. Always focus on solutions & not on Problems...

'A Leader Should Know How to Manage Failure'

2008-06-01T01:03:00.001+12:00

'A Leader Should Know How to Manage Failure' (Former President of India APJ Abdul Kalam at Wharton India Economic forum, Philadelphia , March 22,2008)

Question: Could you give an example, from your own experience, of how leaders should manage failure?

Kalam: Let me tell you about my experience. In 1973 I became the project director of India 's satellite launch vehicle program, commonly called the SLV-3. Our goal was to put India 's 'Rohini' satellite into orbit by 1980. I was given funds and human resources -- but was told clearly that by 1980 we had to launch the satellite into space. Thousands of people worked together in scientific and technical teams towards that goal.

By 1979 -- I think the month was August -- we thought we were ready. As the project director, I went to the control center for the launch. At four minutes before the satellite launch, the computer began to go through the checklist of items that needed to be checked. One minute later, the computer program put the launch on hold; the display showed that some control components were not in order. My experts -- I had four or five of them with me -- told me not to worry; they had done their calculations and there was enough reserve fuel. So I bypassed the computer, switched to manual mode, and launched the rocket. In the first stage, everything worked fine. In the second stage, a problem developed. Instead of the satellite going into orbit, the whole rocket system plunged into the Bay of Bengal . It was a big failure.

That day, the chairman of the Indian Space Research Organization, Prof. Satish Dhawan, had called a press conference. The launch was at 7:00 am, and the press conference -- where journalists from around the world were present -- was at 7:45 am at ISRO's satellite launch range in Sriharikota [in Andhra Pradesh in southern India ]. Prof. Dhawan, the leader of the organization, conducted the press conference himself. He took responsibility for the failure -- he said that the team had worked very hard, but that it needed more technological support. He assured the media that in another year, the team would definitely succeed. Now, I was the project director, and it was my failure, but instead, he took responsibility for the failure as chairman of the organization.

The next year, in July 1980, we tried again to launch the satellite -- and this time we succeeded. The whole nation was jubilant. Again, there was a press conference. Prof. Dhawan called me aside and told me, 'You conduct the press conference today.'

I learned a very important lesson that day. When failure occurred, the leader of the organization owned that failure. When success came, he gave it to his team. The best management lesson I have learned did not come to me from reading a book; it came from that experience.

2008-06-01T00:30:00.003+12:00

My Dearest Love

Where do I begin to express how I feel

and define my emotions, so honest and real?

With my pen in hand, I struggle in thought

and holding this in, such pain it has brought.

To love from afar is so bittersweet,
hiding true feelings, remaining discrete.

To hold you in daydreams is how I've survived

but reality still whispers, "I feel so deprived".

So darling just know, as my words start to flow

I'm writing to you from my daydreams' plateau.

It's only on that cloud, I'm free to express

and find enough courage to finally confess.

Each night in my dreams, when slumber sets in

that's when I hold you and our world begins.

My arms wrap around you and off we then soar

to land on a cloud and begin to explore.

I imagine your touch as a warming embrace
I remember your sweet smile time cannot erase.

Unshackled in dreams, your lips search for mine,
as our passion ignites, words cannot define.

With boundaries discarded, no measure of time
the love found in our world, no less then sublime.

My hands cup your face with a gentle carress

as these emotions for you, I try to express.

As I close this letter, know this without doubt

you are the one my heart dreams about.

But again I lose courage, today's not the day

I'll place this letter where all the others lay.

love and be loved...

2008-05-31T23:45:00.006+12:00

IF LOVE IS GREAT AND THERE ARE NO GREATER THINGS,
THEN WHAT I FEEL FOR YOU MUST BE THE GREATEST!

Always remember in some way or another you are somebody's Angel, even you don't know it...
The best kind of friend is the kind you sit on the porch and swing with, never say a word, and than walk away feeling that it was the best conversation that you've ever had...
As long as we have memories, Yesterday remains, As long as we have hope, Tomorrow awaits, As long as we have friendship, Each day is never a waste...
Don't say we aren't right for each other, the way I see it, We aren't right for anybody else...

People...

2008-05-31T01:35:00.003+12:00

People judge.
People hate.
People do lots of stuff.
One thing people don't do is:
THINK
They judge you
They call you names
They can make you feel worthless,

Another thing people don't do is
Consider your feelings
They don't care what they said or if it made you feel bad
One thing they cant do even if they wanted
Is bring me down to there level
They cant make me feel bad about myself
As hard as they try they cant get to me by words, actions, or even groups
So go ahead and try but it wont work

But what do i mean to you?
I'm considering your feelings,
It doesn't mean that i'll respect them,
But i promise you this,
Every time i see you, i'll say hi,
or at least think about it.
every time that you see me,
i'll see you do the same.

but what do i mean to you?
do you even know me?
do you know where i'm standing in life right now?

i did it,
i did something big,
something no one has even dreamed about doing.
and i left one thing behind me:
no regrets.

I will consider your feelings,
and most likely, ill respect them.
But does that make me your best friend...
or does that make me a no-one
that just said a few words of respectableness.

whatever i am to you....ill respect it,
ill make whatever i am to you, the best you've ever had:

one piece of advice for you is:
People
People can judge.
People can hate.
People can do lots of stuff.
One thing people don't do is:
THINK
They can judge you
They can call you names
They can make you feel worthless,

But don't let those kind of people get to you.
Don't stand down.
Don't be someone else to impress yourself.
Don't do something unnecessary to make people like you,
because in the long run,
they wont appreciate you for lying to them.

but then again...

who am i?
who am i to be telling you what to do?
who am i to be telling you how to live your life?

let me tell you this,

i am who you think i am.
i am who you want me to be.
and remember,
whatever i am to you, ill make it the best you ever had.

a gal's heart!

2008-05-31T01:03:00.002+12:00

If you look inside a girls heart,
you'd see how much she really cries,
you'll find hidden secrets,
best friends,
and lies,
but what you'll see the most is
how hard it is to stay strong when
nothing's right and everything's wrong.

a salute for every gal!

2008-05-31T00:35:00.002+12:00

To every girl that is scared to put her heart out there again
because she has been hurt too many times or so badly.
To every girl that has been cheated on
because she's not a slut who gives it up to any guy.
To every girl that dresses cute,
not skanky.
To every girl who wants to be called beautiful,
not hot.
To every girl that will spend her whole day
looking for the perfect present for you.
To every girl who gets her heart broken
because he chose that bitch instead.
To every girl that would die to have a decent boyfriend.
To every girl who would just once like to be treated like a princess.
To every girl that cries at night because of another heartbreak.
To every girl that won't get down on her knees and open her mouth just to get a boyfriend.
To every girl that just wants to hold hands.
To every girl that kisses him with meaning.
To every girl who just wishes he cared more.
To every girl who would just once want a guy
to give their jacket up when they are cold.
To every girl who just wants him to call.
To every girl who lies awake at night thinking about him.
To every girl that just wants to cuddle.
To every girl that just wants to sleep with him without having sex.
To every girl who shows how much she cares and gets nothing back.
To every girl that thought
"maybe this one could be the one".
To every girl that laughs at stupid stuff
when she actually doesn't think it is funny.
To every girl who is just looking for that one and only
and is having a rough time along the way.
To every girl that doesn't want a guy
who just plays with her emotions,
but actually cares about how she feels.
To every girl who wants words backed up with actions.
To every girl that fell for all the lies
only to find themselves alone in the end.
To every girl that gave her heart away to have it shoved back in her face.
To every girl that has faith that tomorrow will be a better day.
And it will be.

the angel of my dream!

2008-05-30T23:19:00.000+12:00

The Ocean of Love...

2008-05-29T21:29:00.006+12:00

Love is in the Air...thats what all the poets feel and express with their pen and putting their thoughts and feelings into writing, giving it a life to see the beauty the world holds...Here is another piece of words from a lovers mind...

The sun was about to set,
the day when I came to meet you,
but a flash of golden rays sparked by the smile of you,
that made my life glitter.

The walk with you made me feel,
that you walk with me,
a thousand miles in my life.
The care you took for me ,
made me sail in the ocean of love.

The reason I call you is to say,
that here is a ship loaded with care,
love and affection that wants to sail,
in your ocean of love and care for a thousand miles.
By: Prashanth

Sahara Tribal Women Jailed for Adultery

2008-05-29T20:51:00.003+12:00

(WOMENSENEWS)--Pregnant women and single mothers are languishing in a secret detention center in Tindouf, a southwestern province in Algeria, charges Brahim El Selem. "It is made out of mud bricks . . . You can't see the jail because it is a hole between two hills."
El Selem says the women's detention center--which he says he visited three or four times--confines almost 30 women, some with toddlers. The structure's zinc roof provides minimal protection from the Saharan desert heat, he adds.
The women's offense? Sex outside marriage, a crime often leading to jail-sentences for men and women in Muslim countries.
El Selem says he is a former police officer with the Polisario Front, an independence movement backed by Algeria in its decades' long fight with Morocco over the Western Sahara.
El Selem says women in this jail can leave under only two situations. One is when her child turns 2. The other is if a member of the Sahrawi community agrees to marry her. Marriage for single mothers is so improbable that he says that option is rarely exercised. Although one woman, he says, did resort to marrying a mentally retarded cousin to get out.
He says he visited the prison for unwed mothers while on patrol duty. Some of the women, he says, were rape victims who continued to suffer sexual abuse at the hands of their guards.
El Selem spoke with Women's eNews in an interview at the Moroccan Mission to the United Nations in New York while he was in New York and Washington earlier this month as part of a delegation sponsored by the Moroccan Center for American Policy, a Washington-based lobby of Morocco's King Mohammed VI, a U.S. military ally and trading partner. Morocco has had administrative control over most of the Western Sahara, a mineral-rich former Spanish colony, since 1976.

Territorial Dispute
El Selem's former employer, the Polisario Front, is an independence movement that has fought for control over the Western Sahara against Spain, Mauritania and Morocco.
The armed dispute between Morocco and the Polisario Front has displaced tens of thousands of Sahrawis, nomadic tribes in the Western Sahara, into Polisario-controlled refugee camps in Algeria.
Morocco and the Polisario have been engaged in a war of words since a ceasefire ended armed conflict in 1991.
"Since the shooting stopped there's been a propaganda war about human rights said Eric Goldstein, senior researcher for Human Rights Watch Middle East and North Africa division in New York. "With the Polisario trying to portray Morocco as brutal occupiers and Morocco trying to portray Polisario as a bunch of dead-ender, washed up, Stalinist revolutionary puppets of Algeria."
Nonetheless, Goldstein thought El Selem's account was worth consideration. "They are on tour sponsored by the Moroccan government. But what they have to say is worth listening to."

Aid Calculations
Moroccan critics say that Sahrawis refugee camps impose harsh conditions on residents and that Polisario leaders smuggle and sell intended aid intended for the refugees. In the absence of an up-to-date census, the United Nations calculates aid for 91,000 while Algeria--which supports the Polisario Front--calls for supplies for 156,000 refugees.
El Selem's delegation, which included six former Sahrawi refugees that left the Sahrawis camps for Morocco in 2008, visited congressional representatives, media outlets and Human Rights Watch in New York.
While calling attention to the charges of abuse at the women's detention center, the delegation's main goal was to urge a U.N. census of the camp population and repatriation protocol for anyone who wants to leave a Polisario-controlled camp and return to Morocco.
When asked for his reaction to El Selem's account, Goldstein challenged the allegation of secrecy. He said Polisario leaders invited him to visit a detention center for single mothers and adulteresses during a trip to the region last November. "The authorities told us about it. It is in no way a secret prison."
"Certainly conditions in the camp are harsh," said Goldstein. "But I didn't investigate this prison, so I don't have contradictory information or information that would corroborate what they (the Sahrawi delegation) told us." He said that he declined an invitation to visit the women's detention center because it fell outside the scope of his mission. But Goldstein has since followed up on rumors of this center and says he will visit the center at the next available opportunity.
Mouloud Said, the Polisario representative in Washington, D.C., categorically denied El Selem's allegations of a detention center for unwed mothers. "I've never heard about this. This kind of allegations are not ones that you can have substantiated 5,000 miles from the place."

Report in Coming Months
Human Rights Watch will issue a report on the conditions of Sahrawis on both sides of the border in the next few months and will further investigate the women's detention center in future trips.
"Concerning mothers with children born out of wedlock" Polisario Justice Minister Hamada Salmi wrote to Goldstein in a letter dated May 6, "this matter concerns certain sexual acts that are considered crimes because they affront public modesty as per the traditions of our society and the religious upbringing of our children."
Adultery and sex outside marriage, the letter said, are crimes punishable with one to five years under articles 169 and 170 of Polisario's penal code. Women and men found guilty serve time in single-sex detention centers.
Mothers and their children typically spend one or two years until they can be "reintegrated into society." The minister's response also suggested that women were kept for their protection from so-called honor crimes, in which women are killed for committing acts that shamed their family or community.
The same letter--Goldstein provided Women's eNews with an unofficial translation--said that the women's center is called Center for Maternity Assistance because it looks after the personal health of the woman and her unborn child. The center also protects both her and her child from any unwanted attack and provides mandatory instructional therapy sessions to help them move on from their difficult circumstances.
Polisario authorities, Goldstein says, have been vague about whether the detained women have been convicted of crimes and are serving sentences or being held without a trial ostensibly for their protection from the community. However, he says, they did admit to having four-to-five cases of these women per year.
"We oppose women behind bars for adultery, and we oppose women behind bars for their protection unless they want that protection," Goldstein said. "It is the responsibility of authorities to protect women if there is problem of honor crimes in the community without locking them up to do so."
By Dominique Soguel - WeNews correspondent & Women's eNews Arabic Editor

Feminism : My Journey So Far

2008-05-29T20:44:00.004+12:00

I came into blogging quite accidentally. Before that, I barely ever used the word, “Feminism”. One could say that I had a very narrow viewpoint. For me, feminism was comprised by women who practically wore it on their sleeves - those who were out there fighting for women rights and equality. I had never bothered or even cared to look deep into it because I never felt the need for it.
But I began to see things differently once I started blogging, and even more when I started taking it seriously. Starting from causal posts, I gradually moved on to more important topics. Reading the blogs of other women inspired me to research and write on social stigmas such as, child marriages, domestic violence, live-in relationships, the plight of Afghani women, homosexuality in India, etc.
Blogging compelled me to think about issues and incidents that never had an effect on my personal life, but meant a great deal to my country and its people. Being a woman, writing and discussing the status of women in the Indian society came naturally. And somewhere along the journey, I was tagged as a feminist writer. Honestly, I have no complaints or regrets over this. Feminism has given me a separate identity, something that many take ages to create.
The interpretation of feminism differs from woman to woman, society to society and country to country. In my opinion, feminism is something very personal, some are comfortable in expressing it, whereas some are happy with just containing it within themselves. It is all about making the best possible use of the rights and choices available. It is about striving to achieve the impossible; it’s about using resources to create some breathable space in our society. And it’s everything to do with freedom.
I am not the sort to accept everything that is thrown at me in the name of feminism. I am aware of incidents of women and support groups, who exploit the rights and benefits given to them by society & the government and go about preaching anti-men sentiments. But one needs to understand that these women in no-way represent feminism or feminist values and they more aptly fall under the category of - “sexist”. It is simply the case of separating the bad apples from the good ones.
Blogging not only enhanced and nurtured my views on feminism but it also made me use these very views in a constructive form and put them in action. For example, creating awareness of the workers’ plight in India through my post on Akbarally’s Workers Dispute. If the same post was written by a male blogger then he would have been called an activist, but here I am being identified as a feminist. Doesn’t this fall on the lines of double standards adopted by certain members of our freethinking society?
Feminists come in all different shapes, colors and sizes and genders! I know men who support and fight for women’s causes. To me they are feminists too. Feminism for me boils down to just two basic necessities; being a good human being and the right to use my freedom as and when I choose. A good humanist is also a good feminist. The two terms can be interchangeable to a great degree.
And therefore I can proudly claim that I am a Feminist.
* This write-up was written especially for DesiPundit’s 1st Anniversary, needless to say, not many were happy with the views.
BY: Saakshi O. Juneja

...All I see is you.

2008-05-28T23:02:00.006+12:00

I came across a lover who adore's his sweetheart so much, and except her he see's nothing. These are his words for the girl he desires for...

remember the day,
the way we spoke,
I'd told you in my calls,
your smile so sweet to me,
But now when I hear you,
you sound that you are in me,
sometimes I feel so alone,
but when I close my eyes...
...All I see is you.

As all I do is think of you...
As I've hungered,
For your loving smile,
As I need your love so badly,
Now till the end of life,
I am waiting for you with open heart,
To embrace you with wings of love,
To hold you deep within my soul,
I do want you to know...
I will always love you,

That you are the girl of my dreams,
The one I have searched all my life,
That every day, more and more,
I'm falling deeply in love with you!
I dream only of your love,
and happiness in life,
I try not to think of you,
but when I close my eyes...
..All I see is you.

Authored By:
Jannam

LOVE HAS NO LIMIT....... .....

2008-05-28T22:52:00.003+12:00

Moon sent me this sweet story which really touched my heart...hope you like it as well...

While Dad was polishing his new car, his 4 yr old son picked stone & scratched lines on the side of the car.
In his anger, Dad took the child's hand & hit it many times, not realizing he was using a wrench.
At the hospital, his child said "Dad when will my fingers grow back?"
Dad was so hurt.
He went back to car and kicked it a lot of times.
Sitting back he looked at the scratches, child wrote "I LOVE YOU DAD"

Anger and Love has no limits...

PROOF OF RAMAYANA

2008-05-28T21:54:00.006+12:00

Ashok vatika where Ravana kept Sita

The Ravana Palace which was burnt by Hanuman

Sugriva Cave

Sanjivani Mountain from where Sanjivani Booti was acquired to save Lakshman which has many exotic herbs even now

Floating Stone from Ramasethu (bridge made by Lord Rama & Vanara sena)

Ramasethu

Without your love, I would die

2008-05-28T20:37:00.005+12:00

if this doesn't touch u.....you're heartless

One night a guy & a girl were driving home from the movies. The boy sensed there was something wrong because of the painful silence they shared between them that night. The girl then asked the boy to pull over because she wanted to talk. She told him that her feelings had changed & that it was time to move on. A silent tear slid down his cheek as he slowly reached into his pocket & passed her a folded note. At that moment, a drunk driver was speeding down that very same street. He swerved right into the drivers seat, killing the boy. Miraculously, the girl survived. Remembering the note, she pulled it out & read it.
"Without your love, I would die."

Understanding Women!

2008-05-28T19:57:00.002+12:00

The first face……
The first touch….
The first love……
The first affection…
The first hug……
Mother……………..A women.

Do I need to say about “the first” anymore??

And what is the common traits among Indira Nooyee, Mira Nair, Medha Patkar, Naina Lal Kidwai, Kiran Mazumdar Shaw ????

They all belong to that minority community which has always faced the axe of male domination. But now the path has taken a dramatic change. Women are not participating and in fact actively contributing toward the tremendous growth of Indian Economy. Whether it is the case of Indian Women Army facilitating a peace mission in Liberia or the case of Kiran Majumdar Shaw showing entrepreneurial and developmental fore sight of Biocon, all are there to give the male dogma a shiver in their spine. The only community to withstand a blow of Sati, house violence, sexual harassments and the status quo of “Burqa Clad” community. The veil has fallen and now the globe is witnessing a participative role of women in each and every field of man dominated work.

Who can guess the name behind the successful running of ICICI in India? Lalita Gupta and Kalpana Morparia…….the women of Honor have proved their worth in a million better ways than those men who always believed women as a homemaker rather a fortune maker. Women in top management positions are still a rare species. But things are changing and more and more women are heading teams and delivering results. Women at the top are still rare. Globally, they comprise only 10 per cent of senior managers in Fortune 500 companies, less than four per cent are in the uppermost ranks of CEO, president, executive vice president and COO and less than three per cent of them are top corporate earners.

Then there are two women who have had to display their leadership skills at a young age. Priya Paul became the president of Apeejay Surrendra Group at the age of 24 when her father was assassinated in 1990. Sulajja Firodia Motwani, managing director of Kinetic Motor, has ensured that in the past six years her company has collaborated with firms in Korea, Italy and Taiwan and has helped it grow from a niche moped maker to a manufacturer of a full range of two wheelers and auto components.

Another sector in today`s India that can boast of female leadership is technology. Since joining Microsoft India as its managing director in 2005, Neelam Dhawan has helped it grow 35%.

Now let us take a look at what data says about this community, which is still to come into the mainstream of the business fully and are still a latent resource.

The report, ‘XX factor: the Impact of Women on India’s Growth, Incomes and Consumption’, says, more women entering the workforce could add $35 billion to GDP over the next five years, lifting incremental demand by 10%. This trend could make Indians 5% richer than otherwise projected by 2015 and 12% richer by 2025. It is an interesting trend, and one that has largely passed under the radar. This trend has started to make a play of sorts in India. To start with, women employment has risen from 26% in 2000, to 31% of the workforce today. While this is in no way comparable to the situation in countries like Vietnam, China and Thailand, the rise is significant.

India`s booming IT and IT-enabled services industry is a favorite destination of job-seeking women, whose employment in the industry is set to rise dramatically to 45 percent in 2010 from the current 30 percent, says an industry survey.

A survey by National Association of Software and Services Companies (Nasscom), the representative organisation of the Indian software firms, says this is due to the inclusive human resource policies of Indian IT firms, which recruit, train, retain and promote women employees as a strategic business plan.

`As the IT-ITeS sector moves up the value chain, more women are joining the industry. The male-female ratio is expected to improve to 65:35 by this year-end from 76:24 in 2005’. (Nasscom president Kiran Karnik)

So why this trend is so fast about women? Why they are in limelight all of a sudden? Why the graph says a different story all together?

Management studies show that women`s style of functioning, which is essentially `interactive leadership`, involves several characteristics including encouraging participation from others, making inter-personal relations positive for the entire team or department, being able to share power and information with others, getting people passionate about their work and increasing people`s feeling of self worth.

This participatory style is not something that women `acquire`, instead increasingly it is being said that it comes to them naturally due to their inherent ability to nurture and take people along. There are also other things that come naturally to women. As Neerja Sharma, General Manager and Company Secretary, Ballarpur Industries Limited points out, "Women are a lot more organised and their commitment levels are higher. They also plan their job more efficiently and are more effective in delivery.``

Sue Evans, who was earlier with Gillette in the United Kingdom, recalls that one of her best bosses was a woman. " I remember watching her carefully, but very cleverly manipulate the men at a meeting and bring them to agree with her point of view. However, her maneuvers were not political and I really respected her for the way she did it.``

In 2003, in one of the most-reprinted Dataquest articles ever, columnist Deepa Kandaswamy had written about “talibanism in technology”: why women have remained invisible in technology through the ages. “I have found seven reasons,” she wrote, “social myths, conditioning, media, networking, deterrence, balance and marketing.” So how relevant is a statement like this today? Says Indrani Ghose, VP, IT, Oberoi Group, “After 17 years in the industry, I think that the glass ceiling for women in technology still exists to a large extent and it will be a while before people are ready to shed their stero-type images of suitable jobs for women.”

One of the strongest skills in women managers is their ability at multi-tasking. Women are used to performing different roles and struggling with different tasks at the same time, in the kitchen, at home and also at work. "She`s adept at keeping a lot of balls in the air and juggling around the tasks she has to perform, this gives her an added advantage.”

And perhaps that`s where the truth lies. Women are great managers but very few make it because of not being ambitious enough or because it`s primarily `a man`s world`. On the other hand, men find them aggressive when they are only assertive and getting the job done. Why they are so different:

· Women leaders are highly persuasive

· Women leaders feel the sting of rejection but rapidly learn
from adversity and develop an "I`ll show you" attitude

· Women leaders have an inclusive team oriented style of
problem solving and decision-making

· Women leaders are more likely to ignore rules and take
risks"

If the women are so talented and nurturing personality then why they can’t be treated at par with men?

Can there be a world where both of these lives can prosper together, can co-exist? Can they be called as “Ardh Shakti”?

Think………………!